EP 420 - Why Most Men Are Still Stuck in Adolescence (And What Actually Changes That) | Jeddy Azuma

About this episode

The episode discusses the lack of proper initiation into manhood for many men and explores the concepts of mature masculinity and rites of passage with guest Jeddy Azuma.

Most men were never actually initiated into manhood. Nobody stood on the other side and said — you're different now, here's what that means, here's what we expect from you. Most of us just got older. And thus, many men are still running the same adolescent software in a grown man's body. Rites of passage leader Jeddy Azuma is back on the podcast, and this conversation goes deep fast. Jeddy works with men on rites of passage and mature masculine leadership — he's guided over 100 men through wilderness fasts, and he's seen what happens when a man actually crosses a threshold versus when he just... keeps going through the motions. If you missed his first appearance, check it out — link in the show notes. In this episode, we get into what mature masculinity actually looks like. We talk about the difference between initiation and rites of passage, what it means to hold the dynamic tension of a full life without losing your center, and why the harshest voice in your head isn't motivation — it's immaturity wearing the mask of high performance. We also talk about the inner critic — how it forms, how it served you, and how to replace it without losing the standard it held you to. That…

People in this episode

Host: Traver Boehm

Guest: Jeddy Azuma

Topics covered

• masculinity
• rites of passage
• adolescence
• mature leadership
• inner critic
• self-improvement

Keywords

• manhood
• adolescent software
• wilderness fasts
• dynamic tension
• high performance
• immaturity
• self-criticism

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