The Exposed Life Show

Mary Ann Otley knows what it's like when the floor falls out from underneath you. Molested by her father between the ages of 13 and 15, she spent decades numbing the pain — through work, alcohol, cocaine, and anything else that could quiet the acid-like anxiety in her chest.It wasn't until a retired missionary named Elsie sat across from her and asked four simple words — "what are you feeling?" — that everything began to change. That led to Mary Ann encountering Jesus in a life-changing way.Now Mary Ann leads Love Triumphs!, a ministry helping women and couples encounter Jesus in the raw, unfiltered places of their hearts through a process called Journaling with Jesus.----------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS✅ How molestation by her father shattered Mary Ann's sense of identity — and why she spent decades trying to reinvent herself instead of heal.✅ The four words that broke the dam: what a retired missionary asked that no one had ever asked Mary Ann before — and how it opened the door to her first real encounter with Jesus.✅ What Mary Ann saw in that prayer room: Jesus walking into the memory, pinning a nine-foot demon to the wall with a push pin, and flooding the room with light.✅ Why deliverance alone didn't work — and the wisdom of God in letting Mary Ann see Jesus fight for her instead.✅ How Jesus restored her identity one piece at a time: a gown that removed shame, a crown that restored dignity, a ring that restored belonging, and the words "you're my princess."✅ The full restoration story — how Mary Ann went from hating her father to praying with him weekly in the last year of his life.✅ What Journaling with Jesus is, how it works, and why it helps people hear God when nothing else has.✅ Why running to Jesus — not away from him — is the path out of sin, and how he responds to a stumbling child very differently than religion tells us he does.----------------------------------------QUOTES❝The more transparent I am with God, the more I experience Him.❝My problem was that I wanted things fixed. But God has a different plan. His plan is to guide me in love.❝He's not reacting to our sin. He's responding to a child that tripped up, was deceived, and wants to be set free.❝Without listening to God, healing is an event. When you do listen to God, healing is a lifestyle.❝Don't ask him what you should do. Ask him what he wants you to know. Most of the time, he wants to do the doing.❝If we just made room for Jesus, he'd blow our socks off.----------------------------------------RESOURCES➡️ Love Triumphs — Journaling with Jesus groups, couples sessions, facilitator training, and more: http://lovetriumphs.com➡️ Journaling with Jesus Book — 52 guided prayer sessions➡️ Come to Me Discipleship — 3-month discipleship on how to pray like Elsie➡️ Journaling with Jesus Facilitator Training — available every August----------------------------------------TAKE ACTIONIf you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at http://restoredministries.ca/armory.

Dr. Kim Kimberling has spent over 40 years as a counselor and marriage therapist helping people navigate the things the church often tiptoes around — including the devastating and lasting effects of sexual abuse.With nearly 4 million people reached through Awesome Marriage, Dr. Kim brings both clinical wisdom and deep faith to one of the most complex topics in human experience. He joins Matt to talk about what sexual abuse actually is, how it hides in plain sight, and what real healing looks like for survivors and their spouses.----------------------------------------HIGHLIGHTS✅ Why sexual abuse doesn't have to be violent to be real — and why the church's silence around non-violent abuse leaves so many victims without language for what happened to them.✅ How unaddressed abuse goes dormant for years, then surfaces in marriage — sometimes as early as the honeymoon — through avoidance, shutdown, and broken trust.✅ The lie that it's your fault, and the simple but powerful reframe Dr. Kim uses with survivors to help them see themselves the way God does.✅ How male victims of female abusers experience unique confusion — and why cultural messaging makes it even harder for men to come forward and get help.✅ Why the "why did God allow this?" question is valid — but why getting stuck there blocks the healing that God actually has for you.✅ What spouses of survivors need to hear: believe them, don't minimize it, don't try to fix it, and let them lead.✅ Forgiveness as freedom — why it's a process, not a transaction, and why it has nothing to do with making what happened okay.----------------------------------------QUOTES❝Most sexual abuse is perpetrated on someone by somebody that the victim knows and probably trusted to some extent.❝God didn't design abuse. But sometimes people use the freedom God gives us to do horrible things.❝When you look at what Jesus did — how he was betrayed and stripped and violated — he's not a distant God that doesn't understand.❝When we bring things into the light, the shame that goes along with that loses its power.❝When you forgive, you set a prisoner free — and then you realize it was you.❝Letting go doesn't mean what that person did was okay at all. It gives you the freedom you deserve.----------------------------------------RESOURCES➡️ Awesome Marriage — courses, social media, podcast, and more: awesomemarriage.com➡️ The Awesome Marriage Podcast➡️ Marriage Undefiled Course (featuring Restored Ministries) at restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled----------------------------------------TAKE ACTIONIf you're struggling with sexual sin, pornography, or betrayal and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

