Anxious Attachment Solution: Taking Back Her Brain with Love Life Coach Amber Lynn

📩 Work With MeJoin my waitlist for Anxious Attachment Boot Camp: Wait list for the Anxious Attachment Boot CampYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 3 Month coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Let’s Connect:Join our Free Podcast Community on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution CommunityFollow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

In this episode, I share one of the most transformative parts of my personal growth journey: learning how to quiet the harsh inner critic—the “mean girl” in my mind. For years, this voice convinced me that perfection was the only path to safety, constantly pushing me to overwork, people-please, and abandon my true feelings in the name of protection.I break down how our brains are wired to avoid pain, seek pleasure, and conserve energy—which is why change feels so hard. Even when we want more for our lives, our mind resists, feeding us limiting beliefs like “you’ll never change” or “this is just who you are.” But these thoughts aren’t truth—they’re fear.This episode explores how unchecked thoughts shape our emotions, actions, and ultimately our results. When we don’t learn to supervise our minds, we stay stuck in cycles of self-doubt, anxiety, and disempowerment. I share how my own inner dialogue once kept me trapped in unhealthy relationships, burnout, and low self-worth—and how everything shifted when I started doing thought work.Through coaching tools, self-awareness, and intentional thinking, I learned to challenge those automatic beliefs, detach my worth from others, and create a new internal narrative rooted in self-compassion and empowerment. I also talk about the importance of giving yourself grace, redefining what it means to be “good,” and allowing yourself to be human.If you’ve ever felt stuck in your thoughts, overwhelmed by self-criticism, or like you’re holding yourself back from the life you want—this episode will show you that change is possible. It starts with learning to manage your mind.📩 Work With MeJoin my waitlist for Anxious Attachment Boot Camp: Wait list for the Anxious Attachment Boot CampYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 3 Month coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Let’s Connect:Join our Free Podcast Community on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution CommunityFollow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

Welcome to The Anxious Attachment Solution. In today’s episode, we’re exploring how to extract wisdom from your anxious attachment triggers — and how doing so helps you take your power back.We often see anxious attachment as a curse. We label ourselves broken. We replay stories about how it’s ruined relationships or made us “too much.” But what if your anxious attachment isn’t pointless pain? What if it’s a teacher?A mentor once told me she refuses to go through pain without gaining something from it. She always looks for the gold. That mindset shifted everything for me. Instead of hating my anxious attachment — which only deepened my suffering — I began asking: What is this here to teach me?When we stay in a victim story (“Life isn’t fair,” “I’ll always be this way,” “Nothing ever works for me”), we give our power away. Our brain prefers familiar pain over unfamiliar growth. That’s why change feels harder than staying stuck. But just because a thought is automatic doesn’t mean it’s true.Anxious attachment has taught me: • How my nervous system responds to fear • How to regulate and create safety • How to communicate my needs • How to separate thoughts from facts • How to take responsibility for my healing • How to love myselfIt showed me the little girl inside who needed validation and care — and that I can give that to her now. It taught me that I’m not broken. I’m wired for connection. And I can learn security.When I stopped resenting my anxious attachment, I stopped fighting myself. I started extracting wisdom instead of just pain. I began asking powerful questions: What is this teaching me? What strength is this building? What belief needs updating?The greatest gift anxious attachment gave me was learning how to love myself — which finally allowed me to receive love fully in my marriage.Your triggers aren’t pointless. They’re information. They’re invitations. What if you decided to find the gold?If you’re ready to break the anxious cycle and build secure love, email me for a free one-hour consultation and let’s begin.📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Let’s Connect:Join our Free Podcast Community on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution CommunityFollow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

