The Subconscious Expert

One of the most common patterns I hear from ambitious women is the "I know... but" cycle. I know I'm good at what I do, but... I know my clients get results, but... I know I'm capable of more, but I'm scared I won't be able to hold it all.And what most women don't realise is that this is a very specific subconscious pattern and it has a very specific mechanism. In this episode, I pull it apart layer by layer so you can finally understand what is actually happening in your brain, why it keeps happening, and what it genuinely takes to shift it.This is the episode for the woman who has done the mindset work, said the affirmations, journalled the thoughts and still finds herself at the same ceiling. Topics covered on The Most Expensive Word In Business:The "I know... but" pattern - why ambitious, high achieving women are arguing with their own potential every single dayWhy the brain generates the "but" in the first place - the subconscious protection response and why it has nothing to do with your capabilityHow the word "but" actually works on your mind - what NLP teaches us about why the second half of the sentence always winsThe difference between a thought, a belief, and an identity and which level your "but" is actually running atWhy affirmations and surface level mindset work won't touch a pattern installed at belief or identity levelWhat actually shifts the pattern - hypnosis, NLP techniques, and identity installation explainedA practical weekly exercise to start catching the "but," understanding what it's protecting, and building the evidence that changes your defaultConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTube

You can have it all. A thriving business, a deeply connected relationship, incredible health, time with your family, and actual fun. So why does it feel like the moment one area starts going well, another one falls apart? That's the question that I hear as a mindset coach for women all the time!In today’s episode, I am diving into the self-sabotage behaviour that so many successful women entrepreneurs experience without even realising it. Your business picks up and suddenly your relationship and business feel like they are in competition. You finally prioritise your health, and the revenue dips. You spend time with your family, but your brain is still mentally plugged into work.I am walking you through exactly why your subconscious does this, the limiting beliefs driving it, and how to start the subconscious reprogramming that allows you to hold more without one area costing the other. I am sharing my own experiences with this pattern, from motherhood to relationships to health, and giving you powerful journal prompts to start shifting this today.If you have ever told yourself that something has to give, this one is going to change everything. Because yes, you can have it all!Topics covered on You Can Have It All:Why your subconscious only lets you win in one area at a time and the self-sabotaging habits keeping that pattern alive.The real reason your relationship and business feel like they cannot coexist and how to balance relationship and work without guilt.How limiting beliefs about success, love, and ambition are running the show behind the scenes.The work-life balance women actually deserve versus the version we have been settling for.Navigating business and motherhood and why you can have it all without becoming a different person.Proof that having it all is not about doing everything at once; it is about holding multiple things without your brain forcing you to sacrifice one.The journal prompts to help you stop asking "why can't I have both?" and start believing you can have it all.Journal Prompts:For all journal prompts visit rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/yes-you-can-have-it-all-overcoming-one-of-the-biggest-limiting-beliefs-among-successful-women-entrepreneursConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipThe Subconscious Institute Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:140. Breaking the Belief ‘I Can’t Have It All'100. Hitting 250K, Choosing a Break Up and Moving Back to the Other Side of the World

Mindset blocks don't always look like fear or doubt. Sometimes they look like being the most capable person in the room.Laurie came to me as a self-described "anti woo-woo" woman who had no interest in the fluffy mindset stuff. She wanted someone to tell her what to do so she could tick it off and move on. But she also knew something was off. The reps weren’t converting. The results weren’t matching the effort. And deep down, she suspected the problem was her.What did we find? Patterns she’d been running since she was six years old. A need to appear capable at all times. A refusal to accept help that went so deep she’d wrestle with jars alone rather than ask her partner sitting two feet away.In this client success story, Laurie shares how doing parts work changed her business, her capacity to receive, and, unexpectedly, her entire personal life.She sold her flat. She met someone. Got a Rottweiler. And she used to be terrified of even the smallest, fluffiest dogs.But the bit that surprised her most? That’s what we will get into in today’s episode!Topics covered on Mindset Blocks:What happens when you're doing all the right things, but your mindset blocks are silently running the show?Why did a 6-year-old version of Laurie start packing her own bags, and how was that pattern still controlling her business decades later?What does being a "hyper-independent woman" actually cost you in business and relationships?Can parts work actually resonate with someone who doesn't really believe in mindset work?When does ambition stop helping you and start working against you?What does refusing help with small things reveal about how you run your business?How did removing one mindset block lead to selling a flat, a new relationship, and a Rottweiler?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeConnect with Laurie Macpherson:Website: www.lauriemacpherson.comLinkedIn: Laurie MacphersonInstagram: @_laurie_macphersonWhy You: The Rebels guide to being remembered on LinkedIn: www.subscribepage.com/whyyouprivatepodcastGroup program: www.go.lauriemacpherson.com/jointhewaitlistforGTATTRelated episodes you may enjoy:https://player.captivate.fm/collection/849f9d4f-b4b9-4591-bed9-fe19f53ee5dc

