We're Going There with Bianca Juarez

Have you ever felt the weight of an offense sitting in your chest like a stone, keeping you from the peace you know you’re meant to carry? In this episode I sit down with Pastors April and Micahn Carter to get real about the "spirit of offense." We’re cutting through the noise to expose how holding onto hurt isn't just a spiritual issue, it's a physical and relational cage. If you’ve been feeling isolated, exhausted, or stuck, this conversation is your key to freedom. We’re breaking down the roots of bitterness and bringing you the spiritual tools to walk in true liberation.In this episode, we dive into: The Roots of Bitterness: Micahn pulls back the curtain on why we get offended—often it's the entitlement, the embarrassment, or the unrealistic expectations we hold over others. The "Proximity" Trap: Why the people closest to us; our church family, our familia, our dearest friends; are the ones who wound us the deepest. Decisional vs. Emotional Forgiveness: We aren't just talking about saying "I forgive you." We’re teaching you the difference between the choice to let go of revenge and the daily work of replacing resentment with compassion. Prayer as an Anointing: Learn why it is impossible to stay angry when you are actively, fervently praying for the very people who hurt you. Owning Your Story: True healing starts when we realize we’ve all been the offender at some point. We discuss how to swallow our pride, listen to the pain behind the conflict, and walk in grace. Grab your Bible, get a cup of coffee, and join @michancarter, @therealaprilcarter and me @biancajuarezofficial as we choose freedom over bondage. Listen, subscribe, and share this with someone who needs to hear that they don't have to carry this burden any longer. Love you, B Guests Micahn and April Carter from The Place Indy Church https://www.instagram.com/theplaceindy/ Chapter Timestamps 00:00 Introduction to the Topic of Offense 06:32 Personal Stories and Experiences with Offense 15:00 Understanding the Roots of Offense 21:09 Navigating Relationships and Offense 22:13 Understanding Offense and Its Impact 30:31 Navigating Deep Offense in Close Relationships 36:40 The Journey from Decisional to Emotional Forgiveness 43:14 The Power of Prayer and Blessing in Healing Resources & Links Bianca’s Book: Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC Bible Study: Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study https://www.biancajuaerzofficial.com/gdq All Resources: Learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/resources Support Subscribe + Leave a Review: Don’t miss an episode! Find We’re Going There on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. Stay Connected: Join the community today. https://www.biancajuarezofficial.com/ WGT Email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@BiancaJuarezOfficial Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/biancajuarezofficial/ Thank You to Our Sponsors! We’re Going There is Sponsored by: HomeChef: Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE for 50% OFF your first box and free dessert for life! Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert. BetterHelp: Visit BetterHelp.com/GOINGTHERE today to get 10% off. The Wonder Project: Subscriber support makes more great content like I Gotta Ask with Annie F. Downs possible. The Wonder Project subscription on Prime Video is available in the U.S. for $8.99/month or $89.99/year after a 7-day free trial. Visit IGottaAsk.com to learn more! https://tinyurl.com/WGTIGottaAsk Youtube: https://youtu.be/ljoMZ9PtSWQ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're on a treadmill that won’t quit—always running, always chasing, never arriving? If you're a first-gen firestarter like me, raised with the “work hard or go hungry” grind etched into your bones, this episode is for you. Today, we’re going there. Into the conversation hustle culture doesn’t want us to have. The one about rest. Not the performative kind, but the radical, biblical kind. The kind that reminds us: God never asked us to earn our worth. He called us to Sabbath. This isn’t about ancient rules—it’s about sacred rhythms. Think putting your feet up after a soul-draining week. That’s kind of essential. We’re talking biblical rest, generational exhaustion, and the truth about our identity being tied to production. Spoiler alert: it’s not. In this episode I cover: Why hustle culture has us twisted on productivity and worth What Sabbath teaches us about trust, provision, and identity The 7-year vineyard principle: how rest restores fruitfulness Why saying “no” to nonstop doing is a bold act of faith My personal story of disconnecting from grind culture and embracing rest Let’s unhook our calendars from chaos. Because real rest isn’t a luxury—it’s a declaration. I trust the One who provides. Let me know how you are making rest an essential part of your life by tagging me @biancajuarezofficial. Love you, B RESOURCES/LINKS Books: A. J. Swoboda - Subversive Sabbath: The Surprising Power of Rest in a Nonstop World John Mark Comer - The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to stay emotionally healthy and spiritually alive in the chaos of the modern world Wayne Muller - A Life of Being, Having, and Doing Enough Takeaways Sabbath is a critical part of my life. Our identity is often tied to our productivity. Rest is essential for emotional and spiritual health. The modern work culture is leading to exhaustion. Sabbath is a commandment that brings blessings. We need to shift from a factory mindset to a field mindset. Overworking leads to decreased efficiency and increased anxiety. Finding rest is a way to honor God and ourselves. Our worth is not defined by our achievements. Sabbath is about loving God and enjoying life. