The Secret So Many Men Carry: Pornography, Shame, and the Fight for Real Intimacy (with Tyler Flowers)

About this episode

The episode explores the impact of pornography addiction on intimacy and mental health, featuring insights from guest Tyler Flowers.

Send us Fan Mail We share an unflinching look at pornography addiction as a counterfeit path to presence and how surrender, regulation, and community create real change. Tyler opens his story, breaks down brain science, and shows couples how to rebuild safety without linear timelines. • the link between fear, dysregulation and porn use • why willpower fails under fight or flight • addiction as unmet needs seeking relief • regulation skills for grounding and presence • early exposure, secrecy...

People in this episode

Guest: Tyler Flowers

Topics covered

• pornography addiction
• intimacy
• mental health
• community support
• brain science
• emotional regulation

Keywords

• pornography
• shame
• intimacy
• addiction
• regulation skills
• dysregulation
• fear
• couples therapy

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