The More Sibyl Podcast

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 침묵의 방 | The Room Nobody Talks About: On Sex, Shame and Christian Marriages — The One with Pastor Temi Areo | Episode 3 (2026) There is a room in most marriages that nobody talks about. Not the kitchen where the arguments happen. Not the living room where everything looks fine for visitors. The bedroom. The one that started full of something and somewhere along the line went quiet. No dramatic moment. Nobody planned it. It just happened.This episode I walked into that room with Pastor Temi Areo, co-lead pastor of Citizens of Light Church in Lagos, prophet, teacher, founder of a mentoring school, and author of several books including her newest, Undressing Sex. We did not tiptoe. The church has tiptoed for long enough.Here is what we get into:The three trouble spots almost every marriage runs into, and why couples can rarely tell you which one is actually doing the damage. The fire principle: why desire dies when you leave it alone, and what putting wood on the fire actually looks like in a real marriage. Pastor Temi's concept of expensive sex, and why leaving your own house might be exactly what saves it. What every husband should know about when sex actually starts for a woman. Hint: it is not at night, and it is not in the bedroom.The difference between sex as a binding agent and sex as a cop out. The line between softening a fight and skipping the conversation entirely. What 1 Corinthians 7 actually says about the marriage bed, the word defraud, and what it means to weaponize sex. Why God is not absent from your sex life, and the analogy that made it finally click.The shame so many women inherited from their culture. Why a lot of women in this part of the world do not orgasm, and why that is a cultural wound, not a body problem. The moment Pastor Temi got free of it herself. And the chapter of her own book that shook even her.Then a listener question from a young woman carrying vaginismus alone, with a response I hope reaches every woman who has ever been told her desire was dangerous.For every quiet room, there is a way back.Press play.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 암 너머의 인간| The One with Dr. Andrew Roth — Men, Medicine, and Meaning: The Emotional Landscape of Prostate Cancer| Episode 31 (2025)What does it mean to live well, even in the face of illness? How do we care for those navigating both the physical and emotional realities of cancer?In this episode of The More Sibyl Podcast, we sit down with one of the pioneers of psycho-oncology, Dr. Andrew Roth, Professor Emeritus of Clinical Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College and longtime attending psychiatrist at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center.Together, we explore the emotional ripple effects of a cancer diagnosis, how anxiety and shame often hide beneath stoicism, and why naming our fears can sometimes be the most courageous act of all. Dr. Roth introduces tools like the Distress Thermometer and MAX-PC (Memorial Anxiety Scale for Prostate Cancer), simple yet profound ways clinicians can detect emotional suffering early, before it turns into isolation. These tools, he explains, aren’t just checklists; they’re bridges that reconnect patients to language, to care, and to hope.But perhaps the most powerful insight from Dr. Roth is this: healing doesn’t always mean cure. Sometimes it means learning how to live with uncertainty, reclaiming joy in moments that medicine can’t measure, and building relationships that remind us we are more than our diagnosis.He speaks of the courage it takes for men to open up, for partners to listen without judgment, and for doctors to lead with empathy rather than ego. In sharing his own journey, from community organizing in Brooklyn to a lifetime of helping patients find meaning in the midst of uncertainty, Dr. Roth shows how emotional honesty can transform medical care and what it truly means to “live better” with illness.Whether you’re a clinician, caregiver, patient, or loved one walking beside someone in pain, this conversation will leave you with a renewed understanding of how connection, courage, and curiosity can shape the way we heal and the way we live.Because healing, as Dr. Roth reminds us, isn’t just medical. It’s profoundly human.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 청소년의 소리|  The One With The Mental Health Panel – Three Voices, One Mission: Breaking the Silence on Youth Suicide | Episode 29 (2025)⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode discusses suicide and depression. Please take care of your heart before you listen.How do we talk honestly about youth suicide, parenting, and mental health in communities where silence has been the norm? In this episode of The More Sibyl Podcast, we present a raw, necessary, and profoundly human conversation on one of the most pressing issues of our time.Joined by Dr. Jessica Puri, Dr. Mathero Michelle Nkhalamba, and Doc Ayomide, this panel takes us inside the struggles too often hidden behind children’s smiles. From Jessica’s courageous story of attempting suicide at eight years old, to Michelle’s reflections on breaking cycles of toxic parenting, to Ayomide’s insights on why children need the language of emotions, each voice calls us to pay closer attention to the silent battles our young people fight.Together, we explore what it means to create psychologically safe environments in homes, schools, faith-based spaces, and communities. We discuss how technology can be guided by wisdom rather than fear, why parents must confront their own unresolved trauma, and how the phrase “it takes a village” is more than just a proverb.This episode offers more than reflection. It is a blueprint for prevention, equipping parents, teachers, and communities with tools to name emotions, build safe support networks, and confront the “not my kid” mindsetWhether you’re a parent, teacher, or caring friend, you’ll leave with the tools to spot silent suffering and the courage to discuss it openly.

