The Other Woman And The Wife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Carolina and her husband Antonio — a public figure with a career built on reputation, who once considered becoming a Catholic priest, has been married three times, and has had affairs — and he showed up here, on record, to talk about all of it. This conversation is for the woman trying to decode her married affair partner, for the betrayed wife who keeps asking why, and for anyone who's ever wanted to understand what's actually happening beneath all those layers of conditioning, escape, and silence. They get into what it means to own your decisions publicly when the whole world is watching, why staying in a broken marriage doesn't protect your children — it just teaches them what dysfunction looks like — and why will he choose me? might be the wrong question altogether. Carolina says it best: it's less about you than you think. She means that as a mercy, not a dismissal.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitHOW WE CAN HELPApply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea and returning guest Carolina Vilalva are having the conversation nobody wants to have — because it will piss people off. No contact has become the default advice for everything from toxic friendships to affairs, but is it actually healing us or just keeping us comfortable? They dig into the difference between creating space and declaring someone unworthy of repair, how a tool born in abusive relationships has quietly expanded into a cultural exile system, and what we're really teaching people when we call abandonment a boundary. Raw, personal, and more than a little uncomfortable — exactly the way we like it here.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitHOW WE CAN HELPApply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea introduces you to Julie—not as a team member or service provider, but as the kind of human who shows up in her pajamas at 4AM when you're collapsing. Julie is a clarity partner who creates the kind of space most people have never experienced, where your floodgates can finally open. She doesn't coach (Chelsea hates that word—it implies fixing). Instead, Julie witnesses, translates your nervous system's reactions into language you can understand, and helps you see what you're actually feeling underneath what you think you're feeling. Chelsea shares Julie's powerful piece "Last Hour of the Year"—a response to someone 16 months into an affair who crashed on New Year's Eve—demonstrating how Julie holds pain without judgment, reframes struggle without fixing it, and helps people see they're not regressing but standing at a threshold between surviving something and building towards something else.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitHOW WE CAN HELPApply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week Chelsea goes solo to talk about something nobody's addressing—how the words you use inside your head are literally creating the reality you're living. She dives into the difference between "I can't leave" and "I'm choosing to stay," why getting loud doesn't mean having a voice, and how every criticism you have about someone else is actually revealing your deepest fears about yourself. From her makeshift recording setup in parking lots to raw truths about language that liberates versus language that traps, this episode challenges you to audit your internal dialogue for 24 hours and replace one limiting phrase that's been running your life. Because the woman who found her voice through infidelity isn't just surviving her story—she's rewriting it.ASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask HOW WE CAN HELPApply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching OUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Dr. Diane to tackle the question every woman in an affair has asked: "Why does sex with my affair partner feel so different than sex with my husband?" Dr. Diane—who holds two doctorate degrees in naturopathic medicine and acupuncture—breaks down the real reasons: new relationship energy, novelty, how female arousal actually works, and why boredom in marriage isn't inevitable. They explore what your affair is really revealing about unmet needs, the role your nervous system plays in desire, and practical ways to bring that chemistry back into long-term relationships. This isn't about shame or fixing what's broken—it's about understanding your body, reclaiming playfulness, and discovering that passion doesn't have to die just because you've been together for years. Because the affair isn't the answer; understanding your desire is.ASK US A QUESTION We answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast: Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask HOW WE CAN HELPApply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching OUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, for a conversation that flips everything you think you know about infidelity. Paul reveals the uncomfortable truth that men are actually seeking emotional validation while women are outsourcing their sexual needs, explores why toxic male fragility creates dead bedrooms, and explains how affair partners might be the most honest online daters. They dive into compassionate affairs for caregivers, why discretion isn't about shame but empowerment, and how the judgment we heap on complicated humans like us creates the very underground behaviors we claim to despise – because sometimes going into our pain rather than around it is exactly what transforms relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours here: https://towtw.com/ask HOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membership: https://towtw.com/ Apply for 1:1 Coaching: https://towtw.com/coaching OUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST BIO:Paul Keable is the Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, the world’s leading married dating platform. With over 20 years of experience in communications and strategy, he has helped shape the company’s global direction for more than a decade. Paul is known for his insights on love, monogamy, and how technology is transforming modern relationships, and he frequently speaks about creating safer, more authentic spaces for connection.

