All of You

In this episode, we’re sharing the story of our breakup, what led to the relationship ending, what we didn’t fully understand at the time, and some of the hard truths we both had to face after walking away. We talk about the heartbreak, the confusion, the season of no contact, what made Shiv decide to reach back out, and what gave us the confidence to believe trying again could actually be different. If you’re navigating a breakup, questioning your relationship, or wondering if people can truly change, this conversation is for you. We share what had to change, both individually and together, how we rebuilt trust, and how we were able to create a relationship that feels healthier, safer, and more connected than ever before. This is a conversation about heartbreak, healing, second chances, and what it really takes to create lasting love. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation or find Dave's course here: Dave: htthttps://stan.store/davemartinell Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Nervous system awareness might be one of the most underrated relationship skills and one of the most powerful. When you start to recognize what’s happening in your body in real time, everything shifts. You move from reacting on autopilot to responding with intention, creating more safety, clarity, and connection in your relationships. In this episode, we zoom out on why understanding your internal cues can help prevent unnecessary conflict, soften communication, and break reactive patterns before they escalate. Your body is always communicating with you, learning how to listen might just change the way you relate to everything. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we explore the many ways control quietly shows up in our relationships and why it’s usually not about power, but protection. Beneath the surface, control is often rooted in fear, past wounds, and a deep desire to feel safe. We unpack how these patterns can look both obvious and incredibly subtle, and how they can slowly chip away at connection, trust, and intimacy. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We’ve officially hit 100 episodes! To celebrate, in this episode we pull back the curtain on the journey that started it all. We share how we felt called to begin this podcast, the ways we experienced God guiding us along the way, and what it looked like to trust something bigger than ourselves. We open up about the fear, the uncertainty, and the moments that stretched us while also reflecting on how deeply fulfilling it’s been to listen, surrender, and follow that call. This episode is a heartfelt look at faith, trust, and the unseen support that’s carried us here. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Everyone says they want a conflict-free relationship, but the truth is that if two people are truly being themselves, conflict is inevitable. You would have to be the exact same person to never disagree. In this episode, we talk about why conflict isn’t the problem in relationships and what actually is. For both people to feel authentic and autonomous, there has to be space for differences and honest conversations. Because when a couple never argues, it often means someone is hiding, people-pleasing, or shrinking themselves to keep the peace. And over time, that doesn’t create connection, it creates distance. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Why do the relationships that once felt electric start to feel exhausting as you grow? This conversation was sparked by watching Wuthering Heights and realizing just how differently we define love, chemistry, and passion now compared to earlier versions of ourselves. In this episode, we talk about why intensity can stop feeling like chemistry, how peace starts to feel way more appealing, and what it looks like to outgrow old relationship patterns without shaming who you used to be. A real, honest convo about how your love life evolves as you do. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

This episode is a rapid-fire Q&A sharing an honest snapshot of where we’re at right now, both individually and in our relationship. We talk about what’s been activating us, patterns we’re noticing, beliefs we’re outgrowing, and what feels tender, easier, or still requires intention in this season. We also keep it light with some fun questions: the habits we’re low-key judging, things we definitely overthought, simple joys bringing unexpected happiness, and yes…even ways that we annoy each other. It’s not about having it all figured out, just being honest about what feels true right now. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, Dave and Shiv share why making peace with your past is foundational to healing, emotional safety, and healthy relationships. They explore how unresolved experiences quietly shape the way we show up, love, and protect ourselves. Shiv vulnerably shares some of the hardest parts of her own past to make peace with, and what that process has actually looked like in real life. This conversation is an invitation to soften toward your story, release what no longer needs to define you, and begin relating from a place that feels more grounded, honest, and free. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

Holding space is one of the most powerful and misunderstood relationship skills. In this episode, Shiv and Dave break down what emotional validation really is, why it’s what every partner wants when they are upset, and what makes it so hard to offer in the moment. They explore the blocks to holding space, from personalizing and ego stories to emotional immaturity and share real examples from their own relationship around home, family, and navigating hard conversations without defensiveness. You’ll also learn practical tools for doing this well, like checking for capacity, getting clear on your own feelings first, and learning how to ask to be seen instead of fixed. If you want deeper connection, more emotional safety, and fewer reactive cycles in your relationship, this episode is for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

The New Year tends to arrive with a lot of pressure — to change faster, do more, fix everything, and somehow become a brand-new version of yourself overnight. In this episode, we slow the whole thing down and offer a different perspective on what this season is actually for. We talk about why this time of year is better suited for rest, reflection, and intention than rigid goal-setting, and how many of the resolutions we’re taught to make are rooted in shame, comparison, and fear of being behind. When goals are chosen from self-criticism instead of self-connection, motivation becomes exhausting, failure feels personal, and trust in yourself slowly erodes. Instead, we explore a more sustainable way of approaching growth — one that honors who you’ve been, gets honest about who you’re becoming, and allows your goals to come from alignment rather than pressure. If you’ve ever felt discouraged by resolutions, stuck in the same cycle year after year, or unsure what you even want next, this conversation will feel like a deep exhale. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

We talk a lot about the power of gratitude—but if it’s so good for us, why don’t we live there all the time? In this episode, we explore the blocks to gratitude and what actually gets in the way of feeling it, even when there’s so much to appreciate. Using a real moment from the day after Disneyland, we unpack how easy it is to slip into shame and self-criticism—and how gratitude isn’t about bypassing the hard, but staying grounded in reality. We talk about how gratitude allows space for both the good and the hard to exist at the same time. Because when gratitude is embodied—not forced—it changes your energy, your perspective, and the way you show up in the world. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

In this episode, we unpack the complicated relationship between trauma and growth—and why going through something hard isn’t what makes you stronger. We talk about the difference between experiencing trauma and actually healing from it, and Shiv opens up about how the saying “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” she was told in the wake of extreme loss did more harm than good. We also dig into the way our upbringing shapes us, especially the belief that harshness builds resilience. (Spoiler: yelling doesn’t make kids stronger—it creates insecure attachment.) By looking at our childhood patterns with honesty and compassion, we can understand ourselves more clearly and choose a healthier path forward. It’s a tender, grounding conversation about growth without glorifying the pain that came before it. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com

This week we’re diving into the uncomfortable truth that not everyone is going to like you — and why that’s actually okay. We talk through our own experiences with rejection, wanting to be misunderstood, and the pressure to manage how people see you. It’s an honest, unstructured conversation about what it looks like to release that weight and stay grounded in who you are. If you’ve ever felt the urge to shrink, shape-shift, or people-please your way into being liked, this one’s for you. Ready to do the work and go deeper in your own healing? Book a consultation call with us: Dave: https://calendly.com/dlmartinell/30min Shiv: https://calendly.com/siobhanmartinell/30min ⟡ Instagram: / https://www.instagram.com/allofyoupodcast/ ⟡ TikTok: / https://www.tiktok.com/@allofyoupodcast ⟡ Email: Hello@allofyoupodcast.com