The Family Captain

Today we're exposing the LIE that has sadly seeped into Jesus' church. The lie that emasculates men, masculinizes women, makes families miserable, and minimizes God's good distinctions.We're going to blow up the nice guy issue plaguing the church. We're going to focus on the righteous fruit that the Scriptures want for us instead of the cultural perversions so prevalent today. And gentlemen, all of this is so that men, women, and children, can experience God's good design for marriage and family. God's design is a win-win where nobody loses, and where HE gets the glory.It's time to stop being the emasculated Nice Guy and start to become a Good Man.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:59 What has the church done to men?3:08 Why "Nice Guys" aren't nice8:21 Why wives RESENT Nice Guys13:28 Keeping your wife on her toes19:13 If you let your wife run your household...22:49 Why asking for permission KILLS her desire for you36:33 How to get your masculinity back40:58 If she pushes backMentioned:No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004C438CW/---👉 Want The Family Captain To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Feminism has subtly rooted itself in most marriages today. And yes, probably your marriage, too.Men and women who truly love the Lord are settling for meh, or even miserable, marriages...all because they've let demonic, feminist lies infiltrate their lives.In this episode, we'll break down how to identify and start to push back against feminist lies, how to bring peace to your wife by leading as a godly, masculine husband, and what the Bible ACTUALLY says about marriage, men, and women.This one will have immediate application for most marriages, so buckle up.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:44 Feminism in Christian Marriages6:29 Covert Feminism14:31 Leading AGAINST culture19:08 If your wife was taught male leadership is dangerous...21:58 Why feminists feel threatened by us27:04 What the Bible reveals30:29 Bringing peace to your wife34:05 Is submission only because of The Fall?41:21 How to become the man she trusts47:37 The SECRET to a happy marriage---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain ---Addiction stops many husbands from taking their life and their family to the next level.Inside the Family Captain, we're (accidental) experts on crushing addiction.I say accidental, because we never explicitly talk about it.We don't have curriculum that helps our clients defeat addiction.Our program simply creates so much momentum in men's lives that they don't have time or desire to do the things they used to cope or numb with.Internet lust. Gambling. Drinking. Scrolling. You name it.Many of our clients have come to us after and told us they broke free from the grips of addiction because of everything else we helped them put in place.This episode starts that process for YOU.No 12 step programs, just a solid 3 step plan to help you live the life you want to live, and addiction naturally crumbles.In This Episode:0:00 Intro0:56 Big Shift #14:22 Husband 1.0 vs 2.010:43 Can You Even Level Up If You're Stuck in Addiction?19:00 Big Shift #231:43 Sports and Food40:17 Big Shift #345:42 First StepMentioned:Death by a Thousand Lies by Blaine Bartel: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0692104860---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

"My wife loves me...but she doesn't WANT me."This is something we hear all the time from men here at The Family Captain.You're doing life really well together, you're operating as a team, you're friends with one another...But sex is irregular and infrequent, and you have a hard time telling the difference between what a "wife" means versus what a "good friend" means.This episode helps to change all of that.You'll learn some tactical stuff, but you'll also learn the thing underlying all of it that makes all the difference.Oh, and stick around to hear why we coach men to literally never ask for sex from their wives ever again.--👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:07 The WRONG Way To Think About The Problem14:08 Warm and Fuzzies vs. Hot and Bothered16:11 Friend vs Roommate Marriage20:09 Pursuing vs Pressuring30:37 If You've Stopped Asking38:29 The Pout41:34 What To Do Tonight---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/-- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Most modern men think that the spectrum of respect they can expect from their wife goes from 1 (blatant disrespect) to 6 (neutral).We're here to tell you that neutrality is NOT respect. Respect LOOKS like something. It's not just the absence of disrespect.From 3 godly women in the Bible to countless specific examples guys can probably relate to, our job in this episode is to provide a framework and pray that God gives you revelation for what respect actually looks like in a marriage, and how to become the man who makes it EASY for your wife to obey God by respecting you.It's time to level up.--👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ --In This Episode:0:00 Intro3:18 The Levels of Respect10:27 Culture Creep Into the Church14:35 Why Neutrality is NOT Enough18:35 Sexual Distance and Respect?21:10 How To Tell If You're Not Being Respected24:58 Make It Easier For Your Wife To Respect You35:26 What Are You Missing?38:24 Biblical Examples of Respect52:04 The First Step To Success54:57 The 3 Solutions To Be Respected58:34 WARNING---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

