When You Don’t Know

👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is: “How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… without scaring them, hurting them, or damaging the relationship?”In this episode, we’re talking about how to have the conversation and how to know when you’re actually ready to have it. Because sharing your anxiety isn’t about confessing every intrusive thought. And it’s definitely not about offloading your anxiety onto them. In this conversation, we cover: • How to explain relationship anxiety to a partner who doesn’t experience it • What your partner actually needs to know — and what they don’t ​ How to talk about anxiety without making your partner responsible for managing it • Common mistakes that accidentally fuel more anxiety in the relationshipIf you’ve ever worried that being honest about your anxiety might push your partner away, this episode is for you.👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now!If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol👉 Work with us: https://stan.store/joyrossignol👉 Relationship Anxiety Academy: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout👉 1:1 Coaching: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=lnk.bio

What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong?In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we talk about the tension many Christians experience when church leadership doesn’t support their relationship — not for biblical reasons, but because of feelings, preferences, or a perceived “lack of peace.” For many, this creates deep relationship anxiety and the fear that disagreeing with leaders means disobeying God.We explore:• The difference between spiritual guidance and spiritual control• Why anxiety often shows up when obedience to leaders is confused with obedience to God• How God actually leads His people — and why fear, pressure, and urgency aren’t part of His voice• What healthy spiritual leadership looks like in dating and relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt torn between your faith, your relationship, and your own discernment, this conversation is for you.You’re not rebellious. You’re not faithless. And you’re not broken for wanting clarity and peace.👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now!If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join.https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

Relationship anxiety doesn’t just make you overthink — it takes things from you.Your confidence.Your peace.Your ability to enjoy your relationship.And for so many people, the anxiety becomes so overwhelming that ending the relationship feels like the only way to get relief.In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the real cost of anxiety and how it silently impacts your relationship even when nothing is actually wrong. We’re talking about:✨ How anxiety steals your confidence✨ Why it’s so hard to feel peace around someone you love✨ How fear becomes the lens you see your partner through✨ Why so many people consider breaking up just to feel “normal” again✨ And most importantly… how to silence the internal noise so you can finally breatheIf you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just feel secure?” or “Why does my mind always spiral?”, this episode will make you feel deeply understood — and give you hope for a calmer, more grounded relationship.You’re not broken.You’re not alone.And there is a path back to peace.Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now!And as an extended Black Friday gift, you can get $200 off from today until December 6th.If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join.https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout

If you’ve been stuck in an anxious loop about your relationship — constantly questioning your feelings, your partner, or whether you’re in God’s will — this episode is for you.We’re breaking down the difference between reacting and responding to relationship anxiety, and why both can still leave you trapped in fear if you’re missing one key thing: your core beliefs.Many people learn to pause before reacting, but never get to the root of why they feel unsafe in love.We’ll talk about how your beliefs about love, commitment, and God shape the way you experience anxiety — and how shifting them can finally bring peace.🎧 In this episode: • The difference between reacting and responding • Why awareness isn’t always enough to heal anxiety • How to uncover the core beliefs driving your fears • What it really means to trust God in relationshipsJoin the waitlist for our relationship anxiety course to get a discount:https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/kpkuua0vpcSign up for 1:1 coaching with Joy:https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTyJoin our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy (RAA):https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout

Are you Team Conrad or Team Jeremiah? In this episode, we break down The Summer I Turned Pretty love triangle from the perspective of a marriage and family therapist and relationship anxiety coach.Joy walks Mathieu (who has never seen the show!) through Belly’s relationships with Conrad and Jeremiah — from first love butterflies to Jeremiah’s cheating to Conrad’s emotional growth and big confession. Together, they explore what real love looks like, why we sometimes sabotage healthy relationships out of fear, and what it takes to build a secure relationship in real life.Whether you’re a TSITP fan or just trying to figure out your own love life, this episode will help you think differently about chemistry, compatibility, and choosing love even when you feel anxious.Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

You got married and thought the anxiety would go away—but the doubts are still here.“What if I made a mistake?”“What if this wasn’t God’s will?”In this episode, we talk about why anxiety can show up after marriage, how ROCD and spiritual fears play a role, and why it doesn’t mean you’re in the wrong relationship.We also share what to do if you’re stuck in anxious spirals—and how to avoid falling into the relationship anxiety trap.You’re not broken. You’re not alone. And you didn’t ruin your life.Hope you enjoy!👉 If you’re ready to work through your relationship anxiety with personalized support, apply for 1:1 coaching here: [https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=lnk.bio]

Have you ever heard someone say the person you’re dating might be a counterfeit — someone sent by the enemy to distract you from “God’s best”? 😳Whether it’s: • A non-Christian labeled a trap 🎯 • A “fake Christian” in disguise 😈 • Or even a good person who just isn’t your “divine match” 💔…This teaching has caused so many people to second-guess themselves, spiral in fear, and walk away from good relationships out of anxiety.In this episode, we’re breaking down where the counterfeit spouse idea comes from, why it’s so harmful, and what a more freeing, peace-filled perspective looks like. If you’ve ever felt stuck in fear that you’ll choose wrong — this one’s for you.💬 Let’s stop spiritualizing fear and start trusting the God who walks with us in every choice.🎧 Listen now and tag a friend who needs to hear this truth.👇 Ready to work with me to find peace and clarity in your relationship journey?[https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol]

Do you ever wonder if the differences between you and your partner are red flags—or just normal, human differences? In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between true red flags (the kind you shouldn’t ignore) and preferences (the kind you can work through with the right tools).We’ll walk through real-life examples—from faith and fitness to humor and ambition—and talk about how to tell when a difference is a dealbreaker or just something you need to talk about.Whether you’re dating, engaged, or already deep in a relationship, this episode will help you breathe a little easier and trust yourself more when making relationship decisions.Let’s take the pressure off and get honest about what really matters.Join Relationship Anxiety Academy here:[https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout]

In this episode, we interview one of the many people who has worked with us. Like us, she used to struggle with relationship anxiety but her healing journey got her to where she is now; married and happy.We hope you enjoy this episode! 1:1 coaching with Joy:https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=stan.storeOnline community:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at

We hope this episode was helpful for you.If you’d like to join our next group coaching round:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Pniujubz/checkoutIf you’d like to join RAA:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Pniujubz/checkoutAnd if you have any questions, email us at hello@joyandmathieu.com

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We actually never sat down and told our whole story. So we thought doing that would be a great way to start 2025. We hope this is helpful and inspiring for you all. Wondering if it's relationship anxiety or a deeper issue? Take our free quiz to find out! Grab your freebie here: https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/raafrebbie If you’d like to work with us in any way, check out the following link: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAabRH8Y7Kjmo3fAesnzVNWq8n1aViv1VBI0EI3jgk0VEgPMd8GuXqMOaV0Q_aem_qH-JccphTjYtVccg9ZymUQ