Why Beating Yourself Up Isn't Making You Better

Why Beating Yourself Up Isn't Making You Better

From Authentic Men's Group podcast by Authentic Men's Group

June 30, 2025 · 34 min · Episode 93

About this episode

The episode discusses the negative impact of self-esteem culture on men and promotes self-compassion as a healthier alternative.

Why Beating Yourself Up Isn't Making You Better Rewiring the Inner Critic For most of us men, we were raised on self-esteem, (either resourceful input, or non-resourceful input) Be confident. Stand tall. Don't screw up. Win at all costs. That's self-esteem culture. It's about feeling good about yourself when you're doing well — when you're successful, strong, admired, competent, and on your game. But the second you fall short? That's when self-esteem gets shaky. You feel like less of a man. This is where self-compassion comes in — and most of us weren't taught this growing up. What's the Difference? Self-Esteem Self-esteem says: "I'm valuable because I'm good at something." But what happens when you're not good? When you fail? When you screw up as a dad, partner, or professional? You beat yourself up. You think you're weak. You try harder, you push down or numb feelings, you obsess, or you isolate. Self-Compassion Self-compassion says: "Even when I mess up, I still matter." It's not about lowering your standards or letting yourself off the hook. It's about treating yourself like you would treat a friend. You don't rip him to shreds when he's struggling — you encourage him. You…

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Host: Authentic Men's Group

Topics covered

  • self-esteem
  • self-compassion
  • mental health
  • masculinity
  • emotional well-being

Keywords

  • self-esteem
  • self-compassion
  • mental health
  • men's issues
  • emotional support

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