Why Do You Parent Like That?

I'm down an organ and ready to paaaaarrrddddyyyyy! Today's solo-sode was born out of the boredom of being home post-surgery. Nothing like your body feeling meh, but your brain moving at one million miles an hour!  New things coming soon, watch this space..  Mentioned in this ep: Kiss All the Time Disco Occasionally, Harry Styles Bookety Book Books Lost Lambs by Madeline Cash  Work Horse by Caroline Palmer  Charlotte Tilbury Pillow Talk Mascara in Dream Pop L'Oreal Paris Faux Brow in Dark Blonde Go To Skin Care Matte Pop Blush in Berry NYX Lip IV Hydrating Gloss Serum in Blush Rush  Two Islands Electrolytes and Super Beauty use ABBEY15 for a d/c! My Nail Artist Alaina! Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Tattoo If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Parenting is political - and navigating baby sleep advice is a big part of it! Dr Heather Johnston of Cradled is one of the most qualified people in Aotearoa to help us deconstruct some of the messages that have dominated the world of baby sleep for the last century - and more! Heather brings to this kōrero her years of training and experience as a medical doctor, an Internationally Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), and sleep qualifications from the Possums program specialising in Neuroprotective Developmental Care and from Lyndsey Hookway’s Holistic Sleep Coaching Program. In this episode guest host Sophie Moskowitz (@imperfectparents.nz) dives deep into the subject of baby sleep with Heather, exploring Heather’s own personal parenting and professional journeys. They look at the pressure on parents to sleep train and the social, cultural and political systems that have created an environment where so many parents are feeling more confused and overwhelmed than ever. We hope you find value, comfort and reassurance in this episode and come away remembering that there is no “one right way” of doing things. You can work with Heather 1:1 with online appointments, or access sleep workshops for various ages on her website. She also sells merch and a few feeding products. You can access Heather's work via her website here and her instagram here. If you’re in Auckland and want access to in-person support where we bust myths and normalise parenting experiences, you can join an Imperfect Parents antenatal course, postnatal support group or playgroup. Sophie’s Imperfect Parents website is here her instagram is here and her tiktok is here. Follow me (Abbey) on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

WELL, I'M ALREADY FEELING A PRE-EMPTIVE VULNERABILITY HANGOVER. Be kind with me. Hold me gently. I'm giving you my feelings here, look after them.  I hope that this episode is one you are interested in, let me know if it is and you'd like more!  If you are in the early days of parenthood, I see you, you're great, and I'm rooting for you! Take some time to be proud of yourself.  We have one more bonus episode coming out pre-Chrissy, but this is the last main episode for the year! Feel free to go back and BINGE over the break teeeheeee.  Resources mentioned in this episode:  Werry Workforce Online Training  Somatic Body Worker Claire Eccleston Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this Parenting is Political episode, Sophie sits down to kōrero with Dr George Parker (they/them) for a conversation about why representation and inclusion matter in healthcare and social services - for all whānau but especially for members of the LGBTQIA+ community.  George talks us through their journey from midwifery, to advocacy mahi with Women's Health Action, and then into academic research as they discovered gaps in the available data. We discuss the difference that safe, inclusive, whānau-centred care can make on people's wellbeing.  George shares their knowledge and experience so generously and, in our opinion, this should be essential listening for anyone working in the perinatal health and support space. George also mentions the publishing house Flamingo Rampant, who published their children's book "Bell's Knock Knock Birthday". If you are a parent of a child aged 18 and under, and identify as LGBTQIA+, please consider filling our the Inclusion Through Difference survey here. Where to find Sophie/her work:  Instagram Website TikTok Follow me on socials, buy my merch, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy merch Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nope, I cannot believe it. This simply cannot be real life. The Marama Davidson sat down on this lil old pod to speak with me about her parenting journey.  As much as I want to shower Marama with praise and adoration, Marama is the first person to point out that she is as human as the rest of us. So I will suppress my natural instinct to rattle off compliments and instead opt to thank her so much for the vulnerability, generosity, and humanness that she imbued into our conversation.  We know her as the badass co-leader of the Greens, but she is also a mum and a Grandmother and those are two roles that she cares so much about. I loved hearing her humanness.  PLEASE VOTE FOR US FOR LISTENER'S CHOICE AWARD AT THE NZ PODCAST AWARDS 2025!!! Click here! Join the Why Do You Chat Like That FB group here! (Don't forget to answer the membership questions or your request will be declined!!) As per usual, I ask that you share this episode around. Or share the reels/clips on your socials! The algorithm pushes out content that is being engaged with, otherwise we float away into the ether.  