Tomorrow is Not Today

At 10 years old, Karina lost her dad in a sudden accident with no support and no roadmap. Decades later, she would face something unimaginably worse — the loss of her daughter Sophie to a drowning accident, complicated by epilepsy and a seizure that came without warning on a Sunday afternoon while Karina was at the supermarket.What followed is one of the most extraordinary stories of grief, purpose, and deliberate resilience you will ever hear. Within hours of Sophie being declared brain dead, Karina chose to donate Sophie's organs — a decision made in 30 seconds that went on to save at least 10 lives. She then channelled every ounce of that loss into building something that would outlast her pain: The Sophie Effect, a children's grief program; a mentoring network for bereaved parents; speaking engagements from the Sunshine Coast Lightning netball team to 800-person forums; and eventually, a solo trek to Everest Base Camp carrying Sophie's ashes — nearly dying on the mountain before scattering them at the summit.This episode is raw, deeply honest, and filled with real strategies for surviving the unsurvivable. Karina doesn't just talk about grief — she shows you what it looks like to choose your way through it, one controlled decision at a time.00:00 Accident Aftermath Tease03:03 Podcast Welcome Intro03:55 Karina Background Legacy08:19 Epilepsy Early Seizures12:07 Pool Day Turns Tragic16:29 Hospital ICU Reality22:28 Brain Death Decision23:38 Organ Donation Choice31:13 Celebrating Sophies Life33:21 Living Life Peacefully38:37 Pushing Limits Everest40:31 Dangerous Roads Alone46:54 Bridges Panic Breakthrough50:52 Mindful Trek Beginnings51:22 Sacred Waters Lesson52:34 Unprocessed Grief Opens53:47 Monastery Tears Shift55:04 Altitude Sickness Fight57:30 Base Camp Farewell Ritual58:39 Donate Life Awareness01:01:37 Hospital Scare Aftermath01:04:34 Mentoring Through Grief01:06:38 Practical Dark Day Tools01:08:47 Letting Go Of Blame01:12:55 Senses And Control01:18:53 The Sophie Effect Mission01:21:25 Programs Awards Legacy01:26:05 Work Speaking New Projects01:29:12 Choice Legacy Closing

In this powerful episode, we sit down with Gavin Topp - former Australian boxing champion, top-12 world-ranked fighter, author, and men's coach. Gavin opens up about a life shaped by a rough upbringing, street fights, addiction, world-level boxing, and a profound spiritual turning point. He shares how all of it led him to his true mission: helping men discover their purpose, step into leadership, and build a life and legacy they're proud of.This one is raw, honest, and packed with wisdom for any man willing to do the real work.Guest BioGavin Topp is a former Australian boxing champion who competed at the top 12 in the world. He is the author of A Rite of Passage for the Modern Man and The Man Alive book, and the founder of the Fight Like a Pro boxing program and The Man Alive Experience — an online program helping men level up in their family, business, and faith.Gavin has been married to his wife Michelle since their teenage years. Together they have seven children. In 2023 they relocated to Malta for over two years as part of living a purposeful, adventurous family life.Key Topics CoveredThe three men inside every man — and which one you actually listen toHow Gavin's chaotic upbringing, loyalty wound, and street-fighting years led him to the boxing gymHis struggles with alcohol and drug addiction as a young fighterTraveling the world at 19 with no plan — Singapore, Thailand, Amsterdam, and beyondThe lowest points: criminality, a casino robbery, almost driving through plate-glass doorsA series of unexplained spiritual encounters that kept showing up throughout his lifeFighting for a Commonwealth title in Edmonton, Canada while completely exhaustedHis faith journey and the Easter church service that changed everythingWhy he built a boxing program for men who had never fought — and what it really taught themThe myth of toxic masculinity — and what actually defines a manThe importance of initiation, validation, and having the right men in your cornerLiving by oaths — alcohol-free for 30+ years, marriage, purpose, and legacyTaking his family to Malta for two years and what that taught him about legacyThe "lone wolf" fantasy and why community is essential for menHis three-step framework: know your purpose, develop for it, deploy into itQuotes from the Episode"There's three sorts of men inside every man. There's the man I tell you I am, there's the man I think I am, and then there's the guy who lives on the inside — and that's the guy you gotta make your friend.""There is no such thing as toxic masculinity. Either you've got a masculine man or you've got a toxic man. All that toxic is, is just a man who is undeveloped.""Environment is stronger than willpower — be very careful the environment you put yourself in.""A man is defined by the oaths he lives by.""Legacy is happening right now. Everyone's leaving a legacy, but is it the one you want?""You either know your purpose and you're pursuing it, or by default you end up pursuing somebody else's.""The lone wolf thing — it's a fantasy."Resources Mentionedgavintopp.com — Free resource: The 8 Biggest Mistakes Successful Men Are MakingThe Man Alive Experience — Gavin's online men's program (20-week purpose and mission clarity program)Fight Like a Pro — Gavin's boxing program for men who have never foughtA Rite of Passage for the Modern Man — Gavin's first book (read in 40 minutes; covers the 7 Pillars of Rite of Passage)The Man Alive — Gavin's second bookYouTube: GavinlancetoppInstagram: @gavinlancetopp

