Am I doing it wrong? For Doctors by Doctors.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc's Youtube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc's Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz‌💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27dxLHello, Doctor Humans!Today, we’re unpacking the subtle (and not-so-subtle) ways the medical system teaches us to stay quiet, overwork, and accept “normal” as “okay.” This one’s all about reclaiming your worth, speaking up respectfully, and understanding that gratitude for your job doesn’t mean surrendering your basic rights. If you’ve ever been afraid to “rock the boat,” this is the reminder you didn’t know you needed.In this episode, we’ll dive into:Just because something is normal in medicine doesn’t mean it’s acceptable.Gratitude for your role should never equal giving up your boundaries or rights.You’re far more valuable to your workplace than you think — hospitals depend on you showing up and thriving.Self-advocacy isn’t arrogance — it’s a reflection of self-respect and professional maturity.Recognize the difference between “rocking the boat” and simply standing up for what’s reasonable.Mindset + understanding your rights = empowerment that changes how you show up.When you value yourself, you teach others how to treat you — including your peers, seniors, and the system itself.We’d love to hear from you — what’s one situation where you realized your value as a doctor?Or maybe where you forgot it for a while?

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc's Youtube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc's Instagram: https://linkly.link/2FUkz‌💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27dxJ💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27dxLHello doctor humans!Today, we’re diving into a topic that hits every doctor’s nerve: why we don’t leave work on time.If you’ve ever found yourself staying late to finish that “one last thing,” or if you’ve felt guilty walking out on time while others keep working — this episode is for you. We’re unpacking the seven hidden reasons we stay past our shifts, from the sneaky “hero complex” to cultural expectations and even our perfectionist brains chasing that sweet, sweet dopamine hit of a cleared to-do list. We promise — this one’s going to stir up some feelings, but also offer a whole lot of clarity and compassion.In this episode, we’ll dive into:The Hero Complex – That internal belief that “if I don’t do it, everything will fall apart” — and how this noble intention can quietly burn us out.Being Overly Available – How being too approachable and visible keeps you stuck doing extra work that isn’t yours.Toxic Culture & Expectations – Why hospital culture normalizes staying late — and how to start challenging it (with empathy and courage).Short Staffing ≠ Your Responsibility – Learning to set limits, advocate for yourself, and stop carrying an entire team’s workload on your back.The To-Do List Trap – The myth of “finishing everything” and how chasing that relief keeps you stuck in an unhealthy cycle.Self-Worth & Avoidance – Exploring how staying late can sometimes be about avoiding our own lives outside of work.Redefining What Makes a ‘Good Doctor’ – Choosing alignment over exhaustion and giving yourself permission to go home.If this episode hits close to home — if you’ve found yourself torn between being a “good doctor” and taking care of yourself — we’d love to hear from you.Share your thoughts with us in the comments or DM us on Instagram. Tell us: What’s the hardest part about leaving work on time for you?

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faP‌💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE 💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27UJ6Hello, doctor humans!In this episode we’re unpacking a familiar but sneaky story many doctors carry: the belief that “if it isn’t hard, it isn’t worthy.” From choosing a specialty, to surviving exams, to finally finishing training and wondering why we can’t just relax. We talk about where that drive comes from, how it shapes our choices, and how to intentionally choose ease (without shame) so we can build a fuller life beyond constant struggle. If you’ve ever felt like you must earn your worth through effort, this one’s for you.In this episode, we’ll dive into:The “no pain, no gain” narrative is common in medicine and leads us to equate worthiness with hardship.Many doctors choose harder paths (or avoid ease) because of an underlying sense of “not enough.”Finishing training often leaves a weird limbo — we expect relief but can feel guilty for wanting ease.Practical examples: specialty-choice paralysis, doing medical reading on holiday, and abandoning hobbies during exams.How to spot the drivers behind decisions: look at the thoughts, beliefs, and emotions that push you toward hard or easy choices.The cost of always choosing hard: missed presence, relationships, creativity, and micro-moments we can’t get back.Small experiments to test a new way of living: try bringing work to the beach and being present, or deliberately choosing the easier route and noticing the outcome.Reframing: acknowledging we are already enough and that ease, joy, and presence are valid, valuable ways to live.We’d love to hear from you — do you feel confident enough to choose the easier path? Or does the idea of not having your foot heavy on the accelerator terrify you?Share this episode with a colleague who needs permission to take their heavy foot off the accelerator — let’s normalise choosing ease together.

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faP‌💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE 💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT with Becc to learn how Dare, Darling can make you unshakaeble? Book here: https://2ly.link/27UJ6Hello, doctor humans!In today’s episode, we’re diving into a topic we know so many of us can relate to: that tempting urge to pretend. Whether it’s in front of patients, colleagues, or even friends, there are those moments where we feel pressure to act like we know more, feel less, or have it all together.Today, we’re unpacking what’s really happening underneath that urge (often shame, fear, or people-pleasing) and exploring how telling the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable, can free us and deepen our relationships.In this episode, we’ll dive into:Why the instinct to “pretend” shows up in professional and personal spaces.How people-pleasing and small “white lies” can erode trust over time.A vulnerable story about missing commitments and the pull to hide versus choosing honesty.The powerful role of shame in driving us to cover up—and how truth is the antidote.Why patients, colleagues, and loved ones can handle the truth—and why it honors them when we share it.How practicing authenticity sets healthier expectations in both personal and professional relationships.What situations have tempted you to pretend, and how did you handle it? Drop us a comment, send us a message, or share this episode with someone who might need the reminder that honesty really is the more powerful path.Will you challenge yourself to come on a truth-telling journey with us? Even for the ‘little’ white lies? Tell us in the comments if you’re in!