It's alarming how many Christians miss this particular element that God designed when it comes to your marriage.We're talking about ATTRACTION."I love my wife and she loves me and the Bible says she shouldn't deprive me sexually!"Well, OK, my brother, that's true. But you're missing a huge helping of wisdom there.Because what is ALSO true is that the Lord has designed sexual attraction to be a thing.And the more attractive you are to your wife, the more she's going to want you.And not just physically.The more ecstatic your marriage will be overall. More fun, more flirting, more joy, and yes, more intimacy.In this episode, we break down the top 5 most common things that KILL intimacy in a marriage.Listen, decide if you've got some vulnerabilities you can address, then get to work and watch as things change.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro3:07 How to initiate before bed (with example)9:11 Killer 1: Neediness14:20 I don't need my wife...I want my wife19:06 Killer 2: Stagnation24:30 The Kryptonite of Mastery28:23 Killer 3: Neglect36:51 Killer 4: Low Status50:13 Killer 5: Submitted Out Of Fear1:00:47 "My better half"---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

What we've found over the years is that there are basically infinite levels that a man can ascend as a family leader.Every time you think you've reached the top, you discover there's another 10, 100, or 1000 levels to you could get to, by God's grace.In this episode, we're breaking down 4 of the main levels we see guys coming into the Family Captain, and helping to give you some practical ways to get unstuck and to get to that next level.From start to finish, this is about going from zero, not really even paying attention to family leadership or improving your marriage and sex life, to absolute stud, building generational wealth...financially, relationally, and spiritually.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:53 The Dominion Mandate6:35 Waking Up and Buying Into God's Good Design 10:57 The Big Lie Keeping Most Guys Down15:54 50/50?19:28 "Pretty Good"24:59 The Comfort Kryptonite35:05 Doing a Lot, But Frustrated42:45 Do You Ever Get To A Point You Can Stop Doing The Things?44:17 The High Performer59:16 Legacy Limits---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain ---Making friends is hard for American men...even Christians.But does it have to be?This is a topic few people are willing to shed light on, so we figured we'd break it down so you can get a really clear idea of the types of friends, the types of friendship behaviour, and perhaps even how to find that ultimate "unicorn" friend we're all secretly hoping for.Learn about the 4 categories of friendship traits, how to find friends at this stage of life, and why the role of "Battle Brother" can change your life.In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:53 Losing a best friend9:45 The Presence Bro15:20 The Challenge Bro25:24 The Bearing Bro35:40 The Battle Bro42:26 How to find a brother45:34 The actual role of Battle Brother---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This episode is all about exactly how to talk to your kids about sex and God's good design for the marriage bed.We believe that dads need to be the primary discipler for their kids in every aspect of their lives, but particularly so in their sexuality. The enemy has wounded so many people in their childhood in sexuality, and it's not something you can afford to leave to chance, especially in our hyper-sexualized and perverted world.This one is highly tactical, but more importantly shows you another specific way to use the broad Family Captain principle of being on OFFENSE instead of DEFENSE.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:07 "The Talk" with your kids?3:44 Will I "steal their innocence"?7:02 What age to talk about things10:59 Options for conversations12:22 Talking about anatomy correctly18:03 Discomfort19:52 What's at stake (clip?)24:59 If you're "late" to the party28:57 Books and resources33:31 Go from defense to offenseMentioned:God's Design For Sex (series of 4 books): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00O5DIVTU/God Made All Of Me: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1942572301/---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