Bonnie Pue of The Union Movement has written the book parents didn't know they were waiting for — a practical, biblical, and deeply honest guide to talking with your kids about sexuality before the world does it for you. Bonnie and her husband Bryan, parents of six boys, bring theology, storytelling, and a lot of lived experience to one of the most avoided conversations in Christian homes today.HIGHLIGHTS✅ Why talking to your kids about sexuality isn't one big conversation — it's a series of small, age-appropriate moments you capitalize on as they come.✅ How the enemy specifically targets sexuality because it bears the image of God — and why parents need to move from defense to offense.✅ The real reason parents stay silent: not because they lack love, but because nobody had the conversation with them either.✅ Practical tools for starting the talk — including a dinner table game that had six boys squirming and laughing at the same time.✅ Why fear makes parents either helicopter or disengage — and how to find the confident middle ground.QUOTES❝If it's always tomorrow, it's never going to happen.❞❝I don't just want this to be an information transfer — I want people to connect with God himself and invite the Holy Spirit into this journey.❞❝The voice of the parent needs to be the strongest voice on this topic, through attachment and relational development with their son or daughter.❞RESOURCES➡️ Awkward by Bonnie Pue — available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Audible, Kobo, and Google Play. Search "Awkward Bonnie Pue"➡️ The Union Movement — resources, events, and more: unionmovement.comTAKE ACTIONIf you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

Ian Shire of Authentic Intimacy has spent years helping people ask the question the church often avoids — what does God actually have to do with sex? Not just as a rule-giver, but as the one who designed sexuality to point somewhere.Ian brought his own story of pornography addiction that followed him from childhood into marriage and ministry, and he shows us why the healing journey only works when the Healer is actually in it.HIGHLIGHTS✅ Why sexuality isn't about intercourse — it's about the God-designed longing for deep knowing, union, and intimacy that points straight back to the Creator.✅ How Ian's pornography addiction followed him from age 10 all the way into marriage and ministry — and why better accountability never broke it.✅ The shift that changed everything: realizing this was an intimacy journey, not a behavior management problem.✅ What singles do with sexual desire — and why the church's marriage-obsession leaves them feeling invisible when the Biblical framework actually includes them fully.QUOTES❝This is so much more of an intimacy journey than it is a getting-my-life-right journey.❞❝We were all operating under the narrative that we just need better accountability. It's like a Chinese finger trap — the more you pull, the tighter it gets.❞❝Allow these physical longings to remind you of the spiritual longings God's placed in you.❞❝When we come into the light with Jesus, it is amazing to watch his response.❞RESOURCES➡️ Authentic Intimacy — courses, cohorts, hot topic kits, blogs, and more: authenticintimacy.com➡️ Rethinking Sexuality Book➡️ God, Sex, and Your Marriage Book➡️ Surrendered Sexuality on Right Now Media➡️ Seven Myths About Singleness by Sam AllberryTAKE ACTIONIf you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

Free webinar here: A Heart Made WholeKristy Rodriguez, Executive Director of Hope After Betrayal, was a pastor’s wife when his affair got publicly exposed.Hear Kristy share her journey from discovering her husband's sexual betrayal to experiencing profound healing in Christ.Kristy opens up about the "nuclear fallout zone" of betrayal — the shattered trust, rewired memories, public shame, teenage daughters caught in the fallout, and a crisis of faith that shook her to the core. She shares how Jesus met her in that darkness, not with judgment, but with the same tenderness he showed Doubting (Traumatized) Thomas.Kristy went from a group participant to volunteer facilitator to Executive Director at Hope After Betrayal. Her story shows that pain doesn't get the final say and that God can turn ashes into beauty.Key MomentsDescribing the devastation of betrayal: "like a nuclear fallout zone."The shrapnel of betrayal — shattered trust, rewritten memories, public fallout, and daughters caught in the crisis.Identifying with the suffering of Jesus through the suffering of betrayal.Moving from pain's point of view to God's point of view.How triggers become invitations — naming trauma to reclaim authority over it."Why did God allow this?" — the question God redirected through the lens of Calvary.The two sides of forgiveness — personal and relational — and why bad theology hurts betrayed partners.Forgiving not just the deed, but the impact — grieving the pre-trauma version of herself.Quotes"Pain carries a point of view. It carries with it a message — and the enemy wants the pen of pain to control your story.""Calvary is our guarantee that our suffering has an expiration date.""Trauma doesn't get to have the final say. It doesn't get to be the end of our stories.""Triggers aren't a weakness. They're an invitation — how do I step into intimacy with God right now?""Forgiveness isn't something I had to muster up in my own strength. I just had to partner with what God had already done.""I'm not the pre-trauma version of myself — but I'm not the post-traumatic version either. A new phoenix has risen from the ashes."ResourcesHope After Betrayal for wives and partners impacted by sexual betrayal. Visit: hopeafterbetrayal.com forHealing Help Groups (12-week online support groups)Alumni book studies for continued healingMentor program — trained peer supportersHope in a Box curriculum — turnkey group curriculum for churches and communities (updated edition coming end of March/early April)Workshops for pastors and ministry leaders90-minute forgiveness webinarTake ActionIf you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory. Experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted lives of countless men around the world.Restored Ministries helps men and women find freedom from sexual sin and walk in sexual integrity through Biblical teaching, community, and coaching.

Brittni De La Mora was in the adult film industry for seven years and won awards for her work. Through it all, Jesus chased her down.The problem was, pimps, money, and drugs chased her as well and in this episode, Brittni describes what life was like before and after meeting Jesus while in the industry that threatened to take her life.You'll hear about Jesus meeting actors in the industry, what actually happens behind the scenes that the average viewer doesn't know about, and the challenges she faced trying to normalize life after coming out of the industry for good.Brittni talks about her new mission: Jesus Love Porn Stars. You can find books and resources from her and her husband, Richard, and Love Always Ministries.To conquer porn for good, visit restoredministries.ca/gethelp.