The Good Girl Game Changers Podcast

What if your inner critic isn't the enemy and the real work isn't silencing it, but learning to be in a healthier relationship with it? In this episode, Evie and Chelle dig into the moments that have stayed with them since their conversations with Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Carol Dweck two years on — unpacking what self-compassion and growth mindset actually look like in the messy middle of real life, and sharing practices you can reach for anywhere, any time.3:30: Aha number one: the self-compassion and self-criticism seesaw, and the surprising "backdraft" effect, where practicing self-compassion can actually make the inner critic louder before it gets quieter8:10: Chelle shares what research with nearly 1,000 workers confirmed, and what Dr. Neff herself validated. 10:23: Tool one, soothe with touch: Evie introduces the science behind physical self-touch and leads a guided practice. 15:51: Chelle and Evie reflect on why the inner critic sounds the way it does, and how over two years of practice it has become genuinely more constructive18:12: Aha number two: redefining success through Dr. Carol Dweck's growth mindset research, and how "good girl" conditioning locks us into fixed, pass-or-fail definitions of our worth24:39: Tool two, the success checklist: five questions to redefine success in real time. 30:31: Aha number three: two years on, Chelle's unexpected insight — self-compassion works best not as a one-way rescue operation, but as a mutual relationship where the inner critic also learns to show appreciation and care33:50: Tool three, the ho'oponopono prayer: Evie introduces this ancient Hawaiian reconciliation practice and leads a guided exercise. 37:13: Chelle wraps up all three ahas and tools40:59: Post-episode debrief

Have you ever felt stuck between two impossible choices—speak up and worry people will think you’re too much, or stay quiet and lose touch with who you really are? This is what Dr. Carol Gilligan calls a crisis of connection—caught between staying connected to others and staying connected to yourself.[1:35] Carol shares the ‘good girl’ belief she’s shaking off.[2:44] Carol explains how her research into ‘good girl’ behavior began.[6:13] Chelle and Carol discuss how girls lose their voices by age 11.[10:56] Carol introduces “the tyranny of nice and kind.”[13:35] Carol explains how girls trade authenticity for approval.[17:14] Carol explains the link between patriarchy and women’s silence.[19:19] Chelle reflects on how ‘being good’ was taught as safety.[20:48] Chelle and Carol explore how patriarchy silences men’s voices and creates a crisis of connection.[28:34] Carol explains why empathy threatens hierarchies.[32:52] Carol shares why reclaiming our human voice is an act of resistance — essential for democracy, equality, and true connection.[34.25] OutroWant more?💗 DOWNLOAD THE FREE SELF-COMPASSION TOOLKITSelf-compassion research shows us that when we meet our struggles with understanding rather than criticism, we activate our brain’s natural caregiving system - allowing us to maintain high standards while releasing the crushing weight of perfectionism. Using the FREE framework—Feel it, Release it, Experiment with it, Evolve it—this toolkit will help you build self-compassion that is sustainable. Get your toolkit.📚 DISCOVER THE PERFECTLY IMPERFECT BOOKSIf you’ve ever felt pressured to be good, The Perfectly Imperfect Women’s Journal and The Perfectly Imperfect Companion Workbook will help you break free. With real stories, research-backed insights, and powerful exercises, these books will give you the confidence to trust yourself, set boundaries, and step into your own power. It’s time to rewrite the rules and start living on your terms. Get your copies now.💃 BECOMING UNIQUELY YOUBreak free from perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-doubt with the Uniquely You Workshop & Tools Bundle. Through three powerful workshops, you’ll gain the confidence to trust yourself, set boundaries, and lead with authenticity. With lifetime access, you can move at your own pace and start making real change today. Start your journey now.