On the Tomorrow Is Not Today Podcast, Kingsley interviews Caroline Clarke, an ex-police officer and trauma therapist who works with women worldwide who sense something is wrong in their lives or relationships but lack language for it. Clarke explains how early childhood (0–7) encodes a “blueprint” of people-pleasing and self-abandonment that can attract controlling partners, and shares vivid memories of protecting her mother during alcohol-fueled violence, creating hypervigilance and silence. She describes how the body stores trauma, recounting a panic response en route to a knife-point hostage call that later connected to a forgotten childhood knife incident, and discusses fight/flight/freeze, breathing, shaking, and asking “How old am I?” She outlines boundaries, red flags, emotional/coercive control, and rebuilding self-trust, plus her No More Silence foundation, her book Breaking the Good Girl Code, and her Miss Australia Legacy International mission.00:00 Childhood Terror Memory01:31 Meet Caroline Clark02:44 Breaking the Good Girl Code04:22 Blueprints From Early Years06:46 Three Year Old Protector11:03 Narcissistic Control And Survival14:00 Body Keeps The Score15:12 Police Panic And Flashback19:27 Grounding In The Moment21:30 Fight Flight Freeze Explained24:25 Anger Triggers In Public26:41 Deescalation And Trauma Roles29:50 Bravery And Police Insights33:06 Freeze Versus Fight Patterns35:13 Fight or Freeze Patterns36:01 Gender Roles and Conditioning36:49 Breaking Relationship Blueprints39:26 Her Story Emotional Abuse40:54 Empty Fridge Analogy43:09 Breadcrumb Cycles and Promises47:59 Red Flags and Loneliness50:48 Rebuilding Self Trust52:44 Boundaries in Dating56:51 Reparenting the Inner Child59:05 Parenting Through Trauma01:02:55 No More Silence Mission01:05:50 Legacy and Where to Find Her

What happens when success leaves you empty, angry, and barely holding your marriage together?In this episode of Tomorrow's Not Today, host Kingsley Colley sits down with Mariana Lennert — Brazilian-born feminine leadership mentor, entrepreneur, and founder of Empower Her — now based in Australia after a life-changing move 19 years ago.Mariana opens up about leaving a law career that no longer aligned with her soul, navigating motherhood as a single mum in a foreign country, building multiple businesses — and still hitting rock bottom with depression, panic attacks, an eating disorder, and a marriage on the brink of collapse.This is a raw, honest conversation about what it really takes to heal, lead, and live with purpose.In this episode you'll discover:Why high-achieving women often mask deep pain behind outward successHow childhood safety patterns fuel control, resentment, and relationship breakdownThe LSD experience in Brazil that convinced Mariana she was "here for something"Why small, courageous actions — not giant leaps — create lasting transformationHow to follow signs, build intentional legacy, and lead from authentic powerListen now if you're ready to stop surviving and start leading.Timestamps: 00:00 Breakup and New Start 01:08 Meet Mariana Lennert 03:02 From Brazil to Australia 04:25 Law Career Wake Up 06:56 Learning English Fast 08:05 Motherhood and New Marriage 10:30 Success but Depressed 13:51 Control and Resentment 17:07 Childhood Roots of Control 21:43 Healing and Asking Help 25:26 Turning Pain into Purpose 28:20 Helping Women Change 31:16 Courage Over Fear 32:59 Start Small Actions 35:10 Brazil Family Breakdown 36:55 Highway Wake Up Call 40:29 Purpose After Survival 44:21 Small Kindness Big Impact 48:36 Saying Yes To Signs 51:05 Service Over Self Doubt 53:58 Legacy And Leadership 55:44 Connect And Next Steps 56:26 Final Thanks And Wrap