Gentlemen. It's a new year.Reflect on 2025, but more importantly, it's time to get your vision dialed in for 2026.This episode will help you do just that, BUT...Our advice probably isn't what you're expecting.We don't keep things surface level like the other videos or resources you might find out there for how to "win" the year. We're going foundational, because it's what we know ACTUALLY changes families, marriages, and lives.So if you're ready for 2026 to be THE year you become the greatest man your wife and your kids have ever known, press play and get ready to take action.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:59 Leading your family well into 20265:37 Vision vs. Tactics9:31 Gratitude11:57 Your REAL "Why"14:18 Your Standard21:28 God's word, not mine23:30 The enemy27:56 Your actual vision38:58 Vision with Brotherhood45:39 Your next step to winning 2026---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain ---Are you going to be as uncomfortable as JM during this episode?Honestly we hope you are. Because here's the thing...Most men have no freaking idea how sweet marriage and family life can be.They spend their hard earned money truck accessories, or a vacation.That might have a little, tiny bit of fruit.But guys there is a way to invest in your family that has GENERATIONAL fruit. For your life, for your wife's life, for your kids' lives, for your grandkids' lives...Our goal is to make you aware of that today. And if we have different values, that's cool.But we wouldn't be loving you if we didn't at least give a good, complete overview of what life COULD look like, if you're willing to take the plunge.In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:30 Lead with strength and love7:40 The incredible vision you can accomplish18:35 God's plan is so much greater than our plan29:58 Family Captain Vision35:31 Decision making and values54:14 Entitlement1:01:01 Gratitude1:07:22 Excuse killer ---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

This whole episode is Chris asking JM bite sized questions and containing the answer to just a couple minutes, like you might get with a speaker after he gets off stage.Want to learn how to initiate sex with your wife when she's not in the mood? How to have conversations when you're in crazy season? How to have more fun and be more joyful as a father? What ONE book JM recommends? What he recommends guys stop doing in marriage? This episode is a buffet of solid, practical, biblical answers to everyday marriage and family leadership issues.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠ ---In This Episode:0:00 Intro2:59 How to initiate sex when your wife's not in the mood6:24 Do the dishes?15:04 Meaningful conversation when everything is busy18:03 How to bring fun into fatherhood24:25 Don't feel attracted to my wife anymore30:45 How to stop escaping into addictions38:31 Rapid fireMentioned:Episode on Masculine Confidence: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IUuFRxfP2xIExtreme Ownership by Jocko Willink: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0739PYQSS/---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.

The culture and our own sin leads many men these days to accidentally masculinize their wives.In turn, their wives become less feminine, less sweet, less submissive...Husband and wife become more like "life partners".Nobody's happy, everyone's stressed, and no one knows why.Well, this is why.In this episode we'll unpack exactly how you're (accidentally) making your wife act like a man, and what to do about it, because our goal is to help you become the greatest man your wife and kids have ever known.When you unlock the levels of leadership we walk you through, you'll find your wife likely responding in more feminine, tender, open, helpful, and submissive ways.Let's dive in.---👉 Join Our Free FB Group on Family Leadership & Sex in Marriage: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/groups/thefamilycaptain⁠---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/---In This Episode:0:00 Intro1:15 How to know if your wife is being masculine?6:22 The cost of making your wife your "bro"9:06 TERRIBLE advice15:44 What if neither of you have the "soft" skills?26:31 Soften your wife as the protector35:07 Capacity for meanness45:44 Lack of provision creating chaos53:05 Missing leadership makes your wife masculine59:04 Loving your wife and kids how they need to be loved---👉 Want John Michael To Personally Help You Become The Best Man Your Wife And Kids Have Ever Known? Book A Free Assessment Call Here: https://thefamilycaptain.com/coaching/--- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheFamilyCaptain/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_family_captain/Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thefamilycaptainWebsite: https://thefamilycaptain.com/Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@familycaptain--- Nobody tells men that our lives will shift into autopilot without us noticing. They didn’t warn us that our marriage would drift into average instead of amazing. But Christians should have the best marriages and the best sex lives. The Family Captain will show you how.