This week on TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea sits down with integrative bodywork and somatic therapist Joshua Marable for a serendipitous conversation about the messy realities of human connection. Joshua challenges us to go into our pain rather than around it, exploring how synchronicity, self-awareness, and somatic healing intersect with relationships. They dive deep into maintaining your sense of self within partnerships, the real talk about sex and intimacy, conflict resolution beyond surface fixes, and why infidelity is often about unmet needs rather than simple betrayal. This raw, unfiltered discussion transcends judgment and approaches relationships with the kind of radical honesty that transforms pain into growth – because sometimes the conversation you're avoiding is exactly the one you need to have.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST BIO:Joshua Marable is Somatic Therapist at WellessenceMDWith over 20 years of experience in the somatic-related fields of integrative bodywork, therapeutic massage, mindfulness coaching, and personal training, Joshua Marable brings a wealth of expertise and dedication to WellessenceMD. https://wellessencemd.com/about/joshua-marable/

Sometimes the harshest critics become the most profound teachers. In this follow-up episode of TOWTW Podcast, Chelsea reconnects with one of her original TikTok trolls. Avid listeners might remember him from Episode 35—”From Trolling To Dialogue”. He spent months processing his wife's infidelity by trolling her in the comments. Nearly a year later, he's back with a completely different perspective, sharing his journey from anger to healing and proving there really is life after infidelity for everyone involved. This isn't your typical "happily ever after" story—it's a real look at how our biggest critics are often fighting battles we can't see, and how transformation happens when we choose growth over grudgesPt. 1: Episode #35 From Trolling To Dialogue Links:Youtube: Here Spotify: Here Apple Podcast: HereSUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea sits down with returning guest Carolina Vilalva. Together they discuss how to move from the drama triangle (where we play hero, villain, or victim) into the empowerment triangle where we claim our personal power as creators, facilitate self-empowerment as coaches, and provoke positive action as challengers. If you’ve been feeling ‘stuck’ in your circumstance this episode is for you!Referenced Image: https://images.app.goo.gl/t9pvMGvezTcd7EhV7SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeCarolina’s Bio:Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.Her training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.

This week on TOWTW Podcast Chelsea and Ann Marie have recurring guest Kristine Haraldsson back on the show to discuss the impact that their women friendships play in their lives, but more specifically how their experience within infidelity was impacted by the female friendships in their lives. Kris Haraldsson, MS is a coach and educator who gained a following of 100k followers across platforms discussing relationships, divorce, and personal empowerment in the context of relationships. Her passion lies in weaving her extensive background in psychology with her experience working in social services to help people understand how they can change unhelpful patterns in their relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKS:Website: thrivingimperfectly.com

In this weeks episode of TOWTW podcast, hosts Chelsea and Ann Marie welcome back guest Luke Shillings. Chelsea and Luke courageously share their contrasting experiences growing up in the shadow of parental infidelity revealing how the same type of family disruption created two very different journeys to healing. This episode explores how childhood perspectives on adult betrayal shape our relationships, outlook, and personal growth. A must-listen for anyone navigating family complexities or supporting children through difficult transitions.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewifeGUEST LINKSWebsite: www.lifecoachluke.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/mylifecoachlukeInstagram: www.instagram.com/mylifecoachlukeLinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mylifecoachlukeTikTok: @mylifecoachlukeDiscovery Call: www.lifecoachluke.com/booking-calendar/discovery-callPodcast: www.lifecoachluke.com/podcastSpotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/24Mxm7BItKT4xAz2Psfyh8?si=7dcc4d546d984c41Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/after-the-affair/id1648061200

In this week’s episode, Chelsea retells a story about a woman experiencing a sexual awakening through an affair, leaving her torn about her marriage's future. Together, with co-host Ann Marie, they unpack the woman's complex dilemma, examining how societal judgment shapes our views on infidelity while advocating for personal autonomy and authentic desires over rigid marital expectations. Join us for a candid conversation about navigating the tension between personal fulfillment and societal pressure in intimate relationships.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife

In this powerful TOWTW episode, Chelsea is joined by returning guest Carolina Vilalva to challenge the notion of staying in unhappy marriages "for the kids." They reveal how children inevitably sense parental tension and Carolina explains why showing children it's acceptable to leave situations that compromise your wellbeing might be more valuable than preserving an unhappy home, offering a fresh perspective on this difficult parenting dilemma.Guest Bio:Carolina is a certified Executive and Life Coach from Columbia University with over 11 years of experience specializing in life transitions for couples, executives, teenagers, and parents. She holds a B.A. in Clinical Psychology and International Relations from Tufts University and a Master’s in International Education.Carolina’s training includes EFT, IOPT, DISC assessments, and she is pursuing licensure in Neurofeedback. A Third Culture Kid and part of a blended multicultural family, she has lived on four continents and is currently based in Maputo, Mozambique, where her husband serves as a diplomat.SUBMIT YOUR OWN STORYhttps://www.theotherwomanandthewife.com/submitASK US A QUESTIONWe answer questions from other women and wives on our podcast:Submit yours hereHOW WE CAN HELPJoin the Other Women Community: Use Code PODCAST to receive $10 off a community membershipApply for 1:1 CoachingOUR LINKSWebsite: https://towtw.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theowandthewife/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theowandthewife