In today’s episode, we explore how anxious attachment pulls us out of the present moment and into powerful emotional stories rooted in the past. When something in our current relationship feels uncertain—like a delayed text, a shift in mood, or a moment of conflict—our nervous system can interpret it as danger. Instead of looking at the real facts in front of us, our brain searches for familiar, fear-based narratives: I’m not enough. They’re going to leave. Something is wrong. I did something bad. These stories feel true because they are wired to old emotional wounds, but they often have little to do with what is actually happening right now.We also look at how conflict in relationships can quickly become proof of unlovability for someone with anxious attachment. A simple conversation or misunderstanding can trigger defensiveness, shutdown, over-explaining, or an urgent need for reassurance. These reactions may bring temporary relief, but they keep us stuck in what we call “anxious attachment land”—a place of panic, overthinking, and emotional disconnection where real problem-solving and intimacy cannot happen.Through a personal story, this episode highlights how unexamined attachment fears can block curiosity, compassion, and healthy communication. When feedback feels like a threat instead of information, we lose the ability to stay present with the person we love. Healing begins with awareness: noticing the trigger, calming the nervous system, and choosing a new response rooted in safety rather than fear. This means validating emotions, listening before defending, and reminding ourselves that love is not fragile just because imperfection exists.We also discuss how anxious attachment shows up in dating—shaping how we present ourselves, what behavior we tolerate, and how we measure our worth. Rewriting these inner stories requires self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, and slowly practicing more supportive beliefs about lovability and enoughness.This episode is an invitation to step out of survival mode, question the stories your mind tells, and begin creating relationships grounded in security, honesty, and true emotional connection.📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Join our Free Podcast Community on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution CommunityFollow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

This episode is about connection, trust, and sharing the heart behind The Anxious Attachment Solution. When you listen, share, or join coaching, you are trusting me with your deepest fears, heartbreaks, and hopes. So today, I share my story.Growing up, I never felt like I fit in. In high school I was the “good girl,” the old soul, the teacher’s pet, the one hiding in classrooms and libraries. I wasn’t popular, but I desperately wanted to be liked, chosen, and loved. I dreamed of romance, marriage, and a soulmate, yet I kept chasing people who were emotionally unavailable.In college and adulthood, my anxious attachment showed up as:Wanting to be chosen at any costSettling for scraps of attentionConfusing being needed with being lovedPutting others’ needs before my ownBelieving I had to earn love through approval, caretaking, and perfectionFeeling “too much” and “not enough” at the same timeLearning to:Separate thoughts from feelingsQuestion the stories about worth and lovabilityRegulate my nervous system instead of chasing reassuranceStop abandoning myself to earn loveDevelop secure self-worth and unconditional self-love…changed everything.This healing journey led me to life coaching, to understanding the brain, emotions, and attachment, and ultimately to creating this podcast and my coaching program. Today I am in a deeply loving, secure marriage—not because I became perfect, but because I learned how to be safe with myself, how to manage my mind, and how to show up without letting fear run the relationship.My mission is to help women with anxious attachment:Understand their brain and nervous systemHeal self-doubt and fear of abandonmentDevelop secure self-worth and self-trustCreate healthy, emotionally safe relationshipsStop believing they are brokenLearn that love does not have to be earnedIf you don’t love and trust yourself, it’s almost impossible to believe someone else can truly love you. This work is about breaking that cycle and becoming the safe place you’ve always been searching for.You are not alone. I’ve been where you are. And healing is possible.📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Join my Free Facebook Pop Up Coaching GroupFollow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

In today’s episode, we explore how unmet childhood needs shape the beliefs and nervous system patterns that still influence our adult relationships—especially for those with anxious attachment. I break down how these early experiences create hypervigilance, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, and a chronic sense of needing to earn love, and how we can begin to rewire these patterns with compassion and consistency.As children, many of us adapted to unpredictable environments by scanning for danger, managing the emotions of others, and becoming “what was needed” to stay connected. This created a foundation of beliefs like love comes and goes, I’m too much, I have to be perfect, and connection is fragile. Our nervous system learned to brace for abandonment, silence emotions, or cling for safety. These patterns now show up as overthinking, strong emotional reactions, fear of conflict, and choosing familiar but emotionally inconsistent partners.Healing begins with meeting the inner child within us—the part of us still seeking safety, attunement, and unconditional love. We learn to show up for ourselves with curiosity instead of judgment, compassion instead of shame. We begin practicing new beliefs like: Love can stay. My emotions make sense. I am safe. I do not have to earn love. As we rebuild self-trust and develop emotional attunement with ourselves first, our nervous system slowly learns that discomfort doesn’t equal danger.We also talk about the need for safety before independence: many anxiously attached adults were never consistently soothed as children, so self-regulation feels overwhelming. By offering ourselves reassurance and grounding first, we teach the body that emotions are safe to feel—and possible to regulate.If you’re in a healthy relationship, your partner can support this healing by offering simple reassurance during conflict, understanding that your reactions come from old patterns rather than current reality, and giving you space to regulate without interpreting it as withdrawal.Ultimately, anxious attachment patterns are not character flaws—they’re survival strategies your younger self learned. With consistency, emotional attunement, and new supportive beliefs, you can rewire these patterns and create secure, enduring love within yourself and in your relationships.📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Join my Free Facebook Pop Up Coaching GroupFollow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

