Unwineding

Hi ladiesss! This week, I'm joined by therapist Kaela Ason for a conversation that felt like therapy for every high-achieving woman who's ever overthought a text, treated dating like a checklist, or wondered why relationships can feel so much harder than everything else she's accomplished. We talk about why so many successful women struggle in relationships, why we get attached to people we barely know, and how anxiety can make us focus on being chosen instead of doing the choosing ourselves. Kaela breaks down the difference between anxiety and intuition, discernment and self-sabotage, and why so many of us intellectualize our feelings instead of actually letting ourselves feel them. We also get into people-pleasing, perfectionism, self-trust, and why having your life together doesn't necessarily make relationships feel easier. We talk:• why high-achieving women tend to overthink relationships• getting attached to people we barely know• treating dating like a checklist instead of asking how we actually feel• anxiety vs. intuition (& how to tell the difference)• discernment vs. self-sabotage• why people-pleasing shows up so often in dating• learning to trust yourself, even when relationships don't work out• trying to be chosen instead of doing the choosing• why successful women can struggle with relationships and vulnerability• perfectionism, self-worth, and the pressure to always have it all together• confusing peace with boredom and chemistry with chaos• building self-trust and learning to feel safe in healthy relationships & so much more. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

“Women have a difficult time keeping the guys they like around and men have a hard time getting the girls they want.” Ok ladies, we’re revisiting one of my favorite episodes with dating coach & content creator, Ben Hart! Don’t tell him, but he’s one of my favorite voices in the dating space—I find his advice direct, fun, practical, and incredibly honest (which is what we sometimes don’t want but absolutely need). Think of this episode as your guide to modern dating—we’re exploring the messy, sometimes confusing early stages where most of us (hi, women who unfortunately date men) start to lose our power. We get into how dating content overload is making us over-intellectualize everything, why we’re obsessed with templates and rules, and what actually matters more than counting the hours between his texts. We talk: • why we’re all over-consuming dating advice and under-listening to how we actually feel • the difference between being strategic vs. being hyper-tactical and counting every minute between texts • “matching energy,” reacting to his every move, and how that quietly gives your power away • why texting makes us *lose our minds* sometimes • how men are thinking about vulnerability • the art of FLIRTING (and how to get approached out in the wild) • worthiness, self-respect, and identity shifts for the relationship you want If you want to feel more confident, more calm, and more in your power during the early stages of dating (and beyond), this episode is going to be your new best friend. As always, take whatever you needed today & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x + Watch this episode on Youtube + Thank you so much to Quince for sponsoring this episode. Elevate your summer wardrobe: go to quince.com/unwineding for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns (get the 100% European Linen Pants, trust me). SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ follow Ben on Instagram follow Ben on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠storefront⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do so many ambitious women still feel like they’re behind… even when they’re doing everything “right”? In this episode, I’m opening up about ambition, perfectionism, self-worth, productivity, purpose, burnout, and the pressure to constantly become “more.” After one very honest conversation sent me into a spiral about fulfillment and identity, I started questioning pretty much everything. Remy (my podcast engineer and beautiful friend) joins me to chat about the psychology behind high achievement, the emotional weight of never feeling like you’ve done enough, and where I might be looking for bandaids instead of going deeper. I also talk about: • perfectionism & fear of failure• burnout, ambition & identity• wanting more purpose & meaningful work• self-worth tied to achievement• the pressure to constantly be productive• taking action before feeling ready• building a life that actually feels fulfilling & more. I hope there’s something in this episode you needed (and if you feel identified, DM so we can chat. I’d literally love that). See you next week. xx SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Remy on Instagram listen to our confidence episode follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I love when you guys send me friendship questions because sometimes they inspire full episodes—like today’s. It’s just us this week, and I’m sharing my thoughts on this submission: “Is it normal for friendships to feel more transactional as you get older? Like everyone’s busy and it starts to feel like you’re scheduling each other in?” We’re talking about friendship maintenance, changing dynamics in adulthood, one-sided friendships, emotional bandwidth, and why effort (and yes, even scheduling) in friendship isn’t a bad thing whatsoever. I also share my thoughts on adapting to different seasons of life, outgrowing certain friendships, and what healthy adult friendship actually looks like. If friendship has felt different lately—or you’ve been struggling with the discomfort of changing dynamics as you grow up—I hope this episode makes you feel a little less alone. As always, take whatever resonates and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Turns out we can’t rush healing…but we can understand it. Consider this episode your comprehensive breakup guide—Sabrina Bendory, author and relationship coach, is back on Unwineding and is breaking down the psychology of heartbreak so we can learn how to ACTUALLY heal and move on. Sabrina is helping us make sense of why heartbreak hurts so much and giving us tangible steps to heal without hardening. We talk about why breakups can feel like withdrawal, why you miss someone even when you know they’re not right for you, and why short-term relationships (or situationships) can sometimes hurt even more than long-term ones. Sabrina shares practical tools to help you move on, rebuild self-trust, and stop tying your worth to someone else’s inability to choose you. Whether you’re fresh out of a breakup or still holding onto something that ended a while ago, I promise this episode will help you feel less alone and more grounded in your healing process. We also chat:• the right (& wrong) way to get through a breakup• the psychology behind heartbreak and emotional pain• why heartbreak feels like physical pain• no contact: why it works and how to stick to it• why you still miss your ex (even when they weren’t right for you)• situationships and why they can be harder to get over• rebuilding self-worth and self-trust after a breakup• letting go of the “why wasn’t I enough?” narrative• healing without becoming closed off or guarded• how to stop romanticizing the beginning of a relationship If you’re in the middle of heartbreak right now, I hope this episode feels like a conversation with a friend who gets it—and reminds you that you will be okay. I PROMISE. