This Undivided Life

In my conversation with Zahara Seruyombya-McCoy, CEO of Children of Grace, we hear her extraordinary story of loss, survival, faith, and purpose. Zahara Seruyombya-McCoy is the CEO of Children of Grace, a wife and mom of three, and a compassionate leader whose own story of loss, faith, and hope fuels her work serving vulnerable children in Uganda. Born in Uganda, Zahara shares what it was like to lose both of her parents as a child and enter a world shaped by poverty, hunger, instability, and survival. She reflects on the resilience that children can develop in the middle of hardship, the sustaining power of faith, and the inner tension of living between the life she came from and the life she was given through adoption in the United States. Our conversation also explores parenting, generosity, empathy, and the life-changing impact of one person choosing to step in. Zahara's story is not just about being rescued — it's about becoming someone who now helps rescue others. Takeaways: 1. Zahara's childhood in Uganda and the loss of both parents 2. How faith helped her endure survival mode as a child 3. What resilience looks like when childhood is interrupted by hardship 4. The contrast between Ugandan and American family life 5. How trauma shaped her parenting and deepened her empathy 6. Why true generosity is an investment in people, not just a donation 7. The story that led her back to Uganda and into leadership with Children of Grace 8. What it means to live a more integrated, less divided life

I interview Jared Ayers, head pastor at First Presbyterian Church in North Palm Beach, and author of You Can Trust a God with Scars: Faith (and Doubt) for the Searching Soul. We discuss the profound impact of shared meals, the significance of the incarnation in understanding human suffering, and the importance of honesty within Christian communities. We explore themes of hope, the illusion of control, the reality of sin, and the necessity of dignity in relationships. Ayers also emphasizes the need for vulnerability and authenticity in faith, encouraging listeners to embrace their struggles and foster inclusive communities. Takeaways Meals are a reflection of our shared stories. The incarnation shows God's deep understanding of human suffering. Hope comes from knowing we are not alone in our pain. Navigating loss requires community support and understanding. We often live under the illusion of control in our lives. Christianity addresses the reality of sin and human condition. Honesty about our struggles fosters a healthier community. Dignifying others is essential for building inclusive spaces. Wrestling with faith and doubt is a normal part of life. Living an integrated life means embracing all aspects of our experiences. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background of Jared Ayers 02:36 The Significance of Meals and Shared Experiences 05:28 The Incarnation and Its Implications 11:24 Understanding Suffering Through the Life of Jesus 17:16 Finding Hope in Shared Pain 23:15 Navigating Life's Challenges with Receptivity 24:14 Letting Go of Control 26:00 Understanding Sin and Its Impact 28:57 The Importance of Honesty in Faith 32:06 The Power of Grace in Community 34:53 Leading with Vulnerability 37:42 Dignifying Others in a Divided World 40:49 Wrestling with Faith and Doubt 45:31 Living an Integrated Life

How do we become more beautiful together? I speak with Julian Newman about just that. Julian is the author of Beautiful Together: How to Become a Better Leader & Bridge Builder. He's the founder, and CEO of Culture Creative and The FutureCast Foundation. He is an altMBA graduate and inaugural Anthem Award-winning Diversity & Inclusion Leader of the Year, along with Trevor Noah. His thought leadership has been featured in a range of media outlets including Forbes Magazine, Fox News, NPR and PBS affiliates. We discuss the importance of leadership, empathy, and vulnerability in building connections and fostering personal growth. We explore the transformative power of shared experiences, the necessity of stepping out of comfort zones, and the role of curiosity and competence in effective leadership. Julian shares personal anecdotes and insights on navigating emotions, the significance of real conversations, and the journey of self-discovery. Our discussion emphasizes the need for meaningful interactions and the courage to be vulnerable in order to create a more beautiful and connected world. Takeaways Listening is crucial for meaningful interactions. Stepping out of comfort zones leads to personal growth. Shared meals can create transformative experiences. Curiosity and competence are essential for leadership. Investing small efforts can lead to significant outcomes. Finding meaning in our actions is vital for fulfillment. Vulnerability fosters deeper connections with others. Real conversations are necessary for resolving conflicts. Empathy can bridge divides and foster understanding. Reuniting with our true selves is a journey worth taking. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Julian Newman and His Work 02:57 The Importance of Presence and Listening 06:03 Experiencing Culinary Adventures and Comfort Zones 08:59 The Role of Collaboration in Leadership 11:38 Transformative Experiences and Personal Growth 14:46 The Hero's Journey and Embracing the Unknown 17:44 Curiosity and Competence in Adventure 20:43 Investing in Small Steps Towards Goals 23:45 Finding Meaning and Purpose in Actions 26:36 Rekindling Wonder and Curiosity 29:46 Building Bridges Through Conversation 32:42 The Power of Connection and Understanding 38:04 The Importance of Face-to-Face Conversations 38:59 Digital Disconnection and Polarization 41:55 Empathy Through Understanding 44:43 Reunion with Our True Selves 50:34 Vulnerability as a Bridge 56:03 The Courage to Apologize 59:49 Finding the Essential in the Immediate

