Almost Forty

In this personal solo episode of Almost Forty, I’m taking a moment to reflect on the first six months of the year and unpack some of the changes. This is an honest conversation about where I was in January compared to where I am now, in Mid June. This episode is also packed with reflective prompts to help you pause, check in with yourself and consider what progress you’ve made, what you’re still carrying, and what you want the second half of the year to look like. In this episode: Reflecting on the first six months of the year Burnout, over-functioning and hypervigilance Financial goals and taking responsibility for the things that matter Relationships, self-trust and letting people in Work, purpose and creating a life that feels more aligned Why your camera roll can reveal more than you realise Journal prompts for a mid-year reset and reflection If you’d like a copy of the journal prompts from this episode, send me a DM on Instagram with the word RESET and I’ll send them through. If you’re enjoying Almost Forty, make sure you’re following or subscribing so you never miss an episode. Topics discussed: mid-year reset, personal growth, burnout recovery, self-trust, relationships, journaling, goal setting, reflection, ADHD, mindset, women’s wellbeing, personal development. Unlock Exclusive Subscriber Episodes Here:  https://apple.co/iam    See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This MINI ep is all about a simple, family friendly principle that explains why our days unfold the way they do and how we can catch these moments before they become bigger than they need to be. This is not about optimising your morning with a perfect routine- this is a clear way of shifting your mindset- and this concept is very kid friendly!   UNLOCK ALMOST CONFIDENTIAL HERE  Follow Kylie on IG hereSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

You’re intelligent, Self-aware and you know how to articulate exactly why they don’t serve you.So why can’t you stop? Why do you still reach for your phone at 6pm instead of being present? Why do you say yes when you mean no? Why do you start fights to avoid what’s really bothering you? Why do you organise the pantry for the tenth time instead of sitting with yourself? In this honest and open conversation, psychologist Jacquie Ward and I dismantle everything you thought you knew about self-sabotage. Spoiler: it doesn’t actually exist. In This Episode We Explore:The Midlife Reckoning ∙ Why turning 40 hits different (and it’s not just about the number) ∙ The grief of bigger kids and the season shift nobody prepares you for ∙ The known spike in maternal depression when all kids start school - and why it happens ∙ “If not now, then when?” - the delicious freedom and anxiety of finite timeWhat Self-Sabotage Actually Is ∙ Why “self-sabotage” is really maladaptive self-soothing (and why this reframe changes everything) ∙ The behaviors smart women reach for: phone scrolling, conflict-seeking, over-functioning, food, hypervigilance ∙ Starting fights to avoid inner conflict - the pattern nobody talks about ∙ How we use “acceptable” addictions to numb out (and why they’re so accessible)The Patterns Keeping You Stuck ∙ “I’m self-reflective, not always self-aware” - why you can intellectualize everything but still can’t change ∙ The mental load makes better choices practically impossible sometimes ∙ Why you can’t selectively numb (what you’re losing when you disconnect from discomfort) ∙ People-pleasing: the hardest thing to let go of at 40Tiger Energy vs Swan Energy ∙ Why discipline culture and “tough love” keeps burning you out ∙ The masculine energy of Goggins-style motivation (and when it actually works vs when it destroys) ∙ “All tiger energy, zero swan energy” - which one are you? ∙ How to be goals-driven without being rigidThe Uncomfortable Work of Real Change ∙ Being able to tolerate discomfort is the skill of our generation ∙ Naming the feeling dissolves 80% of its power ∙ Why you can’t sit through a full-length movie (and what that’s really about) ∙ The practice: brain dump everything swirling in your head today - not Pinterest-worthy, just rawWhat Actually Works ∙ Why compassion beats discipline for sustainable change ∙ Understanding what’s driving the behavior underneath ∙ How Jacquie broke her pattern of using food to self-soothe (Magnums for breakfast, lolly stashes around the house, managing Crohn’s disease) ∙ The shift from self-contempt to curiosity. Jacquie Ward is a psychologist based in South Sydney who works with children, adolescents, and their families both in person and online. After the birth of her first child, a deep love of learning combined with a fascination for developmental psychology and attachment theory led her to pursue a complete career change. Almost 10 years, two more babies, and approximately 5,000 textbooks later, she found herself immersed in her dream job.For Jacquie, working with children, teens, and their families as they navigate challenges with mental health and wellbeing is the ultimate privilege. She’s also a mum of three (11, 9, and 5), married to her high school sweetheart Dave, and has lived the midlife transformation she talks about in this episode - from chronic people-pleasing and maladaptive coping to a softer, more sustainable way of being.Connect with Jacquie:Website: jacquieward.com.auInstagram: @jacquie_ward_https://www.instagram.com/sweat.chill.exhale?igsh=MWlvbTdib2pram9haA==If you want even more- head over to our subscriber only podcast  https://apple.co/iamFollow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kylielately?igsh=MW0xZGxmZXdqYmw2bQ%3D%3D&utm_source=qrSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.