The Art of Becoming Visible

What if the life you want isn't waiting for you to become someone new—but to finally give yourself permission to become more fully you? In this episode I sit down with leadership strategist and Reinvention Road Trip creator Jes Averhart for a powerful conversation about reinvention, visibility, confidence and letting go of the beliefs that keep us small. Jes shares how she went from refusing to speak into a microphone for more than 20 years to becoming an international speaker—and why looking back at your own "highlight reel" can give you the courage to take your next bold step. We also talk about designing ourselves back into our own lives, embracing the changes that come with midlife, and remembering that you don't need a whole new life—you need the courage to live more fully into who you already are. If you've been feeling the pull toward something more, this conversation is your invitation to stop waiting for permission. This Episode Explores: ● Why reinvention isn't about becoming someone new—it's about becoming more fully YOU. ● The invisible beliefs that can keep us playing small for decades—and how to finally break free from them. ● How to stop designing yourself out of your own life and start reclaiming what makes you feel alive. ● Why you don't need anyone's permission to be seen or step boldly into what's next. Join me for my Flagship Course, Find Your Signature Style: https://www.thevisibilitystylist.com/Find-Your-Signature-Style Take the FREE Signature Style quiz now and discover your archetype: https://www.thevisibilitystylist.com/ Connect with Jes Averhart here: https://www.jesaverhart.com/ Follow her on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jesaverhart/ Join me over on ​​https://substack.com/@theartofbecomingvisible/ Come join us in the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theartofbecomingvisible/ Follow me on IG https://www.instagram.com/marymicheleofficial/

What if the only thing standing between you and the life you want is the belief that you have to earn your place in it? In this deeply moving conversation, Crissy Fishbane shares how surviving a life-changing accident at sixteen transformed the way she saw herself—and why so many women spend their lives trying to prove they're worthy instead of simply taking up space. Together, we explore courage, visibility, perfectionism, and why confidence isn't something you have before you begin—it's something you build by showing up. If you've ever felt like you were playing small, waiting until you were "ready," or wondering if you belong, this episode is for you. In This Episode, We Explore… ● Why confidence is built through action—not before it—and how messy beginnings are the price of becoming visible. ● The hidden belief that you must prove your worth before taking up space, and how to finally let it go. ● How courage, curiosity, and self-expression can transform the way you show up in your life and the world. My guest today is Crissy Fishbane, a speaker, educator, and co-founder of HER Health Collective who helps people move beyond perfectionism, pressure, and the need to prove their worth so they can build lives grounded in courage, curiosity, connection, and belonging. Drawing from her own extraordinary story, a background in psychology and education, and years of experience building thriving communities, Crissy inspires audiences to redefine success and create lives that feel deeply meaningful—not just impressive on the outside. Crissy's StyleFinder ID is Sporty/Natural with a touch of Whimsical, a beautiful reflection of her approachable, grounded nature and the playful curiosity she brings to every conversation. She has a gift for making people feel safe enough to let down their guard, while gently encouraging them to step more fully into themselves. In this conversation, we talk about what it really means to take up space, why so many women struggle with the need to prove their worth, and how courage isn't something you're born with—it's something you build one small, brave step at a time. Let's dive in. Connect with Crissy here: https://herhealthcollective.com/ and https://crissyfishbane.com/ Follow Crissy on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/crissyfishbane/ Join the waitlist for the Signature Presence Experience: https://www.thevisibilitystylist.com/your-signature-presence Take the FREE Signature Style quiz now and discover your archetype: https://www.thevisibilitystylist.com/ Join me over on ​​https://substack.com/@theartofbecomingvisible/ Come join us in the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theartofbecomingvisible/ Follow me on IG https://www.instagram.com/marymicheleofficial/

There are moments in life that completely change the way we see ourselves—not because our circumstances change, but because our perspective does. My guest today is Nicole Phillips, a keynote speaker and five-time author whose work centers on one powerful idea: what you look for is what you see. A former TV news anchor and hospital chaplain, Nicole now helps audiences rewrite the stories they're living by. She hosts The Kindness Podcast, named one of the top happiness podcasts by Oprah Magazine, has appeared on NBC Nightly News, the Hallmark Channel, and HGTV's House Hunters, and has shared her message with more than 30,000 people across 200-plus speaking events. But her own transformation began with one unexpected encounter at a neighborhood swimming pool with a girl in a gold bikini. What started as a simple act of kindness became the catalyst for overcoming addiction, negative self-talk, burnout, and self-rejection, ultimately leading her to a life of greater joy, purpose, and impact. In this conversation, you'll discover: ● Why the stories we tell ourselves shape the lives we create ● How to stop rejecting yourself before the world ever has the chance to say yes ● The surprising lesson that taught Nicole about happiness, and the one question that has the power to shift everything. If you've ever struggled with confidence, visibility, or believing your voice truly matters, this episode will inspire you to see yourself—and your life—through an entirely new lens. Take the FREE Signature Style quiz now and discover your archetype: https://www.thevisibilitystylist.com/ Follow Nicole Phillips here: https://nicolejphillips.com/ Get her book, The Negativity Remedy, here: https://amzn.to/3RnJFJa Join me over on ​​https://substack.com/@theartofbecomingvisible/ Come join us in the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/theartofbecomingvisible/ Follow me on IG https://www.instagram.com/marymicheleofficial/

You can tell a lot about a woman by her closet—and even more by how she carries herself. If your wardrobe is full of 'someday clothes,' if you hide behind black because it feels safer, or if you keep waiting until the weight comes off to buy something you love… that's not style, that's self-abandonment. The truth is, the way we dress, the way we see our bodies, and the way we show up in the world all reflect one simple choice: are you choosing yourself—or not? In this episode, I'm breaking down 10 powerful signs you're not choosing YOU, and how it's quietly draining your style, your body image, and your confidence. Because until you stop abandoning yourself, you'll never feel fully alive in your own skin. It's time to reclaim your voice, your wardrobe, and your worth—starting right here. Ready for Your Midlife Reset? If this message speaks to you, then you already know it's time to stop waiting and start choosing YOU. That's exactly what I help women do in The Midlife Reset — my transformational course designed to help you rediscover your style, reconnect with your body, and reclaim your confidence so you can finally live Wildly. We start 9/1/25 Sign up here: https://tinyurl.com/mymidlifereset Come join us in the Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/womenlivingwildlyalive Follow me on IG @marymicheleofficial and @WomenLivingWildlyAlive Read the blog on Substack: https://womenlivingwildlyalive.substack.com/