Your income cycles between the same numbers every month. £3K, £7K, £2K, £8K, repeat. You get momentum for two weeks, then something drops on day 15. Every single time. You can post three times a week comfortably, but four posts triggers "this is too much."You think these patterns are random, they're not.Your subconscious has an identity ceiling and that ceiling has specific numbers, trigger points and thresholds where your brain reads "threat" and creates the drop to bring you back.In today's episode I'm breaking down the exact mechanism behind your identity ceiling, why your subconscious keeps snapping you back to almost there, and how to find your specific numbers so you can finally see what's been running the show. I'm showing you how studies prove that 70% of lottery winners lose their windfall within a few years because their identity didn't catch up to the money, and why the same mechanism is cycling your income, consistency, and visibility.This episode is about awareness. We're making the invisible visible. So grab something to write with, because you're finding your numbers today.Because you can't reprogram your identity ceiling until you can see where it's sitting.Let's break the pattern.Topics covered on Your Identity Ceiling Has a Number:Why your income cycling, consistency drops, and visibility pull backs aren't random (and what's actually creating them)How your subconscious operates like an elastic band, constantly snapping you back to your identity anchor pointThe real reason 70% of lottery winners lose their money within a few years (and why the same mechanism is running your business)Why your capability has nothing to do with your ceiling (and what actually determines where you stay stuck)How to find your three numbers: income anchor, consistency anchor, and visibility anchorWhat happens in your brain when you exceed your identity ceiling (and why it reads as threat)Why awareness of your ceiling changes everything before you even reprogram itConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

There's one trait I see in every genuinely successful entrepreneur I work with and it's not what you think. It's not strategy, work ethic, or even talent. It's deep, subconscious self belief that operates independently of circumstances. In this episode, I'm breaking down what self belief actually is (versus what most people think it is), the subconscious mechanism behind it, why most capable people don't have it, and exactly how to build it if you don't have it yet. Plus, I'm taking you through a powerful subconscious exercise to uncover what's actually blocking you from trusting yourself fully.This is the foundational work that changes everything in your business.Topics covered on Why self belief is the defining trait of successful entrepreneurs:What self belief actually is versus confidence (and why the difference matters)The subconscious mechanism behind self belief and how threat responses show up in businessReal examples of how self belief (or lack of it) shows up in business behaviourWhy incredibly capable people still don't trust themselvesThe role of identity in self-belief and why you'll sabotage anything that contradicts your current identitySubconscious exercise: Uncovering your actual beliefs about your goalsHow to build genuine self belief through evidence accumulation and subconscious reprogrammingWhat becomes possible when you develop deep self trustConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-self-belief-is-more-important-than-strategy-subconscious-secrets

The Winter Arc, yes a TikTok trend but also a subconscious integration period. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a winter arc actually is from a subconscious perspective, why the Christmas period specifically matters for your brain and how to use this season to lock in your 2026 identity before the calendar even flips.This is the hidden work that makes everything easier when January comes.Topics covered on The Winter Arc | How I'm Locking In Before 2026:What a winter arc actually is (the subconscious version, not the aesthetic version)Why your brain is naturally moving into a reorganisation period right nowWhy the Christmas period specifically matters for identity workThe three subconscious mechanics that make this season incredibly powerfulHow to use this time wisely (the DOs and DON'Ts from a brain mechanics perspective)My personal lock in process before 2026Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/the-winter-arc-subconscious-edition-how-i-am-locking-in-for-2026