167 Why We Freeze at the Edge of What We Want | Barb Patterson

About this episode

This episode explores the reasons behind our hesitation to pursue our desires and how to navigate the edge between wanting and old conditioning.

We’ve all had moments when a want feels clear, alive, and true, and yet, when it comes time to move toward it, something inside of us hesitates, tightens, or stalls.In today’s episode, we explore that mysterious place, the edge, where our heart’s desire meets old conditioning, protection, and the parts of us that don’t yet feel free.What if the pause, the freeze, or the resistance isn’t a sign of failure, self-sabotage, or “not wanting it enough”?What if nothing is wrong at all?Together, we look at why so many of us struggle to move toward the very things we care about, how our minds try to solve what doesn’t need fixing, and what becomes possible when we meet that edge with presence instead of pressure.Rather than forcing ourselves through fear, what's possible when we learn to stay with ourselves long enough for something new to reorganize inside?If you’re standing at the edge of a want, a longing, or a next chapter, this conversation is for you.Thank you for listening to the Innerverse of Business and Life Podcast. For more resources like this, visit Barb's website at Barbarapatterson.com (https://barbarapatterson.com/).SHOW NOTES:[00:00] - Exploring the Nature of Wants[03:23]…

People in this episode

Hosts: Barb Patterson, Barb

Topics covered

• desire
• resistance
• self-discovery
• emotional complexity
• presence

Keywords

• self-sabotage
• freedom
• transformation
• longing

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