On the Tomorrow’s Not Today podcast, Kingsley interviews Kerrie Atherton—wife, mother, grandmother, jazz musician, mental health advocate, addiction counsellor, author, podcaster, board director with Mentoring Men Australia, and ambassador for Fearless PTSD—about how childhood trauma and addiction shaped her purpose. Kerrie describes growing up with alcoholism, bipolar disorder in her mother, early traumatic events, bullying by a teacher, sexual assault by a pedophile, later rape, substance misuse, suicidality, and a near-fatal overdose. At 18, after planning to end her life and hearing a voice telling her not to, she returned to Alcoholics Anonymous and has been sober for 44 years. She discusses acceptance, delusion/denial in addiction, “54” negative consequences across love, livelihood, liver, and law, and the need for families to detach without enabling. She founded Stories of Hope events, published three books featuring nearly 50 speakers, hosts Inspirational Humans, and offers coaching for burned-out leaders.00:00 Abuse and Fear01:12 Meet Kerry Atherton02:31 Many Hats and Mission04:49 Family Addiction Roots08:02 Childhood Trauma Begins10:05 Assault and No Justice11:48 Bullying and Breakdown12:50 Alcohol as Escape17:10 Spiral Toward Rock Bottom22:20 Turning Point to AA25:25 Recovery and New Purpose30:26 Acceptance and Practical Steps32:07 Pain Drives Change33:57 Rock Bottom Varies34:22 The 54 Consequences36:09 Four Ls Warning Signs39:00 Delusion And Denial40:21 High Functioning Secrets43:13 Helping Loved Ones44:27 Detach With Love48:19 Tough Love Boundaries52:17 Stories Of Hope Mission56:40 Leaders Under Pressure01:02:17 Programs And Resources01:04:15 Redefining Success