As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of ⁠⁠⁠The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl⁠⁠⁠, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life.In this episode, we explore why protecting others from uncomfortable truths is not how we learn and grow.[0.01] Introduction[0.40] Chelle reads the storybook[1.13] Evie guides listeners through the tool Grab an Oxytocin Shot [3.00] Outro

As we continue celebrating the launch of our children’s version of ⁠The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl⁠, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life.In this episode, we explore why silencing our emotions is never worth the cost.[0.40] Chelle reads the storybook[1.12] Evie shares the tool, Breathe In Love[3.00] Outro

To celebrate the launch of the children's version of The Perfectly Imperfect Little Girl, we’ve recorded a short 5-minute video and podcast series that pairs each evidence-based a-ha moment from the story with a somatic practice designed to help you reconnect with your inner child, or to explore together with a little one in your life. In this first episode, we explore the question: When, where and with who, did you start believing your looks determined your worth? Be sure to join us in the somatic practice of the Woodchoppers Breath to cut through all those old ‘good girl’ beliefs.

When you micromanage your team, do you explain it away as your "controlling part" without making amends? When you snap at a friend, do you blame it on your "defensive part" and move on? Or do you find ways to both honor these parts of you while taking responsibility for how they affect others?[02:47] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 about Gabby's four-step check-in process for connecting with parts[10.21] Evie explains the "Notice, Know, Need" to help you get to know your parts better.[19:50] Chelle shares ah-ha #2 about Gabby's important reminder that we need to take accountability for our parts while honoring them[29:57] Evie introduces the "Speak, Reflect, Repair" tool to make it easier to take accountability for our parts when we huddle together.[35:51] Chelle shares ah-ha #3 and Gabby's caution about Self-like parts that can cause a spiritual bypass.[41:55] Evie provides a simple checklist to perform a Self-Signal Check In to check our Self-Energy is truly present[45:54] Chelle recaps the key ahas and tools from the podcast [47:22] Post-show reflection

When was the last time you felt tempted to walk away from someone in your community who thinks differently than you? Maybe they have opposing political views, communicate in ways that frustrate you, or prioritize values that don't align with yours. In a world that feels increasingly polarized, it's tempting to believe that drawing hard lines and protecting our territory is the only way forward.[2:09] Chelle recaps Episode 13 with Sophia Fifner, President/CEO of Columbus Metropolitan Club who drives bold conversations and strengthens civic communities.[4:03] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 on Sophia's insight that activism is not always loud.[7:30] Evie explains 'Uniquely You' tool - Paths to Change - exploring different activism styles from community building to rest advocacy.[17:29] Chelle shares ah-ha #2 on Sophia's LEAD framework for civic engagement: Learn, Engage, Act, and Develop community.[21:01] Evie outlines 'Uniquely You' tool - Find Your SPARK - identifying your Strengths, Passion, Approach, Resources, and Knowledge gaps for civic engagement.[25:24] Chelle shares ah-ha #3 on building bridges rather than burning them, especially with those who have different perspectives.[29:07] Chelleguides through the 'Uniquely You' tool - Compassion Bench Practice - an exercise to build bridges with those we disagree with.[43:54] Chelle summarizes the three ah-has and tools.[44:56] Behind-the-scenes conversation between Chelle and Evie.

How are you showing up in your most important relationships? We all have moments where the people we love the most get the worst version of us. Why? Because when things feel hard, our protective parts often leap into action. [1:59] Chelle recaps Episode 11 with Anna Milaeva, certified transformational coach and co-founder of FINO.[3:23] Chelle shares ah-ha #1 on Anna's explanation of Internal Family Systems (IFS) as a model of human transformation and healing.[6:35] Evie shares 'Uniquely You' tool - The Breath to Self - a gentle breathing technique to access self energy without forcing calm.[16:10] Evie shares ah-ha #2 on how connecting with self energy gives us choice to act from love rather responding with fear and judgment.[22:30] Chelle explains the 'Uniquely You' tool - Leading with Love - four ways to avoid judgment and choose compassion.[31:45] Chelle shares ah-ha #3 on Anna's insight that compassion is a powerful force for connection.[34:32] Evie outlines the 'Uniquely You' tool - The Repair Ritual - four steps to repair relationships after conflict.[42:15] Chelle summarizes the three ah-has and tools, reinforcing how we can build supportive huddles by bringing more self energy to our relationships.[46:01] Behind-the-scenes conversation between Chelle and Evie.