Yalla Habibi

We ask whether couples really need to agree on everything, and what happens when the way you live, socialise and set boundaries doesn’t fit what everyone else expects. Drawing on our own experience of going against five social norms, we share practical lessons on supporting each other, dealing with FOMO, recognising each other’s triggers and standing firm when people test our boundaries. We also explore why challenging the status quo can make people uncomfortable, and whether making a relationship work is less about agreeing on everything and more about building a life that works for the two people actually living it.In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we uncover the bizarre phenomenon of “pluralistic ignorance” and why we sometimes do things simply because we think everyone else wants to, while “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” reveals a surprisingly reassuring reason you might be more comfortable saying no than you think.Chapters(05:23) – How We Challenge 5 Social Norms as a Couple(19:38) – What Can Other Couples Take From This Series?(25:06) – Would We Do It Again? (25:51) – Scott’s WTF of the Week: Are We All Just Pretending “Pluralistic Ignorance”(31:45) – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Why Saying No Just Got EasierRecommended EpisodesLook for titles starting with S1 or S2 to find other series across all podcast platforms. 📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 ⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠🎧⁠⁠ EP2⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ ⁠⁠EP1⁠⁠🎧⁠ ⁠⁠EP2⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP3⁠⁠⁠🎧 ⁠⁠⁠EP4⁠⁠⁠Stories SharedScott's WTF of the Week: 🤯 Are We All Just Pretending “Pluralistic Ignorance”🔗Additional ReferenceShelby’s Good Vibes Only: 🚫 Why Saying No Just Got Easier🔗⁠Additional Reference⁠---------------------------------------------------------------SubscribeIf you have ever enjoyed any of these episodes, could we ask you to please consider any or all of these: Subscribe, Follow, Like, Share and leave a short Review? It takes less than a minute and makes a huge difference in helping to spread the word about the show and also to convince some hard-to-get guests.- "Yalla Habibi - Let’s go, my friend!"Watch Our Shorts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠---------------------------------------------------------------Transcript Keyword SummaryRelationship Differences, Setting Boundaries, Social Norms, Relationship Boundaries, Healthy Relationships, Relationship Advice, Couple Communication, Dealing With FOMO, Fear of Missing Out, Saying No, People Pleasing, Social Pressure, Conformity, Relationship Conflict, Personal Boundaries, Being Yourself, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship PodcastTranscript Quotes“I think it can be desirable to have a difference of opinion in certain situations.”“It's about understanding what your boundaries are, what you enjoy, what your interests are, and then implementing that into your life.”“You can give people time to adjust without giving up your boundaries.”“Stop letting society, friends, and family dictate your choices when they're not fulfilling you and not making you happy.” “It's having each other's back when people test your boundaries as a couple.” “Before changing your behavior to fit in I would ask yourself, do people genuinely expect this from me, or have I just convinced myself they do?”“They were significantly more understanding than people saying no expected them to be.”

In Series 3, The Social Rules We Stopped Following as a Couple, we’re questioning the unwritten rules that quietly shape how we live, from what we’re expected to do for friends and family to how we’re “supposed” to behave in social situations. We explore what happens when you stop following the script and start making choices based on what actually feels right for you.We kick off the series by questioning five rules we never realised we were allowed to break, from going to every wedding and splitting the bill to staying until the end, drinking alcohol and getting up to dance. We share why we’ve chosen to do things differently, even when it means disappointing people, facing judgement or making things awkward, and ask whether a little friction now is worth a lifetime of feeling more free and more like yourself. In “Scott’s WTF of the Week” we look at a couple whose relationship rules sparked a huge debate over where healthy boundaries end and control begins, while “Shelby’s Good Vibes Only” introduces a married couple who have spent 15 years breaking one of the biggest expectations of marriage, and somehow made it work.Chapters(04:04) – You Have to Go to Every Wedding(14:13) – We Always Split the Bill(19:40) – Stay Until the End or You’re Old(24:02) – Drink Alcohol or You’re Boring(30:23) – Get Up and Dance Mr Miserable(35:48) – What Do We Actually Think About All This?(36:39) – Scott’s WTF of the Week: Couple Go Viral Over Strict Boundaries(40:56) – Shelby’s Good Vibes Only: Couple Shock Relationship Experts for 15 Year RunningRecommended EpisodesLook for titles starting with S1 or S2 to find other series across all podcast platforms. 📺 Series 2: Finding The One When You're Not Everyone's Type🎧 EP1🎧 EP2🎧 EP3🎧 EP4📺 Series 1: Travelling as a Couple: Dream vs Reality🎧⁠⁠ EP1🎧⁠ EP2⁠🎧 ⁠EP3⁠🎧 ⁠EP4⁠Stories SharedScott's WTF of the Week🚧 Couple Go Viral Over Strict BoundariesShelby’s Good Vibes Only😱 Couple Shock Relationship Experts for 15 Year Running---------------------------------------------------------------SubscribeIf you have ever enjoyed any of these episodes, could we ask you to please consider any or all of these: Subscribe, Follow, Like, Share and leave a short Review? It takes less than a minute and makes a huge difference in helping to spread the word about the show and also to convince some hard-to-get guests.- "Yalla Habibi - Let’s go, my friend!"Watch Our Shorts⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠---------------------------------------------------------------Transcript Keyword SummaryUnwritten Social Rules, Social Expectations, Societal Norms, Setting Boundaries, Personal Boundaries, Wedding Etiquette, Wedding Invitations, Splitting the Bill, Social Pressure, Peer Pressure, Drinking Alcohol, Alcohol-Free Lifestyle, Leaving Parties Early, Dancing at Weddings, Authentic Relationships, Relationship Boundaries, Relationship Freedom in Modern Relationships, Couple Adventure Travel, Couples Challenging Relationship Expectations, Couples Following Their Own Path in Life, Yalla Habibi, Yalla Habibi Podcast, Couples Podcast, Relationship PodcastTranscript Quotes“you have to work blooming hard to make money”“I think the important thing is showing up, showing your face, connecting with people”“you have every right to not have to drink.”“We choose to live in a way that is aligned with who we are, rather than simply doing what we're expected to do.”“Is a little friction, discomfort, or judgment in the moment really worth sacrificing a lifetime of feeling more free, more fulfilled, and more like yourself?”“so this is like the extreme side of boundaries, but hey, this is what works for them.”“They just decided to give each other that space, and Margaret says that the arrangement has given her independence, new friendships, and a career.”