Love, Clarity, and the Woman Who Diagnosed Me On-Air | Sanya Bari

About this episode

Sanya Bari discusses her experiences with food, relationships, and personal growth in a candid conversation with Matthew Gray.

Sanya Bari walked into this conversation fasting for Ramadan, making dinner reservations for Manhattan's most impossible restaurants, and somehow still managed to be the most present, warm, and disarmingly honest guest I've had in a long time. She's a psychologist, a speaker, a people pleaser in recovery, and a woman who once sat in her dream car in the driveway of her dream home and had a primal cry because she knew she'd hurt herself to build it all. We talk about food — Pakistani cooking, the bhuna technique, chicken tikka masala, and why Italian food makes her want to get a boat on the Amalfi Coast and never come back. We talk about betrayal, longing, manipulation, narcissism, and why hurt people hurt people. We talk about her son catching her guilt-tripping him using her own psychological method. We laugh about love clarity — which kept sounding like love party — and honestly a love party doesn't sound bad either. And then she turned the tables on me. Asked about my most difficult relationship. Heard about fifteen years and a secret I never saw coming. And then looked me dead in the eye and said — you still have a fear of intimacy. She's not wrong. This one goes deep, gets…

People in this episode

Host: Matthew Gray

Guest: Sanya Bari

Topics covered

• psychology
• food
• relationships
• self-discovery
• cultural identity

Keywords

• psychologist
• Pakistani cooking
• love clarity
• intimacy
• manipulation

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Love Clarity Podcast

Books & works: Love Clarity for the Ones Who Keep Getting Hurt

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