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! We’re Going There is sponsored by HomeChef - For a limited time, Home Chef is offering my listeners FIFTY PERCENT OFF and free shipping for your first box PLUS free dessert for life! Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE. Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert. http://tinyurl.com/WGTHomeChef We're Going There is sponsored by BetterHelp - Visit BetterHelp.com/GOINGTHERE today to get 10% off your first month. http://tinyurl.com/WGTBetterHelp ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple Spotify ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Youtube: https://youtu.be/SaqQpsbslbA Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How do leadership decisions today shape the future of a church community? My twin sister Jasmine Star is in the house today! She explores the tension between running a church like an organization while honoring its deeper spiritual purpose by diving deep into church leadership. Jasmine breaks down what works, what doesn’t, and how leadership accountability shapes a thriving community. We’ll explore: The balance between structure and faith in church leadership Why following well is just as important as leading Essential leadership principles: glorifying God, empowering the team, speaking truth, and holding the line Key Takeaways ✨ Accountability and celebration fuel leadership growth ✨ Strategic structural changes will shape the future of the church ✨ Recognizing your zone of genius can redefine your impact Leadership isn’t just about making tough decisions—it’s about building something lasting. Show Jasmine what you are building by tagging @jasminestar and me @biancajuarezofficial. Love you, B RESOURCES/LINKS Guest Jasmine Star https://jasminestar.com/ Takeaways Emotional intelligence is a critical component of leadership. Honesty and transparency are essential in times of crisis. The focus should be on developing individuals, not just growing the church. Effective leadership requires structural support. Understanding the dynamics of leadership is crucial for community growth. Leaders should operate within their zone of genius. Support structures are vital for sustaining church growth. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! We’re Going There is sponsored by HomeChef - For a limited time, HomeChef is offering my listeners 18 Free Meals PLUS Free Dessert for Life and of course, Free Shipping on your first box! Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE. Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert. http://tinyurl.com/WGTHomeChef We're Going There is sponsored by BetterHelp - Visit BetterHelp.com/GOINGTHERE today to get 10% off your first month. http://tinyurl.com/WGTBetterHelp ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RpqUTDQWWKDHt1yLQlMKW ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Youtube: https://youtu.be/a6JekVQ3wl8 ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Want to unlock a life of true blessing? What if I told you the key might surprise you? In today’s episode, I'm getting real about something that's transformed my life: biblical generosity. I know, talking about money can feel awkward, but I truly believe this message is vital. I want to share with you a conversation I had with my twin sister, Jasmine, that changed my perspective on giving. I'll also dive into what scripture says about generosity and how it's not just about finances, but about a heart surrendered to God. I've seen firsthand how obedience in this area leads to incredible blessings, and I want to share that with you. In this episode, I'm exploring: What the Bible really says about tithing (10% giving) Understanding offerings and generosity that go beyond the tithe The concept of sowing seeds with faith and expectation Sacrificial giving—what it means to give "above and beyond" Why the heart behind your giving matters most How I've experienced blessings through obedience and generosity in my own life I hope this episode encourages you to live generously and to seek those real, deep blessings that come from God. Remember, you're loved, you're valued, and you're doing amazing! Now go make some tacos and be a blessing to someone today! Have questions or want to share a photo of your tacos, tag me @biancajuarezofficial. Love you, B RESOURCES/LINKS A Test To Change Your Life // How To Be Rich // Tithing // Bianca Juarez https://youtu.be/dcDBukciGH0?si=KVB1X2HnIfZI3koe In the Name of Love Ministries https://www.biancaolthoff.com/about/ Takeaways Living a blessed life involves obeying God. Generosity is a key principle in living a blessed life. Tithing is considered the baseline of generosity. Understanding the concept of sowing and reaping is crucial. Generosity should come from a willing heart. Above and beyond giving demonstrates deep commitment. It's important to give with the right intentions. Scripture encourages us to give generously. The act of giving reflects our relationship with God. Living generously can lead to spiritual and material blessings. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! We’re Going There is sponsored by HomeChef - For a limited time, HomeChef is offering my listeners 18 Free Meals PLUS Free Dessert for Life and of course, Free Shipping on your first box! Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE. Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert. http://tinyurl.com/WGTHomeChef ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RpqUTDQWWKDHt1yLQlMKW ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, Spotify: “R.A.D.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what truly drives your decisions and actions? What if understanding your core values could unlock a more fulfilling life? In today’s final episode of the Personal Growth Series, we delve into the transformative power of core values and how they can guide you towards purpose and self-discovery. DeAnza Jarrett and I explore the journey of identifying, applying, and reevaluating your core values for personal growth and stronger relationships. Core values are the fundamental beliefs that shape who we are and how we live. Understanding your core values is crucial, not just for personal fulfillment, but also for building strong relationships and achieving professional success. Don’t forget: Understanding your core values is a lifelong journey of self-discovery Living in alignment with your values leads to greater authenticity and fulfillment Core values impact all areas of your life, from personal relationships to professional success Regularly re-evaluating your values is essential for growth and adaptation Your values can serve as a powerful compass for decision-making Follow this link: http://www.patersongroup.com/bianca to get access to all of the FREE resources provided by the Paterson Group. What are YOUR core values? Take some time this week to reflect on what truly matters to you. Share your insights by tagging me on social media @biancajuarezofficial. XO, B RESOURCES/LINKS Guest DeAnza Jarrett, Vice President, The Paterson Group https://www.patersongroup.com/bianca LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/paterson-center/ Takeaways Core values are essential for guiding decisions and actions. Identifying core values can lead to greater self-awareness. Core values inform priorities, not the other way around. Having a clear vision for the future is crucial for personal growth. Core values can help establish necessary boundaries in relationships. It's important to honor and respect each other's core values. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RpqUTDQWWKDHt1yLQlMKW ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” ⋇ YouTube: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever feel like you're wandering aimlessly, unsure of your next step? Feeling stuck in neutral, with no idea how to shift gears? Do you get that sense of being on a path, but not knowing where it leads? I invite you to tune in to this 3-day series on Personal Growth to help you navigate life's pivots and gain clarity through life planning. I am joined by my friend DeAnza Jarrett from the Paterson Group to discuss the challenges faced during pivotal moments in life. Our conversation emphasizes the powerful concepts of personal restoration, rediscovering your identity, and the transformative potential of structured life planning. We explore how pivotal life moments can often leave us feeling lost and adrift, and how the right framework can provide the clarity and direction we crave. One powerful tool that DeAnza shares with us is the Four Helpful Lists: What is Right What is Wrong What is Confused What is Missing Follow this link: http://www.patersongroup.com/bianca to get access to all of the FREE resources provided by the Paterson Group. We hope this episode empowers you to take control of your journey and create a life filled with purpose and intention. What pivotal moment in your life has shaped who you are today? Share your thoughts by tagging me on social media @biancajuarezofficial. Don’t forget to subscribe to We’re Going There podcast on your favorite platform for more insightful conversations on personal growth and development! Love you friends! B RESOURCES/LINKS Guest DeAnza Jarrett, Vice President, The Paterson Group https://www.patersongroup.com/bianca LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/paterson-center/ Takeaways You don't have to navigate life's challenges alone. Restoration requires intentional planning and support. Understanding your identity is crucial during pivot points. Perspective is essential before making any plans. The four helpful lists can clarify your current situation. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! We’re Going There is sponsored by HomeChef - For a limited time, HomeChef is offering my listeners 18 Free Meals PLUS Free Dessert for Life and of course, Free Shipping on your first box! Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE. Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert. http://tinyurl.com/WGTHomeChef ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7EE2jkNEz4NYAuBLViNnEf ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” ⋇ Youtube: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can silence be a source of healing? Are you ready to embrace the power of silence in your life? Friends, I’m excited to introduce the profound concept of a "theology of silence". I have discovered the transformative power of finding strength in the face of betrayal through stillness and silence. It is so important to learn to share our stories from a place of healing and wholeness, rather than from a position of woundedness. Using the life of King David as a powerful example, I discuss the vital lessons of: Integrity: Maintaining moral and ethical standards even amidst trials. Honor: Honor up, honor down, and honor all around. Surrender: The profound power of yielding to God's will, even in the face of betrayal and challenges. I want to encourage you to reflect on your own journey of healing and consider the role of silence in your lives. Share your story of how you are overcoming challenges and finding healing and tag and me @biancajuarezofficial. Love you, B RESOURCES/LINKS Revere Church Honor Anyways // Cesar Delgado // Mark 6:1-6 Quote We honor up, we honor down, we honor all around. Takeaways Sharing stories from a healed place is crucial. Honor others regardless of their behavior. The Lord will fight for you; you only need to be still. Betrayal can come from both authority figures and peers. Integrity is essential in leadership. Silence can be a powerful response to injustice. Love covers a multitude of sins. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! We’re Going There is sponsored by HomeChef - For a limited time, HomeChef is offering my listeners 18 Free Meals PLUS Free Dessert for Life and of course, Free Shipping on your first box! Go to HomeChef.com/GOINGTHERE. Must be an active subscriber to receive free dessert. http://tinyurl.com/WGTHomeChef We're Going There is sponsored by BetterHelp - Visit BetterHelp.com/GOINGTHERE today to get 10% off your first month. http://tinyurl.com/WGTBetterHelp ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RpqUTDQWWKDHt1yLQlMKW ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever found yourself dreading a difficult conversation, unsure of how to approach it without causing more harm than good? This is our last episode of 2024, friends! Join Lauren and I as we dive deep into the art and science of conflict resolution. We explore why conflicts are inevitable and how we can handle them with confidence and grace. Key Highlights: Roots of Conflict Facing Fears Conflict Styles Gender Dynamics The BRAVE Framework Key Takeaways: The importance of understanding and affirming needs during conflicts. Practical tips for voicing your needs effectively without escalating the situation. Embracing discomfort as a part of the conflict resolution process. Ending conversations with clarity to ensure mutual understanding. Join us for an enlightening conversation packed with practical tools and insights that will help you navigate difficult conversations, foster healthier relationships, and promote personal growth. Show your appreciation to my co-host Lauren by tagging us @laurenbronsonpetrous and me @biancajuarezofficial. Love you friends, B RESOURCES/LINKS Co-Host Lauren Bronson Petrous https://boundlessandco.com/about Craig Groeschel Leadership Podcast: Mastering Hard Conversations https://youtu.be/kpRd_NseuDM?si=65R2iNdwLUhMScnt Takeaways Conflict is inevitable, but how we handle it makes all the difference. Understanding your values is crucial for effective conflict resolution. Many people avoid conflict due to fear of rejection or misunderstanding. Identifying whether you are a 'turtle' or 'porcupine' can help you understand your conflict style. Conflict is a healthy part of relationships and should be approached with intention. ⋇ Convoy of Hope - Empowering Women and Girls Together Donate here. https://convoyofhope.org/bianca/ ⋇ Bianca’s new book Grit Don't Quit: Developing Resilience And Faith When Giving Up Isn't An Option. https://amzn.to/3MO74OC ⋇ The Grit Don’t Quit Bible Study is now available. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/gdq ⋇ So grateful to our sponsors! ⋇ Subscribe to We’re Going There on your favorite podcast app so you don’t miss out on any of the great topics and conversations. Don’t forget to leave a loving review! Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/were-going-there-with-bianca-juarez-olthoff/id1529509063?uo=4 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6RpqUTDQWWKDHt1yLQlMKW ⋇ Visit biancaolthoff.com/resources to learn more about books and other resources from Bianca. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/resources ⋇ Want to stay connected, join the community today. https://www.biancaolthoff.com/ ⋇ WGT email: podcast@inthenameoflove.org ⋇ Music by: Brad Tsushima, Instagram: @bradtsushima, email: bradtsushima94@aol.com, Spotify: “R.A.D.” ⋇ Youtube: https://youtu.be/yQMa-g_HZCk Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices