#AskAMan

Anonymous met a guy who lives in her complex mid-last year, they hit it off and started dating.  Around September last year they had a miscommunication and things became a bit tense between them. They never really spoke about what happened between them and their relationship just fizzled out from there.  Fast forward to this year, she needed closure about why things ended, so she confronted the guy, and while she felt like he left her, he thought she broke things off. Right now she’s in a position where she’s wondering if he wants to be with her. 

Anonymous was in a relationship for 5 years until her partner ended things between them abruptly in December last year.  She’s struggling to get over him and they still communicate because of a business they work on together.  She’s not sure if he’s moved on yet, and she still has many questions 

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 16 years now, and for the most part their relationship was fine until he started gambling.  He became more distant, wasn’t present in their relationship and started defaulting on some of his financial responsibilities.  He got help to fix his gambling problem, but it didn’t seem to help and she feels like he didn’t really take it seriously and he returned to his gambling over and over again.  At some point he became suicidal, and she brought this to the attention of his family but they didn’t really help either.  He’s suggested that they get divorced in order to separate their assets but anonymous feels like she won’t re-marry him as he’s now a different man from the one she married….

Anonymous has been engaged to her fiancé for about four years and since then they’ve been living at her fiancé’s father’s home, as the father is late.  Her fiancé’s mother recently had a stroke and this led to anonymous and her fiancé needing to move in with his mother as he’s her only child.  Her fiancé’s job keeps him away from home a lot so she’s often at the mother’s house without him there. This has caused a rift between them as his fiancé’s mother alway complains about her and the things she’s doing in the household. She doesn’t address these things with her directly but will speak to her son about these things. 

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Anonymous has been in a relationship with her partner for about 3 years and says their relationship is great, and he ticks most of the boxes of what she’s looking for a in a partner.  The only issue she has with him is his behaviour in the bedroom, as she feels like he’s become sexually selfish.  It wasn’t always like this but lately he rushes through foreplay and doesn’t listen to what she wants and always wants them to do things his way in the bedroom. 

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 9 years now, and says things were generally fine between them until she found out last year that he actually has children from a previous relationship that he didn’t tell her about.  She was upset about this and confronted him, to which he responded by saying that she should be happy that he married her instead of the mother of his children.  She is now in the process of divorcing him, however, the people in her life are calling her out, saying she’s overreacting by divorcing him. 

Anonymous started dating her partner about three years ago and says her partner cheated on her, with his ex, early on in their relationship but they overcame this and moved on with their relationship.  She recently found texts on his phone to his friend where he was sharing with his friend about meeting up with another girl.  She confronted him about this and he said it’s not something that actually happened or that he went through with, he was just trying to impress his friends, who apparently thrive on that kind of behaviour.  She’s thinking of breaking up with him, but is not sure if thats the right choice.