We Should Probably Edit This — But We Won't

Episode 39 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't opens with Matthew spending 40 minutes trying to get the setup right — which Nancy has exactly zero patience for. From there they get into the real stuff: where do they want to retire? They used an astrocartography tool to narrow it down and landed on Portugal, Spain, Italy, Charleston, and Sarasota as their top five destinations to explore. Portugal is first up in September.They also get into the MOVES method — a flexibility and mobility routine that's revealing just how inflexible two people in their 60s can be. The wedges are on the floor. The neighbor who paddleboards in a wetsuit in January is the goal. And Matthew is eyeing rowing while Nancy wants to get back to dance class. Meanwhile, the body isn't cooperating the way it used to, and they're both trying to figure out what that means going forward.Also: Nancy told Matthew to pick one project. He narrowed it down to three. Progress.💡 Key Takeaways:Pick one project and master it — doing too many things at once means nothing gets done wellPlan your retirement before someone else plans it for you — explore while you still can chooseUse tools to explore, not decide — astrocartography gave them destinations, not answersYour future self is trying to tell you something — the flexibility work now is about tying your shoes at 80Know your strengths — Matthew's a Learner/Achiever; Nancy doesn't want to learn the tech, she wants it to workFind exercise you'll actually do — gym failed, yoga failed, tennis and dance might stick

Episode 37 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won't starts with a fall — Nancy goes down hard on pavement leaving church, knees and wrist taking the hit — and somehow gets more chaotic from there. While Matthew joins a Zoom call in the waiting room, Nancy wanders into the wrong exam room and single-handedly discombobulates an entire urgent care office. Classic Nancy and Matthew energy.But underneath the laughs, this episode gets real. Matthew and Nancy talk about how couples communicate (and miscommunicate), why 75% of the time is actually pretty good, and what it means to handle unexpected setbacks without falling apart. They also get into something a lot of people avoid: taking ownership of your own health. Knowing your body, asking the right questions, advocating for yourself, and — Matthew, this means you — actually making the appointment.It's messy, it's funny, and it's very, very unedited.💡 Key Takeaways:Couples communication is never perfect — 75% is a win; it's the other 25% that keeps things interestingFind the humor — when life knocks you down (literally), laughing through it beats staying madHandle it, then adjust — address the immediate crisis first, then figure out how it changes your plansOwn your health — know your body, ask good questions, and don't use "I don't know the doctor" as an excuse not to goYour spouse is your best advocate — sometimes it takes someone who knows you to push you through the door

Whether it’s a fishing trip, a facial, or just locking the bathroom door for five uninterrupted minutes—this episode is all about the vital (and often funny) truth that healthy relationships need personal space. Nancy and Matthew reflect on their early parenting years, share their current routines for alone time, and talk openly about guilt, boundaries, and self-care. They also dive into the importance of balance, mutual respect, and why doing things apart can actually bring couples closer. It’s relatable, real, and surprisingly rejuvenating.🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned:Donny (Matthew's friend)Tanya (Ultra event)Megan & Vinny (couple friends)🏢 Companies/Organizations Mentioned:GrowthDayUltra (Brendon Burchard event)Silvermine Arts CenterPowerhouse Women eventTakeaways: In nurturing healthy relationships, it is paramount to acknowledge the necessity of personal space. Engaging in activities separately can foster a deeper connection between partners when they reunite. The dialogue emphasizes the significance of establishing boundaries to combat feelings of guilt in shared responsibilities. Through personal reflections, Nancy and Matthew illustrate the rejuvenating effects of self-care routines amid parenting duties. They highlight that self-care, whether through hobbies or personal time, is essential for maintaining balance in a relationship. The podcast advocates for mutual respect and understanding, particularly regarding the need for alone time in a partnership.