On The Tomorrow Is Not Today podcast, Kingsley interviews his longtime friend Patrick, an Ohio-based husband, father of four, artist, pastor, and entrepreneur who has travelled widely doing prison outreach. Patrick recounts growing up in a broken home after his father left when he was about five, moving from Denver to inner-city Cleveland and into poverty, and later going to Colorado to find his father only to encounter severe abuse, alcoholism, drugs, and violence. Feeling unseen, he lashed out and returned to Cleveland angrier, quickly entering crime and substance use. At 16 he was arrested on five counts of kidnapping, aggravated robbery with a gun, and a home invasion, facing a minimum of 45 years, and while incarcerated learned his brother Larry—who had not been in trouble—was stabbed to death; his best friend was stabbed in the heart and survived but remains blind and paralysed. The killer avoided prison, had political connections, was given the knife back in court, and later became a police officer, prompting Patrick to plan revenge until he heard a voice in his cell telling him it would not honor his brother. Patrick describes choosing forgiveness—also forgiving himself—through an intense spiritual experience in solitary confinement and later through therapy focused on healing his inner child. He explains he avoided adult court after telling the judge the truth, accepting responsibility, and apologising to victims; the judge kept him in the juvenile system, reducing potential time to about four and a half years. In prison he pursued education and skills, then was released with a condition he return to Colorado, where he connected with a supportive church community (where he met Kingsley) that helped him rebuild his life. Patrick says his purpose is tied to his deepest wounds and describes creating businesses (coffee shops and construction) that employ only people coming out of prison or drug treatment, citing an 87% success rate and emphasising that many incarcerated people have unresolved childhood trauma. He shares an example of “Big Al,” a large, institutionalised former violent offender who had never had a birthday celebrated; after Patrick and an Australian team threw him a surprise birthday and symbolically burned his prison items, Al’s life changed and he has not returned to prison or harmed anyone in over 10 years. The episode closes with Patrick’s guidance on legacy: recognise your inherent worth and the brevity of life, find what makes you feel alive, and use your gifts for something bigger than yourself that benefits others.00:00 Wounded to Purpose: The Pain That Shaped My Calling01:14 Welcome to the Podcast + Meet Patrick (Husband, Dad, Pastor, Entrepreneur)03:14 Childhood in a Broken Home: Poverty, Identity, and Growing Up Unseen06:54 Colorado Reality Check: Alcoholism, Abuse, and the Dream Dad That Wasn’t09:18 Lashing Out for Attention: The Gun Incident and Fleeing Back to Cleveland14:36 Street Life Spiral: Drugs, Violence, and the Arrest at 1616:18 Tragedy Behind Bars: Brother’s Murder, Injustice, and the Pull of Revenge19:05 The Turning Point: Hearing God, Choosing Fuel Over Fire, and Learning Forgiveness25:06 Forgiving Yourself First: Grace, Therapy, and Healing the Inner Child33:42 Redefining Success: Purpose, Legacy, and the ‘Hard Worker’ Funeral Warning36:22 More Than Nice Stuff: Legacy, Purpose & Serving Others38:54 How Patrick Got Out Early: Owning the Truth in Court41:38 Prison as a Training Ground: Turning Pain Into Growth42:37 Back to Colorado: Doubters, Fresh Start & Finding Community47:56 The Power of Presence: Hospitality That Changes Lives50:35 Purpose From Pain: Building Second-Chance Businesses53:51 Big Al’s Story: Being Seen for the First Time01:04:31 Final Takeaways: Worth, Brevity of Life & Living Without Regret

What does it really take to live your dreams? Megan Jarvis—BMX champion, professional athlete, Ninja Warrior, entrepreneur, and wellness coach—has spent her life answering that question by doing what she loves, no matter the cost.In this deeply inspiring conversation, Megan reveals the truth about pursuing your passion: it's not about having it all figured out. It's about finding the courage to go against the grain, doing the work when no one's watching, and refusing to let fear stop you from becoming who you're meant to be.In this episode, you'll discover:How to find your true purpose by digging into what makes you angryWhy living your passion requires breaking the rules (and bending a few along the way)The moment Megan realized she needed to stop living for others' expectationsHow to turn your darkest breakdowns into breakthroughs that propel you forwardWhy "do it now" is the only mantra you need to start living the life you wantThe daily practices that keep you aligned with your purpose (even on hard days)How leaving a legacy isn't about grand gestures—it's about doing what truly matters to youMegan doesn't just talk about passion and purpose—she lives it. From teaching English illegally while playing professional basketball to rescuing children from sex trafficking through her events, she's proof that when you commit to what you love and what matters, your legacy builds itself.This conversation is your wake up call. If you've been waiting for permission to pursue your dreams, to start that side hustle, to finally do the thing that lights you up—this is it. Time is short. Do it now.Key Topics: Passion, purpose, courage, legacy, entrepreneurship, living your dreams, overcoming fear, authenticity, resilience, making an impact