Stop the Spiral: Rewiring the Anxious Attachment Mind💬 Episode Notes:In this week’s episode of The Anxious Attachment Solution, I’m diving into how to stop your anxiety spiral—the loop of thoughts, panic, and reactivity that keeps you stuck in your anxious attachment cycle.If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, spiraling after a text, or needing constant reassurance, this episode will help you understand why it happens and how to start changing it.You’ll learn:How your brain’s survival wiring (fight, flight, or freeze) fuels anxious attachment.Why your triggers feel like danger, even when they’re not.How your beliefs about worthiness, love, and trust shape your reactions.The power of awareness—the first step in my Secure Method—to rewire your mind for calm and security.How to create new, believable thoughts that help you develop secure self-worth—one thought at a time.This episode will help you start identifying the stories your brain has been telling you for years—and give you the tools to begin rewriting them.Because when you learn to pause, question your thoughts, and self-soothe, you stop fueling the spiral and start becoming your most secure self.✨ Listen now to learn how awareness and intentional thought work can help you stop your anxious spiral and create the love and stability you’ve always wanted.📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

Welcome back to The Anxious Attachment Solution. I’m your host, Life Coach Amber Lynn.In this episode, I want to expand on something I said before—you don’t need your partner to ride the emotional roller coaster with you. I want to be clear: my work is for those in relationships with partners who care, show up, and want to build something healthy with you. Never use my podcast to justify staying in unhealthy or harmful relationships.So many of us with anxious attachment never stopped to question what love really means to us. We inherited stories about love—from family, society, or rom-coms—without consciously deciding if we even like those stories. These invisible “manuals” often tell us love means our partner should know how we feel, should make us feel better, and should anticipate our needs without us communicating them.But these “shoulds” are clues from our anxious brain. It tells us:“If they really cared, they’d know.”“If they loved me, they’d never upset me.”“If they cared, they’d fix my feelings.”These thoughts create unhuman expectations—for them and for us. When they can’t meet them, our brain makes it mean we’re unloved or unsafe. But the truth is, love and safety come from within us. No one can make us believe we’re loved until we’ve healed the fear of abandonment that distorts how we see love.When I look back, I see how my anxious brain made small things into big problems. I overgave, overanalyzed, and took every critique as rejection. I didn’t realize my reactions came from what my brain made things mean—not what my partner actually did.Now I understand the brain: when our amygdala (the reactive part) takes over, our thinking brain goes offline. We enter fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. The work is learning to calm the amygdala, bring our prefrontal cortex back online, and regulate ourselves.You are responsible for your emotions and your partner is responsible for theirs. They don’t have to go on your emotional roller coaster. They can love you without having to fix your triggers. The more you learn to self-soothe, the less pressure there is on your relationship.When you process your triggers and offer yourself compassion, you stop needing constant reassurance. You become your own secure base—your own source of validation and calm.Remember: you are worthy, you are lovable, and your relationship doesn’t have to be perfect to be healthy. Love is not about perfection—it’s about two humans growing, healing, and choosing love on purpose.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much”—too needy, too emotional, too sensitive—this episode is for you. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the real reason you feel too much and believe it, why this belief keeps you stuck in the anxious attachment cycle, and how you can finally change it.We’ll explore how this “too much” belief shows up in dating, relationships, and everyday life—often leading to overthinking, people-pleasing, defensiveness, or shutting down. And I’ll teach you the first step in rewiring your brain so you can calm your nervous system, trust yourself, and confidently show up as the person you want to be.Key TakeawaysYou are not too much — you just have an unmanaged anxious attachment cycle.Feeling “too much” is learned from past experiences and repeated thoughts that became a belief.This belief fuels fear, self-doubt, people-pleasing, emotional reactivity, and low self-worth.Your thoughts create your feelings → your feelings drive your actions → your actions create your results.You can interrupt this cycle by using The Secure Method:🧠 Thought Work in ActionTo rewire your brain, start with thought ladders:Current thought: “I am too much.”Bridge thoughts to practice:“I am not too much for my people.”“Some people will love me for who I am.”“I have anxious attachment and I am enough.”Secure thought to aim for: “I am enough. I am worthy.”Practice these thoughts daily—on sticky notes, alarms, or journaling—to build new beliefs over time.🛠️ Practical Steps to TryNotice & Name Your Cycle:What triggers you?What anxious thoughts come up?How do they make you feel?What actions do you take (or avoid)?What result does this create?Pause Before Reacting: Validate your feelings, offer yourself kindness, and ask:“What do I need right now to feel safe?”Practice Secure Thoughts: Use thought ladders to slowly teach your brain new beliefs.❤️ RememberYou are NOT your anxious attachment.You are not “too much.”You can rewire your brain and create secure, healthy habits in relationships.You are worthy, lovable, and enough—exactly as you are.📩 Work With MeYou don’t have to do this work alone! ✨ Schedule a FREE 1-hour consultation → amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com ✨ Join my 12-week coaching program to stop your anxious attachment cycle, build confidence, and finally feel secure in your relationships and life.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious AttachmentLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

