"The Hidden Emotion Ruining Your Relationships, Career, Everything! Why Shame Is The Real Problem"

About this episode

Annalie Howling discusses how shame is the root of suffering and its impact on relationships and personal growth.

In today's episode, trauma therapist Annalie Howling reveals why shame is the root of all suffering—and why everything else is just a band-aid. If you don't deal with shame, nothing else will work. From a violent childhood to peaceful parenting, Annalie shares her transformation through EMDR therapy, recovering from self-harm, and building an unapologetic life at 44. She opens up about postnatal anxiety that had her brain skipping to "she is dead" every day, the publishing nightmare that alm...

People in this episode

Guest: Annalie Howling

Topics covered

• shame
• relationships
• mental health
• trauma
• self-improvement
• parenting

Keywords

• shame
• trauma therapy
• EMDR therapy
• self-harm
• postnatal anxiety
• personal transformation

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