Stop Being a "Relationship Accountant"

About this episode

Drew and Kat discuss the impact of keeping score in relationships and explore teamwork dynamics during hormonal changes.

Send us Fan Mail Are you subconsciously keeping a tally of everything you do for your partner? We’re breaking the score. In this episode of The Well, co-hosts Drew and Kat dive deep into the psychology of Relationship Reciprocity and the "Petty Behavior" that destroys intimacy. Moving beyond generic advice, they explore the Teamwork Dynamics required to navigate Perimenopause and Hormonal Fluctuations as a unit. Using the "Goldfish Brain" analogy, Kat explains why memory capacity affects Co...

People in this episode

Hosts: Drew, Kat

Topics covered

• relationship dynamics
• intimacy
• psychology
• teamwork
• hormonal fluctuations

Keywords

• relationship accountant
• reciprocity
• petty behavior
• perimenopause
• intimacy issues

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