103: When You Say 'I Don't Mind, Whatever's Easy' for Mother's Day — And Spend Sunday Cleaning Up Your Own Gifts

About this episode

This episode explores the unspoken expectations and emotional complexities surrounding Mother's Day for mothers.

There's a script around Mother's Day that doesn't account for any of us. You're meant to want a candle, a coffee, a sleep-in, and to look visibly grateful at the end of it. If you can't name what you want, you're ungrateful. If you do name it, you have to manage it. If you stay quiet, you spend Sunday night cleaning up the wrapping paper from your own gifts. This episode is the one underneath that script. The maths nobody's saying out loud. The reason your brain blanks. And one small thing to try this Sunday — not to fix the year, just to notice what the silence is actually doing. This episode is for you if He asks what you want and your brain just stops You always say I don't mind, whatever's easy and then feel a bit hollow when Sunday's over You've spent Mother's Days managing other people's mothers and have nothing left for your own You're a single mum and Sunday is just another Sunday, except this one's worse You're grieving — your own mum, the version of motherhood you wanted, or both You've been telling yourself for years that you're just too sensitive Related episodes S2 EP88: I Made the Lunches, Booked the Table, and Still Felt Invisible (Mother's Day) S3 EP35: You Were…

People in this episode

Host: Jane McFadden

Topics covered

• Mother's Day
• parenting
• mental health
• self-care
• grief

Keywords

• Mother's Day
• self-care
• grief
• parenting
• mental health

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