볼 수 있어야 꿈꾼다| From Ikorodu to the World: Testimony of Purpose and Possibility — The One With Testimony Adebiyi | Episode 27 (2025)In this powerful episode, we sit down with Miss Testimony Adebiyi, a passionate changemaker whose story begins in the low-income neighborhood of Ikorodu, Lagos. The daughter of a teacher and a pastor, Testimony grew up facing the harsh reality of being unable to attend school due to financial constraints. But instead of being defined by scarcity, she used it as fuel.Now a first-class graduate in Library and Information Science and a Programs Coordinator at Millennium Campus Network, Testimony has impacted over 4,000 people globally through her work in education, leadership, and youth development.She opens up about the pain of near-missed opportunities, the power of books and community, and her decision to live an intentional life rooted in faith, impact, and advocacy. She also shares her vision for the future: leading programs that support youth development, gender equality, and meaningful change, not just in Nigeria, but across Africa. We also dive into a spirited conversation about Gen Z values, digital distractions, and bridging generational gaps with compassion and curiosity. There’s honesty, laughter (yes, even a “japa” moment), and how she went from surviving survivor’s guilt to giving back through mentorship and storytelling. This is the story of a woman who turned obstacles into stepping stones. If you’ve ever felt like your beginnings were too small for the dreams you carry, this episode is your reminder to keep going.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 학문의 전설| The Incredible Journey of an Academic Medicine Legend — The One With Professor Onatolu Odukoya | Episode 25 (2025)Legacy. Leadership. Life Lessons. This episode on The More Sibyl Podcast is surely unforgettable. I had the privilege of sitting down with Professor Onatolu Odukoya, the former Chief Medical Director of Lagos University Teaching Hospital.What began as a conversation about legacy evolved into an enriching dialogue about purpose, faith, leadership, and the wisdom that comes with age. We explored his remarkable academic career, starting with his early days as a standout scholar who would later make his mark at Harvard. We discussed the evolution of Nigeria’s medical education system, particularly in light of emerging technologies like AI and their impact on diagnostics. Professor Odukoya expressed cautious optimism about the future, hopeful that, with the right reforms and vision, both medical education and the broader healthcare sector in Nigeria can grow and thrive.Now in retirement, Professor Odukoya is far from idle. He continues to serve on several medical and community boards, including the Holy Trinity Hospital Board and the Academy of Medical Sciences. He shared candidly about the fears many high achievers have around retirement, especially the fear of becoming irrelevant, but offered a powerful model for staying engaged and purposeful through service, planning, and faith.We also discussed his newly released memoir, which chronicles his life of discipline, faith, loss, and service. It’s not just a story of accomplishments, but of values: how he and his wife have deliberately passed down faith and integrity to their children and grandchildren.This episode is a rich blend of wisdom, history, and practical advice. Whether you’re an academic, a parent, a leader, or someone reflecting on your own legacy, Professor Odukoya’s story will leave you both challenged and inspired.Oh—and something BIG is coming this month. Mark your calendars for July 19th: More Than a Backpack is a live panel session featuring moms, dads, and a behavioral specialist, who will dig even deeper into how we can collectively advocate for our kids in the North American education system. That’s right, both the U.S. and Canada. Save the date, and we’ll see you there.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 내면의 리더| Leadership & Fatherhood Through a GiANT Lens — The One with Dr. Brandon Jennings | Episode 23 (2025)What does it mean to lead with heart—in the boardroom, in the clinic, and at home?On this special Father's Day edition of The More Sibyl Podcast, I sit down with the person who helped rescue me from a toxic work culture and coached me into becoming a more intentional leader. Dr. Brandon Jennings is a clinician, educator, father, and founder of Abilyn Consulting, with over a decade of experience transforming systems and lives alike.In this powerful and vulnerable conversation, we talk about healthy masculinity, emotional intelligence, fatherhood, and why knowing yourself is the first—and most important—step to leading others well. From corporate strategy sessions to parenting teenage daughters, Brandon leads with presence, not performance. His story is a masterclass in what it means to show up with self-awareness and humility across every area of life.Too often, men are stuck on autopilot, shaped by unexamined habits, cultural expectations, and outdated models of masculinity. Brandon challenges that narrative—not just in theory, but in practice. He shares personal stories of navigating a marriage where his wife's voice is the opposite of his own, working with emotionally intelligent men misaligned in rigid workplaces, and learning to parent with intention—not just instinct.We also unpack the 5 Voices framework, a tool that has radically transformed how I teach, lead, and relate to others. This episode is an invitation to pause, reflect, and start the work of leading from wholeness. Whether you’re a dad, a leader, or simply someone trying to show up better in the world—this episode is for you.