In this episode of 'The Tomorrow Is Not Today' podcast, host Kingsley welcomes guest David Amerland, an accomplished author with a varied background in business, fitness, and personal development. They delve into what it means to be 'built to last' as a person, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and understanding one's motivations. The conversation explores how our mindset significantly affects our physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Highlighting studies like the Harvard Hotel Maid study and research on Navy Seals, the episode shows how a positive mindset can lead to tangible benefits in personal and professional life. They also touch on practical tips for maintaining health and fitness, stressing that small, consistent actions can have a profound impact. Tune in for an enlightening discussion on how to create a meaningful and fulfilling life through the power of self-awareness and the right mindset.00:00 Introduction: Built to Last00:58 Meet the Guest: David Amerland01:39 Understanding Self-Awareness03:23 The Impact of Identity05:45 Energy and Identity12:05 Consistency in Different Roles15:10 The Importance of Health in Business18:05 Mindset and Self-Awareness20:20 The Power of Mindset21:03 Mindset in Business and Sports21:56 Navy Seals Study on Mindset23:46 The Glass Half Full Perspective26:37 Reframing and Stress Management29:23 Interconnectedness of Mind and Body31:05 David's Journey and Insights33:10 Creating the Ultimate Tomorrow35:42 Final Thoughts and Farewell

In this episode of The Tomorrow Is Not Today podcast, Kingsley hosts a conversation with a highly respected business professional who shares his journey from being a volunteer fireman to leading a successful international franchise company. With over 30 years in business, the guest delves into the mindset required to sustain and grow a business, highlighting the importance of falling in love with one's business, continuous learning, and adapting to new opportunities. He shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on handling challenges, making decisions, and the significance of rewarding oneself and maintaining humility. The discussion also emphasizes the role of happiness and personal fulfillment, underscoring how true success is measured by more than just financial achievements. This episode offers valuable insights for both new and seasoned business owners aiming to create a life they truly love.00:00 Introduction to The Tomorrow Is Not Today Podcast00:29 Guest Introduction and Background01:11 Sustaining a Long-Term Business03:52 Mindset Shifts for Business Success05:08 Expanding and Franchising the Business07:55 Listening and Learning from Others10:36 Taking Responsibility and Implementing Change13:03 Overcoming Challenges and Roadblocks16:56 The Birth of Bartercard23:17 A Lesson from Mercedes-Benz26:22 Maintaining Drive Amid Success28:34 Balancing Personal Rewards and Humility33:12 Redefining Happiness Through Charity34:46 The Importance of a North Star38:17 Sacrifice and Success in Business40:59 Closing Thoughts and Future Outlook

Join us in this insightful episode of 'The Tomorrow Is Not Today Podcast' as Kingsley sits down with Michael Hughes from Weyridges. Michael shares his expertise on men's fashion, offering tips and guidance on dressing well for business and beyond.🚀 Highlights of this episode include:• The importance of dressing well in business • How to select the right attire for different occasions • Seasonal fashion tips for men • Differences between custom-made and off-the-rack suits • The return of classic styles and trends👔 Whether you're a business professional or just looking to elevate your style, this episode is packed with valuable information to help you dress for success.📌 Timestamps:00:00 Introduction 01:05 The significance of appearance in business 03:15 Custom-made vs. off-the-rack suits 15:25 Seasonal fashion tips 25:50 Current fashion trends and styles 35:15 Dressing confidently 45:30 Michael’s fashion journey and advice🔗 Connect with Michael Hughes: Instagram: [@weyridges](https://www.instagram.com/weyridges) Website: [www.weyridges.com](https://www.weyridges.com)🔔 Don't forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell to stay updated with our latest episodes and insights!#MensFashion #BusinessAttire #TailoredSuits #TomorrowIsNotTodayPodcast #AwayRidges

In this powerful episode of 'The Tomorrow is Not Today Podcast,' Kingsley is joined by Marc Nuss from Destiny Rescue. They dive deep into Marc's journey with Destiny Rescue, sharing harrowing stories of child trafficking and the incredible, life-changing work being done to rescue and rehabilitate these children.

Ben Steel discusses mental health and the film industryBen Steel joins Kingsley Colley to explore the critical intersection of mental health in the entertainment industry. Ben shares his insights borne from personal experience and his work in founding ScreenWell, an organization focused on improving mental health outcomes within the film and TV sector. They delve into the systemic challenges, current initiatives, and the broader implications on industry professionals and society.