This is part one of a two-part series where I share 10 signs of anxious attachment and what you can do to start creating more secure relationships.✨ In this episode, we’ll cover:The fear of abandonment—why it feels so real and how to pause before panic takes overOverthinking—why replaying conversations and “what-ifs” keeps you stuck in anxietyConstant reassurance seeking—how it sabotages trust in yourself and your relationshipsThe hidden beliefs behind these patterns (not being good enough, being “too much”)Tools to calm your nervous system when your anxious attachment is triggeredHow to begin rewriting your self-worth and love narratives so you can feel safe in relationships💡 Key Takeaways:Your brain is wired to tell stories rooted in fear—but you can learn to separate facts from anxious thoughts.Seeking reassurance may feel soothing, but it weakens self-trust. True safety comes from learning to regulate yourself.Overthinking and perfectionism are not signs of unworthiness—they’re signals that your anxious attachment is in the driver’s seat.With awareness and practice, you can teach your brain and body to become a safe place for all of your emotions.📌 Try This:Next time you feel fear of abandonment or panic: pause, take a sip of cold water, and label the sensation in your body before reacting.Write down your thoughts (a thought download) and separate facts from the “story” your brain is making up.Practice new self-talk: instead of “I’m not enough”, try “I feel fear AND I am capable of holding it. My worth is inherent.”✨ Remember: You are not broken. You are not too much. You are not stuck in anxious attachment forever. With the right tools, you can rewire your brain and create secure, loving relationships.📩 Work with Me: I offer a 12-week 1:1 coaching program using my Secure Method, where I help you calm your nervous system, rewire your thoughts, and step into healthier relationship habits.👉 Schedule a free 1-hour consultation—whether you want to explore coaching or just experience a sample session. 📧 Email me at amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com with your questions or podcast topic requests.Links and Resources:Get my free Guide: Calming Your Anxious Attachment Free 4 day video Training Being YOU doesn’t have to be scaryLinktree to all things happening now: https://linktr.ee/takingbackherbrainLet’s Connect:Follow me on instagram: @anxiousattachmentsolutionFollow me on Facebook: Anxious Attachment Solution Life Coach AmberFollow me on substack: @takingbacherbraincoachingShare your thoughts and experiences with the hashtag #anxiousattachmentsolution and tag @anxiousattachmentsolutionEmail me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com for a free one hour consultation

