The Behaviour Coach Podcast

Meltdowns are one of the hardest parts of ADHD parenting and also one of the areas where understanding makes the biggest difference. In this episode I walk through what is actually happening in the brain during a meltdown, how meltdowns are different from tantrums, and what the full cycle looks like from buildup to tipping point to recovery. I share a story about my youngest daughter at an archery range that I think is going to make a lot of this click. I also cover the traffic light model, how to identify rumblings before they escalate, the know-plan-intervene framework for prevention, what to do mid-meltdown, and how to take care of yourself and your child after.If you want to go deeper on meltdowns, check out my Meltdowns Mastery audio course, available on a pay-what-you-can basis.Connect with me: Instagram: @behaviourcoach Newsletter: https://masterclass.neilsonmahoneycoaching.com/behaviourcoachpodcast

Your child wants to do the thing. They are excited about it. They have ideas. And they still can't start. In this episode I talk about the intention-action gap, why the ADHD brain runs on different fuel than the world expects, and what actually turns on motivation when importance alone doesn't work. I share a client story about a 12-year-old who couldn't start a large school project, a personal story about my daughter and a sewing project, and the five motivators that I come back to again and again in my coaching practice. If the word "lazy" has ever been used about your ADHD child, this one is going to reframe a lot.Mentioned in this episode: Dr. William Dodson (the interest-based nervous system)Dr. Ross Greene (kids do well if they can)Connect with me: Instagram: @behaviourcoach Subscribe to my Newsletter

This one is for you, not your child. Your nervous system matters just as much as theirs and your child is co-regulating off of you whether you realize it or not. I share what co-regulation actually looks like, why you don't need to be perfectly calm, and what to do when you're the one who's activated.In this episode:Why your child's regulation starts with yours The parent stress cycle and how we get caught in it What co-regulation looks like in real life Simple tools to interrupt your own stress responseConnect with me: Instagram: @behaviourcoach Sign up to my newsletter so you never miss an episode!

If your child is melting down, shutting down, refusing, or falling apart, that behaviour is telling you something. In this episode I talk about why behaviour is a message to understand, not a problem to fix, and how to start reading what your child's behaviour is actually communicating.In this episode: Why behaviour in ADHD is almost always a nervous system response The difference between a tantrum and a meltdown Common ADHD behaviours and what they might be communicating How to pause and observe before reactingMentioned in this episode: Dr. Ross Greene on "Kids do well if they can" Connect with me: Instagram: @behaviourcoach ⁠Sign up to my newsletter⁠ so you never miss an episode!