The Subconscious Expert

You can have it all. A thriving business, a deeply connected relationship, incredible health, time with your family, and actual fun. So why does it feel like the moment one area starts going well, another one falls apart? That's the question that I hear as a mindset coach for women all the time!In today’s episode, I am diving into the self-sabotage behaviour that so many successful women entrepreneurs experience without even realising it. Your business picks up and suddenly your relationship and business feel like they are in competition. You finally prioritise your health, and the revenue dips. You spend time with your family, but your brain is still mentally plugged into work.I am walking you through exactly why your subconscious does this, the limiting beliefs driving it, and how to start the subconscious reprogramming that allows you to hold more without one area costing the other. I am sharing my own experiences with this pattern, from motherhood to relationships to health, and giving you powerful journal prompts to start shifting this today.If you have ever told yourself that something has to give, this one is going to change everything. Because yes, you can have it all!Topics covered on You Can Have It All:Why your subconscious only lets you win in one area at a time and the self-sabotaging habits keeping that pattern alive.The real reason your relationship and business feel like they cannot coexist and how to balance relationship and work without guilt.How limiting beliefs about success, love, and ambition are running the show behind the scenes.The work-life balance women actually deserve versus the version we have been settling for.Navigating business and motherhood and why you can have it all without becoming a different person.Proof that having it all is not about doing everything at once; it is about holding multiple things without your brain forcing you to sacrifice one.The journal prompts to help you stop asking "why can't I have both?" and start believing you can have it all.Journal Prompts:For all journal prompts visit rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/yes-you-can-have-it-all-overcoming-one-of-the-biggest-limiting-beliefs-among-successful-women-entrepreneursConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipThe Subconscious Institute Come say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeRelated episodes you may enjoy:140. Breaking the Belief ‘I Can’t Have It All'100. Hitting 250K, Choosing a Break Up and Moving Back to the Other Side of the World

Mindset blocks don't always look like fear or doubt. Sometimes they look like being the most capable person in the room.Laurie came to me as a self-described "anti woo-woo" woman who had no interest in the fluffy mindset stuff. She wanted someone to tell her what to do so she could tick it off and move on. But she also knew something was off. The reps weren’t converting. The results weren’t matching the effort. And deep down, she suspected the problem was her.What did we find? Patterns she’d been running since she was six years old. A need to appear capable at all times. A refusal to accept help that went so deep she’d wrestle with jars alone rather than ask her partner sitting two feet away.In this client success story, Laurie shares how doing parts work changed her business, her capacity to receive, and, unexpectedly, her entire personal life.She sold her flat. She met someone. Got a Rottweiler. And she used to be terrified of even the smallest, fluffiest dogs.But the bit that surprised her most? That’s what we will get into in today’s episode!Topics covered on Mindset Blocks:What happens when you're doing all the right things, but your mindset blocks are silently running the show?Why did a 6-year-old version of Laurie start packing her own bags, and how was that pattern still controlling her business decades later?What does being a "hyper-independent woman" actually cost you in business and relationships?Can parts work actually resonate with someone who doesn't really believe in mindset work?When does ambition stop helping you and start working against you?What does refusing help with small things reveal about how you run your business?How did removing one mindset block lead to selling a flat, a new relationship, and a Rottweiler?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeConnect with Laurie Macpherson:Website: www.lauriemacpherson.comLinkedIn: Laurie MacphersonInstagram: @_laurie_macphersonWhy You: The Rebels guide to being remembered on LinkedIn: www.subscribepage.com/whyyouprivatepodcastGroup program: www.go.lauriemacpherson.com/jointhewaitlistforGTATTRelated episodes you may enjoy:https://player.captivate.fm/collection/849f9d4f-b4b9-4591-bed9-fe19f53ee5dc

Your income cycles between the same numbers every month. £3K, £7K, £2K, £8K, repeat. You get momentum for two weeks, then something drops on day 15. Every single time. You can post three times a week comfortably, but four posts triggers "this is too much."You think these patterns are random, they're not.Your subconscious has an identity ceiling and that ceiling has specific numbers, trigger points and thresholds where your brain reads "threat" and creates the drop to bring you back.In today's episode I'm breaking down the exact mechanism behind your identity ceiling, why your subconscious keeps snapping you back to almost there, and how to find your specific numbers so you can finally see what's been running the show. I'm showing you how studies prove that 70% of lottery winners lose their windfall within a few years because their identity didn't catch up to the money, and why the same mechanism is cycling your income, consistency, and visibility.This episode is about awareness. We're making the invisible visible. So grab something to write with, because you're finding your numbers today.Because you can't reprogram your identity ceiling until you can see where it's sitting.Let's break the pattern.Topics covered on Your Identity Ceiling Has a Number:Why your income cycling, consistency drops, and visibility pull backs aren't random (and what's actually creating them)How your subconscious operates like an elastic band, constantly snapping you back to your identity anchor pointThe real reason 70% of lottery winners lose their money within a few years (and why the same mechanism is running your business)Why your capability has nothing to do with your ceiling (and what actually determines where you stay stuck)How to find your three numbers: income anchor, consistency anchor, and visibility anchorWhat happens in your brain when you exceed your identity ceiling (and why it reads as threat)Why awareness of your ceiling changes everything before you even reprogram itConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/