Follow me on socials, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Chef Sophie is in the kitchen and she is COOKING!  Welcome to the brand new podcast segment called 'Parenting is Political'! My fantastic pal Sophie Moskowitz (of Imperfect Parents fame) has been thinking about starting a podcast for a while, but has been wrestling with how much of a time commitment it is. So we decided why not give those conversations a home on the WDYPLT feed?! Sophie has started her tenure here with a banger of an episode. She and writer/activist/journalist/mum/crack up internet personality Emily Writes chat about Emily's experiences in activism, the books she has written, building and finding community, and being a mother to children with (very different) health journeys.  Please share this episode far and wide, review, comment, like, rate, alllll the damn things. It can be scary trying new things, and Sophie is trying a new thing.  Where to find Emily/her work:  Writing/Weekly Newsletter Instagram Where to find Sophie/her work:  Instagram Website TikTok Follow the pod on socials, or koha our work: Instagram TikTok Substack Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This season I wanted to introduce some new segments and styles of content, because this pod is a space for so much more than the main episodes (but they aren't going anywhere, don't worry, they are my lifelong love). So here is a new segment. Answering Burning Questions is a safe space where we can all come together with good faith and compassion, and ask and answer questions that we usually feel are too awkward or difficult to ask! When I floated this idea to my friend Kate Zame (@katezameslt) she could not have been more on board with the idea. It takes vulnerability and generosity to put yourself in this space, and she did it willingly. She knew how valuable this resource would be. Kate and Kelly are just the most beautiful humans and I am unbelievably grateful to them for trusting me with their taonga of a story.  So, here are some listener submitted questions that Kate took the time to answer with honesty, clarity, and enthusiasm. If you're wanting to submit questions for our next guest of this segment, keep an eye on my social media to know how/where to do that! Resources mentioned today: EAP services to access counselling through your employer Proud Conception - NZ podcast about queer families and their ways of creating a family Children's books: Love Makes a Family by Sophie Beer, Making A Baby: An Inclusive Guide to How Every Family Begins by Rachel Greener, The Pirate Mums by Jodie Lancet-Grant, The Bravest Knight Who Ever Lived by Daniel Errico. Please, please do share this episode with friends or on your socials. I would love for this episode to get into the ears of those who need to hear it. If there is someone else you would like on the next episode of Answering Burning Questions, flick me a message on my socials! Follow me on socials, or koha my work! Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LLOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYOOOUUU  (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

AS IF WE DIDN'T LOVE HER ENOUGH ALREADY! Everyone's fave doctor, Morgan Edwards is back to answer some listener submitted questions!  As with everything Morgan does, she answered them with grace, kindness, generosity, and wisdom.  Content forecast: there is mention of sexual assault in the final question, so please look after yourself. Healthy Homes Initiative information is here!  Follow me on socials, or koha my work!  Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube Buy Me a Coffee If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  LOOOOVVVVEEE YOOOUUUUU! (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey, heeeeey! It's the season one finale!! THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH FOR BEING HERE FOR THIS LONG I LOVE YA SO DAMN MUCH!  This episode is with my brother-in-law Hayden Donnell. He is the father of my sweet, sweet nephew and niece (whose voices you have all become very familiar with in my pod jingle) and our spouses are siblings. You will very quickly learn that Hayden and I have a bit of an unhinged dynamic, but that's why I knew it needed to be on the pod! And what a better way to wrap up season one than to bring you a bit of unhinge and chaos. Is it a bit less serious than my normal episodes? Yeah. Is it still fantastic? Absolutely.  Hayden isn't a public figure, but his work is fantastic. You'll find lots of his writing on the Spinoff, and you can find his TV series Get it to Te Papa on the Spinoff too! If you like his vibe, definitely check out his work cos you'll love that too.  A HUGE THANK YOU TO EVERYONE WHO DONATED TO MY GAZA FUNDRAISER! I thank you all personally in the intro today, and I will never stop being grateful. I can't wait to figure out the full total for donations and update everyone.  As per usual, please do all the things, like/comment/rate/review/subscribe/share etc. especially with me going on my break it would be really helpful to keep momentum going for people to find the pod.  Also, if you're gonna miss me while I'm gone, I'm not gonna be gone off the internet! Just not posting episodes for a few weeks. SO FOLLOW ME ON MY SOCIALS!!  Instagram TikTok Substack YouTube If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  OKAY GUYS MUMMY'S GOING AWAY FOR A LITTLE BIT BUT SHE ALWAYS COMES BACK RIGHT? OKAY, BE GOOD FOR THE BABYSITTER.  LLLOOOOOOVVVVEEEE YYYYYOOOOOUUUU!!!!! (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Ohhhh, you guys, she's a gem, she's a gem! Caylin Dickson from Pēpi & Parent is here to answer and debunk alllll things baby sleep.  