Dating While Healing: Is It Fair?

About this episode

In this episode, Yinka challenges the notion that one must be fully healed before dating, exploring the complexities of dating while on a healing journey.

Should you date when you're still processing past trauma, or do you wait until you're "whole"? It's a question so many of us wrestle with, especially after heartbreak, disappointment, or any season that's left us with wounds we're still working through. And the advice we usually hear is: "Don't date until you're healed. Work on yourself first. You can't love someone else if you don't love yourself." I get it. I understand the heart behind that advice. But I also think it's more complicated than that. In this solo episode, I'm challenging the idea that you need to be "fully healed" before you can date. Because here's what I've come to believe: healing is a lifelong journey. If we wait until we're perfectly healed, perfectly whole, perfectly put together, we might be waiting forever. And in the process, we might miss out on beautiful connections and relationships that could actually support our healing journey. I'm making a critical distinction between dating to avoid healing (using someone as a distraction or Band-Aid) and dating while actively healing (doing the work while inviting someone to walk alongside you). We'll explore what it means to be…

Topics covered

• dating
• healing
• relationships
• self-love

Keywords

• trauma
• heartbreak
• connections
• Bible

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Bible

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