🎧 Listen in, share with a father or friend, and remember: leadership isn’t about perfection—it’s about presenceIf you’ve been looking for a sign to start the work—this is it. Connect with Brandon and the Abilyn Consulting team to begin your journey toward greater self-awareness and intentional leadership. Whether it's personal coaching or team development, they'll help you lead yourself so you can lead others better.Curious about my experience? I’m happy to share—just reach out. This work is too powerful to keep to ourselves.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 연결된 이야기| Reflections of a Grateful Adoptee: On Family, Business & Legacy — The One with Sam White | Episode 21 (2025)Being chosen is a gift Sam White received early, and it’s a legacy he’s now passing on with intention. In this deeply personal and powerful episode, I sit down with Sam: entrepreneur, brand strategist, real estate investor, mentor, and proud new father.Adopted at six months and raised by Black parents in Arizona, Sam opens up about the layers of identity, healing, and quiet grief that adoptees often carry beyond childhood. He reflects on the moment he reunited with his biological siblings at age 34 and how his parents nurtured a deep sense of belonging that became the foundation for his emotional and spiritual resilience.We explore how fatherhood is reshaping his understanding of love and legacy, the joy and complexity of building a multicultural family, and the intentional ways he’s raising his son with both privilege and perspective. Sam also shares the remarkable story of meeting his wife, Sarah, on a random flight, and how they’ve built a mission-driven life together.We also talk hustle. From emceeing trade shows in college to founding a successful DJ and events company and launching The Pivotal Investment, Sam is on a mission to democratize access to commercial real estate for Black and Brown communities. He shares the sacredness of wealth with purpose, the importance of mentorship, and why meaningful relationships remain the core of everything he builds.This episode is a gift: grounded in lived experience, and brimming with quiet truths that challenge, affirm, and uplift. If you’re navigating transitions, legacy, or identity, you’ll find something here that speaks directly to your soul.And when you’re done, connect with Sam on Instagram @samdiego20. Tell him which part of his journey resonated most, and don’t forget to share this episode with someone else who needs the reminder: your story matters, even the messy parts.

The More Sibyl Podcast Presents: 법 밖의 삶| The Legality of Surrogacy - The Grey Area We Didn’t Know | Episode 19 (2025)Five beautiful episodes. Seven amazing guests and several deeply personal stories.Sùúrùgate has reached its final chapter, and I can’t help but feel proud of the ground we’ve covered. We’ve peeled back the layers of infertility, parenthood, and the deeply intimate journey of surrogacy, giving voice to those often left out of the conversation. As we wrap this powerful series, we take a bold turn into a topic that’s rarely discussed: the legal realities of surrogacy in Nigeria.In this must-listen episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Lawyer Gbenga Adebisi, who brings unmatched clarity to Nigeria’s current surrogacy landscape, one that remains largely undefined by law. Gbenga walks us through the murky legal framework (or better put, the lack of one) and offers critical insight into why treating surrogacy as just a contract is not only misguided but potentially dangerous. His words surprised me, and they just might shift your perspective, too.We unpack the fundamental question: Is surrogacy even legal in Nigeria? The answer is not what most people think. Gbenga explains how the absence of federal legislation leaves all parties—intended parents, surrogates, and especially the children—exposed and unprotected. He also highlights the often-exploitative systems in place that leave surrogate mothers underserved, unsupported, and without recourse.If you’ve ever considered surrogacy, know someone who has, or simply care about protecting the most vulnerable in society, this episode is for you. You’ll walk away with practical insight into how to navigate this complex terrain more responsibly, even in the absence of clear legal guidelines.But more than that, I hope this episode ignites something deeper—a call to advocate for comprehensive legal reform in Nigeria. Surrogacy should not operate in the shadows. Every child deserves legal clarity. Every surrogate deserves dignity. Every family deserves protection.So please, don’t just listen—understand. Share this episode widely. Let’s raise our voices and push for a future where surrogacy in Nigeria is guided not just by hope, but by justice.