There's one trait I see in every genuinely successful entrepreneur I work with and it's not what you think. It's not strategy, work ethic, or even talent. It's deep, subconscious self belief that operates independently of circumstances. In this episode, I'm breaking down what self belief actually is (versus what most people think it is), the subconscious mechanism behind it, why most capable people don't have it, and exactly how to build it if you don't have it yet. Plus, I'm taking you through a powerful subconscious exercise to uncover what's actually blocking you from trusting yourself fully.This is the foundational work that changes everything in your business.Topics covered on Why self belief is the defining trait of successful entrepreneurs:What self belief actually is versus confidence (and why the difference matters)The subconscious mechanism behind self belief and how threat responses show up in businessReal examples of how self belief (or lack of it) shows up in business behaviourWhy incredibly capable people still don't trust themselvesThe role of identity in self-belief and why you'll sabotage anything that contradicts your current identitySubconscious exercise: Uncovering your actual beliefs about your goalsHow to build genuine self belief through evidence accumulation and subconscious reprogrammingWhat becomes possible when you develop deep self trustConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-self-belief-is-more-important-than-strategy-subconscious-secrets

The Winter Arc, yes a TikTok trend but also a subconscious integration period. In this episode, I'm breaking down what a winter arc actually is from a subconscious perspective, why the Christmas period specifically matters for your brain and how to use this season to lock in your 2026 identity before the calendar even flips.This is the hidden work that makes everything easier when January comes.Topics covered on The Winter Arc | How I'm Locking In Before 2026:What a winter arc actually is (the subconscious version, not the aesthetic version)Why your brain is naturally moving into a reorganisation period right nowWhy the Christmas period specifically matters for identity workThe three subconscious mechanics that make this season incredibly powerfulHow to use this time wisely (the DOs and DON'Ts from a brain mechanics perspective)My personal lock in process before 2026Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/the-winter-arc-subconscious-edition-how-i-am-locking-in-for-2026

How often do you end your day thinking, "I could have done more"? If you're a high achiever constantly pushing, criticising, never feeling like enough, I have news for you. It's your subconscious protecting you.That voice that says, "work harder, fix it, you're not there yet," isn't discipline. It's not your high achiever nature. It's a part of you that learnt a long time ago that performance equals safety. And now? It's bloody exhausted!In today's episode, I'm taking you back to where that subconscious pattern started, and we're going to use parts work to meet the part that makes you so hard on yourself. We'll uncover the limiting beliefs that keep you in this cycle, find out why it fights so hard when you try to rest, and I'll show you how to not be so hard on yourself through subconscious mind reprogramming so you can finally rest without feeling guilty.Because you can be ambitious, successful, and still be nice to yourself. Wild concept, I know! If stillness feels dangerous and your to-do list shows up the second you sit down, this episode is for you. Let's stop confusing pressure with protection.Topics covered on Why You’re So Hard on Yourself: Why does being hard on yourself feel like the only way to stay safe?What if the voice pushing you isn’t discipline, but a terrified part trying to protect you?How did your subconscious learn that performance equals love and acceptance?Why does rest feel so dangerous when you’ve trained your brain that constant motion means safety?What happens when you acknowledge the part that’s been pushing you for years instead of fighting it?Is it possible to rewire your brain to crave rest as much as it currently craves pressureHow do high achievers break free from the dopamine-cortisol loop?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-youre-so-hard-on-yourself

In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most common patterns I see in female entrepreneurs, the weekly reset, the new plan, the fresh strategy, the “I’ll start again on Monday” energy that feels productive but quietly keeps you looping in the same place.Subconscious Prompts: What feels unsafe about doing it today?What part of me doesn’t feel ready yet?What identity am I still loyal to?What am I postponing that I could embody right now?What would the next level version of me do today, not Monday?If the future version of me was leading this week, what would she prioritise first?How does my future self hold herself on the days where capacity is low?What does my business look like when I’m consistently leading from the identity I’m becoming?If I fully trusted where I’m going, what would I stop negotiating with myself about?What does the “Monday reset” version of me do and what does the future version of me do instead?When I imagine the woman I’m becoming, what feels obvious to her that still feels difficult to me now?What would it feel like to move through today as if the identity shift has already happened?What becomes available to me when I start acting from the future self I keep postponing?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind more resources at www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast.

You know that moment when business gets hard, sales slow down, ideas aren't flowing, motivation dips and your brain immediately goes "What's wrong with me?"In this episode, we're breaking down the blame cycle that keeps high achieving women stuck, why your subconscious defaults to self blame when uncertainty hits, and the critical difference between looking at yourself through shame versus looking at yourself through curiosity.Discover how to shift from the "fixing" lens to the "curious" lens so you can actually lead yourself through challenges instead of spiralling into self criticism. Subconscious Prompts : What do I make it mean about me when things feel hard in my business?Where in my business do I default to self blame instead of self leadership?When I last experienced a challenge, was I looking at myself through the blame lens or the curious lens?What evidence do I have that I can move through challenges without blaming myself first?What would it look like to examine a current challenge through curiosity instead of blame?How can I show myself I'm safe to grow even when it feels uncertain?Topics Covered in How to Stop Blaming Yourself:Why high achievers default to blame when business gets hardThe two lenses: blame vs. curiosity and how they shape your realityWhat your subconscious is actually communicating (it's not what you think)The difference between fixing yourself and leading yourselfHow to pause the blame spiral and ask better questionsPractical steps to redirect fixing energy into leading energyConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meJoin The Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-to-stop-blaming-yourself-when-business-gets-hard