Ep. 165 May Monthly Mailbag

Ep. 165 May Monthly Mailbag

From The Dancing Housewife Podcast by Antoinette Datoc, also known as The Dancing Housewife

May 18, 2026 · 8 min · Season 4 · Episode 165

About this episode

In this episode, Antoinette Datoc addresses listener questions about managing anxiety and performance through cognitive techniques.

Ep. 165 May Monthly Mailbag In this month’s mailbag T Dancing Housewife answers a listener’s question about spiraling after mistakes and discusses the concept of catastrophizing - a cognitive distortion that turns small missteps into “disasters,” increasing anxiety and eroding confidence—especially under judging pressure. She emphasizes that one moment doesn’t define a heat, most people don’t notice what you obsess over, and judges focus on overall quality and consistency. She teaches the “three Cs” method—catch, challenge, change—plus an in-the-moment reset (name it, return to the body, give the brain a helpful job) and a post-competition cutoff ritual to close the loop and regain perspective and joy. 00:00 Mistake Spiral Mindset 00:25 Mailbag Question Setup 01:28 What Is Catastrophizing 02:02 Why Dancers Do It 02:50 How It Hurts Performance 03:28 Showdance Lifts Fear Loop 04:17 Bedtime Replay Trap 04:48 Reality Check Perspective 05:21 Three Cs Reframe Method 06:16 In The Moment Reset 06:39 Post Comp Cutoff Ritual 07:06 Wrap Up And Call To Action

People in this episode

Host: Antoinette Datoc

Topics covered

  • mistake spiral
  • catastrophizing
  • performance anxiety
  • dancer mindset
  • cognitive distortion
  • three Cs method
  • reset techniques

Keywords

  • mistakes
  • catastrophizing
  • anxiety
  • dancers
  • performance
  • three Cs
  • reset techniques

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