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. Listen to Sabrina's previous episode on Unwineding on mastering detachment & becoming magnetic SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Sabrina on Instagram follow Sabrina on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Remember: you can't be late to your own life. If things feel uncertain, overwhelming, or not how you imagined they would be right now, this episode is for you. It's just us this week and we’re talking about navigating difficult seasons, learning how to sit with the unknown, and finding steadiness when life doesn’t go according to plan. As always, I hope there was something you needed today. Take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

File this episode under: the dating advice we probably need but don’t always want to hear. Alyssa Pettinato, host of the Missjudged Podcast, is on Unwineding today and we’re getting into the chaos that is modern dating: from being the “chill girl,” to unrealistic expectations, to whether we’re actually making dating harder than it needs to be. We talk about why dating feels so confusing right now, why so many women feel burnt out by modern dating culture, and how to balance having high standards without unintentionally limiting yourself. We also get into how to screen men early, what “dating intentionally” actually means (and why Alyssa is OVER this statement), and how to stop overcomplicating relationships before they even begin. Oh, and how we love a short king. We also talk: • why modern dating feels so complicated right now• the problem with trying to be the “chill girl”• dating standards vs unrealistic expectations• how to screen men early in dating• what “dating intentionally” actually means• how to know what you want in a partner• why dating apps can feel draining• how to have more fun dating again• mindset shifts for healthier relationships• navigating avoidant partners and emotional availability• why dating should feel exciting, not exhausting• how to stay optimistic about love and relationships & more. As always, take whatever you need from our conversation and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Alyssa on Instagram follow Alyssa on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We talk so much about intention and communication in romantic relationships, but our friendships deserve the same amount of effort. My beautiful girl (and Unwineding Podcast regular), Angie Lassman, is back and we’re doing what we do best: talking about female friendships. We’re exploring how the love languages show up in friendship (vs. romantic relationships) and why understanding how your friends feel loved can completely change the way you show up for each other. We also talk about the importance of communication, navigating misunderstandings, and why friendships deserve the same level of care and intention we often reserve for romantic relationships. And we’re circling back on a challenge we gave each other last summer—on being less avoidant (lol). Angie worked on her avoidance with friends (and killed it), and I worked on my avoidance with men (and didn’t exactly kill it). But we live and we learn. We also chat about: • love languages in friendship and how they show up differently than in romantic relationships• why understanding your friends’ love languages can strengthen your friendship• how to communicate better in friendships• asking for what you need from your friends• why healthy friendships require effort, intention, and communication• navigating misunderstandings and conflict in friendship• how we’re working on our people-pleasing tendencies• why many of us struggle to voice our needs in relationships• how small acts of care can make friends feel loved and supported• the importance of nurturing female friendships• why strong friendships are built (they don’t just exist) As always, I hope there’s something in this conversation you needed today—take whatever resonates and leave the rest. See you next week. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Angie on Instagram follow Angie on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No one teaches you how to lose a parent. And no one teaches you what to say to someone who has.In this episode of Unwineding, Destinee and I talk about what it actually means to navigate grief—especially after losing a parent. We open up about losing our dads, the identity shift that comes with that kind of loss, and the strange, quiet ways grief shows up long after everyone else thinks you’re “okay.”Because sometimes grief is so loud.But sometimes it’s subtle.Sometimes it hits you months later on a random Wednesday. And then there’s the other side of it:What do you do when someone you love is grieving?How do you support someone coping with loss when you’re afraid of saying the wrong thing?How do you show up when you can’t fix it? In this conversation, we talk:• what navigating grief really looks like after losing a parent• how coping with loss can reshape your identity• why grief doesn’t follow a timeline• the unexpected emotional waves of grieving• what actually helps when you’re grieving—and what doesn’t• how to support someone who is grieving• what to say to someone grieving (and what to avoid)• how to be there for someone navigating loss without trying to solve it• why grief doesn’t end—it evolves This episode is for anyone who is grieving a parent, coping with loss, or trying to figure out how to support someone who is grieving.Because grief is universal (unfortunately) we will all experience loss, but the way we carry it is deeply personal. So if you’re navigating grief right