In my conversation with Austin Carty we explore the intersection of writing, personal growth, and the art of preaching. We discuss how technology, particularly AI, has revolutionized content creation, making it more efficient. Austin shares insights from his book, 'Some of the Words Are Theirs,' emphasizing the importance of time in both writing, and life experiences. Austin Carty is pastor of Boulevard Baptist Church in Anderson, South Carolina. He holds an MDiv from Wake Forest University and a DMin from Emory University. He is the author of High Points and Lows: Life, Faith, and Figuring It All Out and The Pastor's Bookshelf: Why Reading Matters for Ministry, which received the 2023 Christianity Today Award of Merit and was named Book of the Year by Preaching magazine. His new book, Some of the Words Are Theirs: The Art of Writing and Living a Sermon. Our conversation delves into themes of hope in hardship, the significance of place and personal history, and the journey of self-discovery through writing. We also touch on the complexities of human emotions, and the challenge of caring in a distracted world, ultimately highlighting the legacy of our words and actions.

What if joy isn't about choosing between the hard and the good—but embracing both? In this episode of This Undivided Life, I talk with Jillian Benfield, author of Overwhelmed & Grateful: The Key to Finding God's Goodness in All Life's Ups & Downs. We all want joy—but life is hard. Culture tells us to focus on the positive, yet science shows ignoring our pain only makes things worse. Jillian shares how real joy comes when we embrace both the hard and the good—the "&" in life. Through her own story and practical insights, she reminds us we can be honest about our struggles and grateful for our blessings. Because life is both hard and beautiful—and true joy is found right there in the middle.

In this episode we interview Tommy Brown, a pastor and author, about his new book, The Speed of Soul: Four Rhythms for a Quiet Life in a World of Noise. We explore themes of life transitions, the healing power of water, the significance of everyday work, and the importance of simplicity and mindfulness in a complex world. Tommy emphasizes the need to revise our understanding of work, the role of technology, and the value of community and connection. The discussion culminates in a reflection on living a life of integrity and embracing the journey of faith. Takeaways The best day on the water is any day. Water has a healing and resetting power. What we do now matters, even when unnoticed. Following Jesus is simple but impossible without help. Multitasking doesn't work; focus on one thing. Love deeply, live quietly, and mind your own business. The kingdom of God is right here, in our everyday lives. Words matter; they can call out the good in others. We need to make a family out of no family. You can live quietly and love deeply. Chapters 00:00 Navigating Life Transitions 02:37 The Healing Power of Water 05:47 The Significance of Everyday Work 08:31 Simplicity in Following Jesus 11:40 The Importance of Working with Our Hands 14:35 The Dangers of Multitasking 17:25 Revising Our Understanding of Work 20:27 The Human Element in Work 23:10 Finding Meaning in the Mundane 25:58 The Invitation to Engage with Life 28:11 The Simplicity of Spiritual Practices 31:22 Finding Treasure in Everyday Life 34:23 The Importance of Community and Connection 38:02 Living with Intention in a Distracted World 40:27 The Call to Love and Serve Others 47:19 Integrating Faith into Daily Life

Did you know that more than 25 million people in the U.S.—a number greater than the entire population of Florida—are not receiving the support they need for severe anxiety? In this episode, we speak with Shaunti Feldhahn, co-author of When Hurting People Come to Church: How People of Faith Can Help Solve the Mental Health Crisis, about the vital role the local church can play in bridging the enormous gap between those who need mental health support and the professionals available to provide it. Currently, it's estimated that we are short over 100,000 mental health professionals—a deficit driven by the overwhelming demand for care. But there is hope. Shaunti Feldhahn, a social researcher and bestselling author, along with Dr. James Sells, a psychologist and professor, believe that laypeople in the church can help fill this gap by walking alongside those who are struggling. Their book draws on national research involving more than 2,000 church leaders and offers practical, research-based strategies for how the church can provide meaningful support in the midst of this mental health crisis.

In our conversation, with Shaka Senghor we explore themes of resilience, creativity, and the importance of community in navigating life's challenges. We talk about his new book How to Be Free: A Proven Guide to Escaping Life's Hidden Prisons. Shaka shares insights from his personal journey, emphasizing the power of gratitude, intentional living, and the beauty found in everyday moments. We discuss the complexities of grief, the necessity of vulnerability, and the role of kindness in self-discovery. Our conversation highlights the significance of proximity and empathy in understanding diverse experiences, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace discomfort and live a more integrated life. Shaka Senghor is a globally recognized resilience expert, bestselling author, and transformative thought leader whose journey from incarceration to inspiration has empowered executives, entrepreneurs, elite athletes, and audiences around the world. Born in Detroit amid economic hardship, Shaka overcame immense adversity—including 19 years in prison—to become a leading authority on resilience, grit, and personal transformation. Key Takeaways: Everyone can achieve freedom and create a life of possibility. Creativity is a vital part of feeling free. Beauty exists in everyday life, waiting to be noticed. Intentional living helps us appreciate the small things. Community plays a crucial role in healing and support. Grief is a complex journey that requires courage. Being kind to ourselves is essential for growth. Discomfort can lead to deeper understanding and connection. Proximity to different experiences fosters empathy. Resilience is a circular journey, building on past challenges.