Show Up and Be HEARD: Understanding the 5 Communication Types with Jason VanRuler

About this episode

Mary Marantz and Jason VanRuler discuss the influence of past experiences on communication styles and explore practical tools for effective communication.

I n this episode, Mary sits down for a second time with her friend and fellow author, Jason VanRuler, to explore how our past shapes our communication styles and Jason's brand new book Discovering Your Communication Type . They discuss the 5 communication types based on the PATHS model, how to recognize and adapt to different styles, and practical tools for building stronger, more authentic relationships. It is one thing to finally get the courage to SHOW UP and share your voice. But it is a whole other level to show up and speak to people in a way that meets them right where they are! In this episode, you'll hear: An introduction to the five communication types: Peacemaker, Advocate, Thinker, Harbor, Spark How childhood experiences influence these communication styles The strengths AND weaknesses of each type The importance of both self-awareness and empathy in communication The impact of stress on the 5 Types Strategies for speaking to different types effectively (what to say, what NOT to say!) The role of attachment theory in what people say How to meet others where they are without watering yourself down Practical questions to improve understanding during conversations … and…

People in this episode

Host: Mary Marantz

Guest: Jason VanRuler

Topics covered

• communication styles
• self-awareness
• empathy
• relationships
• attachment theory
• stress impact

Keywords

• communication types
• PATHS model
• Peacemaker
• Advocate
• Thinker
• Harbor
• Spark

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Discovering Your Communication Type

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