Hang out with Kristeen & Becc on more social media! 🌎📽 Kristeen's Youtube: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faR👋 Kristeen's Instagram: ⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faF📽 Becc's Youtube: https://2ly.link/27faP👋 Becc's Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://2ly.link/27faO💌 Want FREE 1-line mindset upgrades every M/W/F to make you more UNSHAKEABLE? 💌 Just drop your email here: https://2ly.link/27UJX💜 In the Dare, Darling Group Coaching Membership, Doctor Becc makes doctors who feel never enough UNSHAKEABLE 💜 Want to apply for a NO-COST CONSULT to join? 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27UJ6Hello our beautiful friends and doctor humans!In this episode, we’re diving into something that so many of us in medicine quietly wrestle with: the emotional chaos of being on call.Not just the practicalities, but the deeper, stickier stuff, like the loss of freedom, the hypervigilance, the interruption of joy, and how that bloody phone ring can yank you straight out of flow and into fury. 😤Kristeen opens up about her very real struggle with on-call life (and her deep dislike of it), and Doctor Becc walks her through the emotional layers behind that resentment, grief for lost control, perfectionism, and the pain of feeling your goals slip further away.Whether it’s just a 60-second phone call or being called in to operate all night after being called in that whole day so far…If being on call ever makes you feel like you’re constantly bracing for impact, this one is absolutely for you.In this episode, we’ll dive into:📞 Why being on call feels like a bomb that could go off at any moment💣 How living life around “maybe” calls steals more than just your time🧠 The hidden link between being interrupted and fear of not reaching your goals😣 The emotional cost of avoiding pain… and how that avoidance steals more than the call itself💡 Coaching questions to help you untangle what’s really upsetting you on call🥴 Real talk about overreactions (that aren’t actually overreactions)💬 And an example from Becc about where she was not owning her emotions herself - and what if really means to take responsibility for generating them instead of blaming the world.We want to hear from you: What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to being on call? Is it the sleep? The uncertainty? The lack of control? Drop us a comment, message us, or leave a review telling us your on-call story (the good, the bad, and the grumbly). 💬✨Let’s talk about it. Because you deserve a life that feels like yours, even when you’re on call. 💖

✨ WILL WE SEE YOU at the Creative Careers in Medicine Conference - August 23rd + 24th Albert Park, Melbourne 📍 Come and tell us all of your glory cringe stories that give you all that sweet, sweet growth. Don't cringe alone, cringe with friends.Use our code: CCIMFIFTY🎟️ https://events.humanitix.com/ccim-conference-2025-let-s-create?discountcode=CCIMFIFTY___________Doctors, are you holding back because you’re afraid to be... rubbish? 😅In this cringe-filled yet power-packed episode, Doctor Becc (aka Dr Rebecca Nothrop) and Kristeen Barker dive deep into one of the biggest unspoken blocks for so many high-achieving medics: the fear of being bad at something new. Whether you’re dreaming of launching a business, creating educational content, or starting a podcast of your own—there’s a big ol’ cringe tax at the beginning... and surprise! Cringe is forever.This episode is for the creatively curious, the impact-driven innovators, and any doctor who's ever said, "I have this idea, but…". Doctor Becc and Kristeen get real about:Why being bad at something is the price of doing anything boldHow perfectionism sneaks in disguised as “reasonable planning”The magic of letting it be easy—and letting it be cringeStrategic byproducts: why your creative side hustle gives you more than just a goalHow building your cringe muscle might just unlock your best self🎧 Come hang out, laugh with us, cringe a little, and leave with a whole new lens on growth.👉 Was this the push you needed? Tell us what you’re finally starting (or cringing your way through)! Leave a comment, write us a review, or tag us in your cringe debut.

Book a NO-COST CONSULT to understand how Dare, Darling can make you unshakeable 👭👭👭 https://2ly.link/27dxLDare, Darling is for the woman in medicine who ‘has ticked all the boxes’ but still feels not enough.Dare, Darling is where high-performing, caring doctors become unshameable, unshakeable, & unstoppable—by freeing themselves from the pressure to prove, please, & perfect. You don’t need to work harder, ‘cope’ better or be more organised. You need more power.Through weekly coaching sessions, a curriculum of self-coaching courses, & a community of doctors like you who ‘get it’, this is the support system that high-performers in any other industry receive.Even in the uncertainty & adversity of life in clinical medicine, gain unshakeable self-leadership, emotional mastery, and feel in proud & in control.The pressures aren’t going away. Stop trying to stabilise the world to feel grounded. Become unshakeable.