#45: You’re Not Stuck — You’re Just Re-telling the Wrong Story (over and over again)
From The Ordinary Family by Coleman and Abby Housefield
March 19, 2026 · 38 min
About this episode
This episode discusses how the stories we tell ourselves shape our identity and life trajectory, offering strategies to rewrite unhelpful narratives.
In this episode, we explore the powerful concept that our memories and the stories we tell ourselves about the past shape our present and future. You’ll learn practical strategies to uncover unconscious stories, rewrite them, and ultimately change your life trajectory—all while honoring reality. Whether you’re dealing with limiting beliefs or emotional patterns, this discussion provides clear insight into how perceptions—more than facts—determine who you become. In this episode: * How the autonomic nervous system operates below conscious awareness to protect us from emotional and physical danger * The significance of awareness in recognizing and shifting unconscious stories * Step-by-step process for bringing hidden stories to the surface through journaling and thought downloads * The concept that memories are reconstructed, not replayed like videos, and how this makes rewriting possible * How stories about key events—like trauma, divorce, or failure—shape identity and behaviors * The difference between factual events and the stories we attach to them * Practical coaching techniques to identify and reframe unhelpful narratives * Why stories about who you are (identity) are more…
People in this episode
Hosts: Coleman Housefield, Abby Housefield
Topics covered
- memory
- storytelling
- self-improvement
- identity
- coaching
- neuroscience
Keywords
- limiting beliefs
- emotional patterns
- unconscious stories
- neuroplasticity
- self-coaching
- journaling
- identity
- empowering stories
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