In Episode 23 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won’t, Nancy and Matthew dive deep into the realities (and ridiculousness) of getting older. They cover:Wrinkles, naps, and the mysterious disappearance of metabolismWhy laughter really is the best faceliftThe balance between aging parents and grown kidsFinancial lessons, personal growth, and letting go of “shoulds”Travel dreams, staying active, and refusing to slow downIt’s equal parts reflection, comedy, and truth — because if you can’t laugh about getting older, you’re missing the best part.From sagging jowls and forgotten glasses to retirement dreams and rollercoaster regrets, Nancy and Matthew get real (and really funny) about aging. They share what’s changed, what still matters, and the life lessons that come with gray hairs, grown kids, and grandkids.It’s a brutally honest — and surprisingly hilarious — take on what it means to grow older together with love, laughter, and a little less hair.Takeaways: Aging brings both physical changes and emotional adjustments that require honest reflection. The significance of maintaining friendships and social connections becomes increasingly apparent as we age. Financial preparedness is crucial for enjoying a comfortable retirement and avoiding stress later in life. Life experiences lead to a shift in priorities, where joy in simple moments outweighs previous concerns. Embracing the inevitability of aging allows for a focus on personal growth and fulfillment. Understanding that life stages bring different challenges can help navigate the complexities of aging.

In Episode 21 of We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won’t, Nancy and Matthew record from the rim of the Grand Canyon and dive into a wide-ranging, often hilarious conversation about marriage, memories, and making fun a priority. They talk about:Why humor is essential in relationshipsInside jokes that keep families connectedThe surprising lessons of off-grid livingRV dreams and solo trips with their grown kidsEmbracing discomfort (like memory-foam rocks) for real connectionWhy adventure is better when sharedThey even reflect on the shortness of life in the face of 500 million years of erosion. It's deep, funny, and full of heart.🧑‍🤝‍🧑 People Mentioned• Ben, Katie & Noah – Their adult kids (get ready for solo trips!)• A very specific friend who would NOT sit on the edge of the Grand Canyon🏢 Places/Events Mentioned• Grand Canyon National Park• GrowthDay Ultra Event – Scottsdale, AZ• Starlink Wi-Fi (out in the wild)• That one off-the-grid Airbnb they’ll never forget

When you’re raising kids, vacations are less about perfection and more about presence. We talk through our most memorable trips—from 22-hour drives to Florida (hello, Disney employee pass) to Maine island cottages with pets in tow—and the systems that helped us survive: packing snacks, bringing backup water/towels, rigging a portable TV/VCR, and budgeting with creativity. We also share a hard-earned lesson: if you’re lucky enough to go, disconnect and actually be with your people. Now as empty nesters, we’re relearning how to choose a destination, set a budget, and just…book it.You’ll hear about:Budget hacks (free lodging with family, passes, packed lunches)Long-haul road trip logistics with kids + petsThe cat-on-the-pillow incident (never again 😅)Holiday flight chaos (the legendary “hacking guy”)Why being present beats being “productive” on vacationOur struggle to plan trips as a duo—and how we’re fixing it

In this episode, Matthew and Nancy get real about morning routines—the good, the messy, and the downright funny. From making the bed and tackling workouts to green smoothies, ironing, and finding ways to avoid morning chaos, they share how little habits set the tone for the whole day. Along the way, they unpack how Covid changed their rhythms, why prep the night before matters, and how even coffee has its own “zone.”Takeaways: Morning routines are essential as they establish the framework for a productive day ahead. Preparation for the morning begins the night before, significantly reducing chaos and stress. Engaging in physical activity, such as exercising or biking, is vital for setting a positive tone. Minimizing distractions during morning routines is crucial for maintaining focus and clarity throughout the day. Listening to uplifting content, rather than news, can foster a more positive mindset in the mornings. Establishing a consistent evening routine can greatly enhance the effectiveness of your morning practices. Companies/people mentioned in this episode: Ed Mylett Mel Robbins

Getting to know someone sounds simple — until you’re actually doing it while planning a wedding, moving between states, and figuring out who’s walking the dog at 2 a.m. In this week’s episode, Nancy and Matthew revisit their early days: the unexpected way they met, the two-year break, the long-distance phone calls, and the decision that brought them back together. They share the challenges of blending two very different upbringings, negotiating household chores, cooking experiments gone wrong, and raising a puppy in the city. Plus, why they believe communication, patience (even when you’re not a patient person), and setting boundaries are non-negotiables for a lasting relationship.Takeaways: The journey of getting to know each other can be profound, especially amidst life changes such as wedding preparations and moving. Effective communication is paramount in a relationship, as it fosters understanding and connection between partners. Navigating the complexities of differing backgrounds requires patience, clear boundaries, and a willingness to adapt. Shared experiences, from long-distance conversations to raising a puppy, are crucial in building a lasting bond. Recognizing and respecting each other's individual differences is essential for a harmonious relationship. The importance of having a united front in public, while addressing conflicts privately, cannot be overstated.