now, I hope this makes you feel seen and understood (we truly feel you).If you love someone who is grieving, I hope this gives you clarity and confidence in how to show up for them (because we need you).And remember, sometimes support isn’t about having perfect words.It’s just about staying. Welcome to a conversation about love, loss, and the kind of grief that changes you forever. Watch this episode on Youtube SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Destinee on Instagram follow Destinee on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if I told you that you could go through a breakup with someone you thought you were going to marry... and not be heartbroken? And what if I told you that you actually CAN have it all—the career, the standards, the dream relationship—without settling or shrinking yourself? Emma Paige, host of the Too Much Podcast, is back on Unwineding this week, and this is exactly what we’re getting into. How do you not self-abandon in a relationship? How do you walk away from someone who's great on paper but you just don’t feel excited about it? How do you actually enjoy being single instead of treating it like a waiting room? And how does raising your standards actually make dating MORE fun, not harder? In this episode we cover: healing after a breakup without losing your confidence how to stop settling in dating rebuilding your standards after heartbreak why high standards attract better partners walking away from someone who’s good on paper how to enjoy being single and stop rushing a relationship dating in your 30s and choosing intentionally not self-abandoning in relationships boundaries, self-respect, and emotional availability why patience leads to a healthier long-term relationship creating a life that attracts the right partner If you're single, heartbroken, or just trying to figure out what you deserve—this episode is gonna hit different. This conversation is equal parts therapy session and pep talk, and I promise you're gonna walk away feeling so empowered. We talk about what happens when you stop dating out of fear and start dating with clarity—why some breakups feel devastating while others feel like relief, and how building a full life actually changes who you attract. This episode is about self-worth, boundaries, and the mindset shift that leads to healthier relationships and real commitment. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Emma on Instagram follow Emma on TikTok follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Class is in session, ladies—Niko Emanuilidis, host of The Daddy Academy, is here with your complete guide to dating in 2026. We’re getting into what actually makes a man want to commit, why dating feels so confusing right now, and how to actually attract the relationship you’ve always wanted. Niko shares what men are truly thinking in the early stages of dating, how to get approached more IRL, and the biggest mistakes women are making. We explore why you attract who you are—and why you might be attracting emotionally unavailable partners (and how to stop). Ultimately, this is your guide to shifting your patterns, dating from a place of true confidence, and raising your standards to attract a healthy, beautiful relationship. We also cover: why men pull away in dating how to know if a man is serious about you masculine vs. feminine energy in dating what your social media says about you (& do guys notice?) tangible ways to get approached in the wild how to shift your mindset to confidently enjoy dating questions you need to ask in early dating how men ultimately decide on a relationship how to attract better partners understanding your preferences vs. dealbreakers Whether you’re dating, single, healing, or in a situationship you’re lowkey tired of explaining, this episode will help you understand dating dynamics and feel more empowered in your choices. As always, take whatever resonates & leave the rest. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Niko on ⁠Instagram⁠ follow Niko on TikTok watch The Daddy Academy on Youtube follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most of us know how to show up for other people, but very few of us know how to show up for ourselves. This week, it’s just us, and I’m sharing a practical guide to becoming your own best friend (and what that actually means). Spoiler alert: self-care isn’t really on the list (maybe a quick mention here or there), because I’ve found it goes way deeper than bubble baths and face masks (though I’m a h03 for a bubble bath, k). We’re talking: self-talk, learning to trust your intuition, regulating your emotions, fostering community, staying curious, and letting yourself take up all the space you desire. We also cover: building self-trust and confidence emotional regulation and nervous system awareness setting boundaries without guilt personal growth and mindset shifts strengthening your relationship with yourself showing up for yourself in friendships and relationships And more. I hope there’s something in here you needed, and as always, I’d love to know what it was. LOVE YOU. x SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Things you know I love: lessons and lists. And we’re back (hi, missed you!) with the first solo episode of 2026—and I’m sharing the life, love, and friendship lessons I’m intentionally carrying forward this year. These are the shifts that changed how I date, how I show up in my friendships, and how I move through my own life—the ones I wish I’d learned sooner, and the ones I’m finally honoring now. Consider this episode a reminder that growth doesn’t come from doing more; it comes from seeing things differently. If you’re in a season of choosing yourself, re-evaluating your relationships, or craving clarity and self-trust, I hope you’ll feel seen here. As always, take whatever you need and leave the rest. LOVE YOU. NEW YEAR EPISODES YOU'LL LOVE: EP: things you accomplished this year you're probably forgetting about EP: how to create your dream life EP: building a 7-figure swimwear brand w/ Nyud Co-owner, Emily Osmow EP: the confidence code: science-backed strategies to build true confidence EP: how to be unbothered as f*ck EP: how to mentally glow up & stop self-sabotaging SAY HI: follow Lisa on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ follow Lisa on ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠ follow Unwineding on ⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠ subscribe to Unwineding on ⁠⁠Youtube⁠⁠ shop Unwineding’s ⁠⁠storefront Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices