#91 The Momference Minis: Marissa Nelson on Sex After Kids and Keeping Play Alive

About this episode

Lauren Berty interviews Marissa Nelson about maintaining intimacy and playfulness in relationships after having children.

This spring, That Twin Mama took her mic to The Momference® — the premier, three-day gathering for Black and Brown millennial moms, powered by District Motherhued®. In a weekend built to nourish, uplift, and celebrate #BlackMomMagic, Lauren sat down with powerhouse moms, thought leaders, and healers to bring you these bite-sized, heart-full episodes straight from the DC mom squad that’s rewriting what community care looks like. In this mini episode, Lauren cozies up with the brilliant Marissa Nelson — award-winning sex therapist and founder of IntimacyMoons Couples Retreats — for a real talk about sex after the babies arrive. From scheduling sex (yes, we’re doing it!) to non-sexual touch, awkward butt grabs, and why “playing” isn’t just for kids, they break down how modern couples can keep closeness, pleasure, and that delicious sense of anticipation alive — even when the house is chaotic and you’re all touched out. In this episode you’ll hear: Why scheduling sex isn’t unsexy — it’s survival How couples lose the “play” and how to get it back The power of non-sexual touch and staying close when you’re exhausted Marissa’s wisdom on making pleasure a priority, not a perk 💛 Marissa…

People in this episode

Host: Lauren Berty

Guest: Marissa Nelson

Topics covered

• sex after kids
• couple intimacy
• parenting challenges
• non-sexual touch
• playfulness in relationships
• Black and Brown millennial moms

Keywords

• sex therapy
• couples retreat
• intimacy
• parenting
• relationship advice
• Black Mom Magic
• scheduling sex
• non-sexual touch

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: District Motherhued, IntimacyMoons Couples Retreats, The New York Times, Women’s Health, Fodor's Travel

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