She carefully and considerately answers 5 listener submitted questions, and as she is doing so I develop a massive crush on her because she is just so wonderful!  Thank you SO much Caylin, for lending your expertise to the WDYPLT listener whānau, we are so grateful.  If you would like to find out more about Caylin and her services this is her website, and this is her instagram! I highly, highly recommend Caylin. She is so gentle and kind and doesn't expect you to go against how you naturally want to respond to your child's cues! We love that in the parenting space! Our next expert episode is going to be with a speech/language therapist, so keep an eye out on my instagram for the link to ask any questions you might have!  LOOOOVVVEEE YYYOOOUUUU (say it back)See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Blow me down, we've got a couple! It has been on my wishlist for a wee while now to have a couple speaking on their parenting experience together, and we got that this week with Britt and MJ Meafou!  You may know MJ as @dadbehaviour on instagram. He shares his life as a Dad on there, but also has created a stroller club for dads in Christchurch! An opportunity for Dads to get together with their kids and other Dads and catch up. MJ is passionate about creating community for Dads in the postpartum stage, the way Mums are so good at doing.  MJ and Britt are two golden humans, it is just evident that they are kind to their core, passionate about their mahi, and deeply committed to giving Arthur and Mimi the very best childhood they can. MORE COUPLES LIKE THIS PLS!  You can find all the details of MJ's work and info about upcoming events he is running for Dads on his instagram page @dadbehaviour  Keeping it short today, because, as I say in the ep, I am deep in the midst of grieving my beloved Grandfather. Thank you for all the kindness and love that has been shown to me since telling the internet about his passing.  LOVE YOU! (say it back) Follow WDYPLT on social media!:  Instagram TikTok If you wanna hear the secret sixth question I have asked MJ this week, you can subscribe to the substack: Substack If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Haaaaaayyyyyooooo!  Welcome back for another week! I'm so glad you're here!  You have found this podcast while I am in the depths of norovirus and coming to you live from my bed. Everything hurts, chills, shakes, fever, headache. It's a whole thing. Which is WHY you will hear a weird automated intro from me this week. It's my words, but I truly did not have the strength to get out of bed and get my microphone to record the introduction. So, THIS was my solution. I got a bit silly with it sorry, I'm blaming sickness delirium.  The episode this week is with Ben Boyce, which, what the actual heck?! Ben is someone I have grown up watching on TV and now listen to on the Hits breakfast show, and the fact that he was willing to take the time out to talk to me about parenting is just testament to what a cool guy he is. Ben and his wife Amanda have two teenage daughters, Sienna and Indie, but you're probably already familiar because Ben, Sienna and Indie are going all sorts of viral across the internet with their comedy content! Ben and Sienna also have a podcast called "When I Grow Up" which you can listen to here!  While you're here, why not do all the things?! Follow, like, subscribe, rate, review, share. Or maybe do just ONE of the things? The stats show me that lots of people who listen to the pod aren't actually subscribed, which, wild! So go ahead and save yourself having to search for the pod, and just click subscribe.  Follow WDYPLT on social media!:  Instagram TikTok AND, if you wanna hear the secret sixth question I have asked Ben this week, you can subscribe to the substack (there is a free subscription, or a paid subscription! And last week I just made everything free bc I felt like it, so it's always worth subscribing to see what this CRAZY GAL will do!): Substack If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  OK LOOOOVVVEEEE YYYOOOOOUUUUU! (say it back)   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This week I had the joy of sitting down and speaking with Hannah Porter AKA the owner of Bear and Moo NZ! Bear and Moo obviously have a special place in my heart after they became the first ever sponsor of WDYPLT. It was absolutely lovely hearing about Hannah's journey to becoming a parent and her experience of parenthood, as well as running a business and how those two things intertwine.  Hannah is kind, switched on, funny, and you can tell that she is just such a loving and proud mum.  Hannah's other baby Bear and Moo are opening their first ever brick and mortar store in Kirikiriroa on June 25th from 4-6pm. I'll be there celebrating! Come and say hey! The store is at 1 Glennis Place, Frankton.  If you enjoyed this episode, give it a 5 star rating! Or share it! Or review the pod! And make sure you're following us! Annnndddd.. Look in the mirror and tell yourself "YOU ARE A SEXY, SEXY BITCH". Follow WDYPLT on social media!:  Instagram TikTok AND, if you wanna hear the secret sixth question I have asked Hannah this week, you can subscribe to the substack (there is a free subscription, or a paid subscription!) Substack If you have a story you reckon would be interesting to hear on the pod, flick me an email at whydoyouparentlikethatpodcast@gmail.com  OK LOOOOVVVEEEE YYYOOOOOUUUUU! (say it back) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.