The Inner Critic Ruining Your Sex Life

About this episode

This episode explores the concept of spectatoring and how self-consciousness can impact sexual enjoyment.

Send us Fan Mail Ever feel like you're watching yourself during sex instead of actually enjoying it? In this episode, we're diving into the concept of spectatoring—a form of sexual self-consciousness where you're mentally observing and judging yourself during intimate moments instead of being present in your body. If you've ever found yourself thinking things like "What do I do with my hands?" or "Do I look weird right now?" you're not alone. These thoughts are incredibly common, and they can...

People in this episode

Host: Sofia Ashley

Topics covered

• sexual self-consciousness
• intimacy
• spectatoring
• mental observation
• self-judgment

Keywords

• spectatoring
• sex life
• self-consciousness
• intimacy issues
• mental observation

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