We have to learn to simultaneously talk back to our brain to tell it to hush and listen to what the other person is saying. Recognize the feelings that start to come up.If you need time to process what was said because your emotions are too high- ask for some time to think about what they said. Questions to ask yourself“Why is what they are saying making me feel ( judged, criticized, or not good enough) ?”“What is my brain making this mean?”This is a story my brain is telling me- but is it actual fact? Is this what they are actually saying? Most likely it is not. Do a thought download - write it all outThey said words, these words made me feel, I feel this way because This will reveal to you the story that your brain is telling you- this will reveal the real reason why you feel an urgency, or a panic, or defensive, or whatever uncomfortable emotion it may be for youListening is often hard for us with anxious attachment because we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect in a relationship so hearing anything short of Positive, Affirmations- cause our brain to panic and look for red flags- aka hypervigilance. Our brain has been wired to scanning for danger “emotional dangers” - scan, scan, scan for any potential problem- this is the problem because it often makes problems where there are not. Since we have this deep rooted fear of abandonment or rejection it is beneath it all. We have to practice grounded ourselves in the moments and not in the “potential fears” of anxious attachment.When we are constantly putting pressure on ourselves to do everything right and be hyper-attuned to other’s needs in relationships it keeps our nervous system in a constant state of survival and over functioning. Causing us to have a hard time with clear and transparent communication, causing us to overthink, be anxious and always on edge. This will probably end up being an entirely separate podcast because the pressure to be perfect and anticipate others needs is another habit that actually causes strain on our relationships.Our brain learned to do this when we were younger as a means for survival. This used to be a very helpful thing to us and now we are growing up and want to do more than just survive. We want to live and be present in our relationships with other people.So when you discover what your brain is making their words mean- this is not the time to beat yourself up more for being a person with anxious attachment or for being “broken” this is the time to show yourself compassion and really validate your feelings.You can validate your fears without believing them, You can validate your pressure without believing the story your brain is telling you. You can show yourself compassion and you can even allow yourself to be frustrated that listening is so hard right now. I want you to know listening and communicating will get better, it will get easier. When you learn how to stop putting so much pressure on yourself, when you learn how to talk back to your brain, and calm your nervous system so that it stops scanning for dangers- it does get easier. You will be able to listen.When my brain wants to start making my wife’s words mean something- I now say can we listen to her words first before you tell me what you think about it. I remind myself that I am safe to hear words. I am safe to hear her words. I am capable of hearing what she has to say. I don’t have to make it mean more than what she says. You will be able to develop listening skills. You will be able to hear words that make you feel like you are the problem and then you will be able to turn it around and really hear what the other person is saying- it just takes awareness and practice, practice.

Before we jump to the practicing new thoughts: We have to do phase 1 self awareness- you first have to know the thoughts that you have now about yourself and love, your self and reassurance, your thoughts about conditional love. So get a piece of paper write it downWhat are all the thoughts I think about me and my ability to be loved? What are all of my thoughts about love and my self worth? Why am I not worthy of love? Now Why am I worthy of love?When you get these thoughts down write a T next to each thought you find bring up BIG feelings, next to that thought write F: how does this feeling make you feel? Write that feelingWhat feeling do you notice the most in this narrative? Now what do you do when you feel this feeling?Now phase 2:What feeling do you want to feel when it comes to relationships? What would you have to believe to feel that way? What would you have to think to believe that? What feeling do you want to have about your selfworth? What would you have to believe to feel that way? What would you have to think to believe that?From thoughtwork to strategyWhen you are in the moment and you are not sure if you are seeking validation- ask yourself why am I doing this? What am I trying to get out of this? Is that what I actually need? What if I could get this from myself what would that look like?Often times we need validation in the middle of an argument, or in the middle of “something” that has triggered our anxious attachment, we have been programmed to believe that we need someone or something outside of ourselves to feel better. I teach my clients how to do this for themselves.How to ask ourselves what do we really need? How can I get this from me? Am I trying to prove my worth? Am I trying to prove something? Am I seeking comfort outside of myself because my brain is telling me I can’t hand these uncomfortable emotions or possible fear?This is why us with anxious attachment really need to go listen to feeling uncomfortable feelings episode again- because I am TELLING YOU even though it terrifies you. Our work is in the ability to feel safe with our emotions. Feeling secure no matter what emotions we have. If we can grow our capacity to feel uncomfortable emotions we would find ourselves less inclined to seek external validation. If we could comfort ourselves, create security and safety within ourselves we would be able to decrease our dependency on other people for our emotional regulation. If you want help doing this work email me at Amberlynn@takingbackherbrain.com and schedule your free one hour consultation.if you have questions, email me, I will answer your questions when I can. If you know you are ready to do this work, then what are you waiting for? Email me, Right now in April I have 6 open spots for my 1:1 coaching program- so don’t wait.If you are not yet on my email list email me or find my instagram at Anxious Attachment solution and get on my email list.In June I am going to be doing an Anxious Attachment Bootcamp Facebook pop up group where I will be meeting with you for an hour every day for 5 days to help you kick your anxious attachment habits to the curb.Go get on my email list, you don’t want to miss the things I am going to be doing this summer. Also if you listen to my podcast and you are enjoying it or learning something from it can you please like it, and rate it- it helps get my podcast out to more women.