Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Today we are going there. Full send. Adam and Pris sit down with Courtney Brame — founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), host of a podcast with over 350 episodes, 500-hour certified yoga teacher, co-author of a sex education book, and one of the few men of color leading the national conversation on HSV stigma. Courtney was diagnosed with genital HSV-2 in 2013. Instead of shrinking from it, he turned that experience into a full-on movement — one that has helped thousands of people reclaim their identity, their sexuality, and their sanity after a herpes diagnosis. This episode is not just for people who are HSV positive. It is for anyone who has ever had sex, is having sex, or is planning to have more of it. Which, if you're in the lifestyle, is all of you. In This Episode: Courtney's origin story — how a Saturday morning at his grandmother's house led to founding a 501(c)3 nonprofit that has saved lives Why 36% of people report suicidal ideation after a herpes diagnosis — and why Courtney decided that was unacceptable The truth about HSV-1 vs. HSV-2 — and why your middle school health class completely failed you Cold sores. Yeah. Those. We're going there. The lifestyle's unspoken assumption that "nobody here has anything" — and why that assumption is the actual problem How to have the disclosure conversation — Courtney literally walks us through his real-life script, word for word Why communicative sex is the safest sex — and what that actually looks like before clothes come off The 360-degree analogy that reframes everything you think you know about what a diagnosis means for your identity How yoga therapy became a cornerstone of Courtney's healing framework — and why nervous system regulation matters more than you think Plus: Pris gets completely honest about her own ignorance around HSV, Adam gets real about the "turn off the anxiety brain mid-play" problem, and both of them leave the conversation humbled, educated, and genuinely better equipped to have these conversations in the community. Find everything Courtney is building at spfpp.org — support groups (Mondays, separate men's and women's), one-on-one peer support, yoga therapy, ongoing surveys, resources, and more. Go find your people. They are there. And as always, everything from Beyond Monogamy — every episode, video clip, blog post, events tab, and our 100% anonymous confessional — lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode hit different, you already know what to do. Like it. Share it. Leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Word of mouth is how we grow this community.

This one's a little different, y'all. We recorded this episode live — and we mean live — straight from the floor of the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover in San Antonio. Microphones up, audience in the room, Whataburger being delivered to the door at midnight, and absolutely zero filter. Just the way we like it. The plan was to cover two things: hotel takeover etiquette (the unspoken rules nobody puts in the welcome packet) and how to keep your relationship the priority when you're surrounded by a weekend full of gorgeous, consenting, very enthusiastic humans. Important topics. Stuff we genuinely wanted to dig into. And then our audience showed up. What followed was 45 minutes of the most gloriously unhinged live conversation we've had on mic — themed room judging, murky pool horror stories, open-door vs. closed-door policies, Pris casually announcing her gang bang goals to a room full of people, Adam admitting he cannot say no when a woman corners him, and an entire tangent about Martha Stewart that nobody asked for but everyone enjoyed. Fair warning: because this was a live recording and we were feeding off the crowd's energy, we went all over the place. That's what makes it real — it's exactly what a hotel takeover feels like in the moment. But it also means we didn't get to go as deep as we wanted on the actual etiquette content. We're going to revisit this topic in a proper dedicated episode where we can actually slow down and give you the breakdown you deserve. Think of this one as the chaotic, hilarious, only-slightly-informative preview. The main event is coming. In this episode: What actually happens at a hotel takeover (spoiler: it's not "housekeeping, can I come in?") Themed rooms, scavenger hunts, and the Fiesta room Pris is still talking about Open door vs. closed door — and what it means when every door is shut and silent at 1 AM Pool etiquette we shouldn't have to explain… and yet The pre-event conversation every couple needs before pulling into that parking lot Fantasy vs. reality of showing up thinking you're going to absolutely wreck the whole weekend The murky pool story from their very first takeover (you've been warned) Pris's birthday orgy, her gang bang bucket list, and an extended Hitachi Magic Wand tribute Why Adam talked big the entire drive there and then immediately said "don't leave me" upon arrival This episode was recorded in front of a live audience at Texas Desires Hotel Takeover. Shoutout to everyone who was in that room. Y'all made the show. New full episodes every Sunday. QUICKIEs every Wednesday. We're live on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central. Everything we do — every episode, every clip, every blog, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional — lives at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode made you laugh, cringe, or immediately start Googling hotel takeovers near you — do us a solid and leave a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. It takes two minutes and it genuinely means the world to us.

What if your penis could tell you whether you're about to have a heart attack? Sounds wild, right? That's exactly the kind of conversation we had this week, and it did not disappoint. Adam and Pris sit down with Dr. Elliot Justin — physician, entrepreneur, and founder of Firm Tech — one of the most fascinating humans we've ever had on the show. Dr. Justin is on a mission to bring real, data-driven sexual health tools to men and women, and the technology he's building is genuinely mind-blowing. We're talking about a wearable cock ring — yes, you read that right — that tracks nocturnal erections, measures firmness during sex, and generates health data that could literally save your life. And that's just the beginning. In This Episode, We Cover: How Dr. Justin went from having an electrode implanted near his own pubic nerve (yes, on himself) to building the world's largest erection database Why nocturnal erections are one of the most powerful leading indicators of cardiovascular health — and why your doctor has never told you that The shocking truth about erectile dysfunction: most men who think they have ED... don't. They just lose it. There's a difference, and it matters enormously How a cock ring works better than Viagra for most men — and why putting more blood in isn't the same as keeping blood in The Firm Tech ring: what it does, how it works, why Dr. Justin's wife inspired its design (yes, really — bra hooks and a stress ball), and why it's been used over a million times during sex The Ring Mate — a vibrator attachment designed for women during penetrative sex, invented by Dr. Justin's wife Female sexual dysfunction: 54% of women over 50 report sexual health issues, and why clitoral engorgement data could be a game-changer Why SSRIs are "dick and clit killers" — and why Dr. Justin is openly hostile to that class of medication Why every single supplement they've tested (12 of them) has failed to improve erectile function in controlled data Performance anxiety, the death grip debate, porn addiction myths, and why men in the lifestyle need to open their minds about cock rings Pris reveals she's in early menopause, they talk testosterone for women, and Dr. Justin has thoughts About Dr. Elliot Justin Dr. Elliot Justin is a physician, researcher, and the founder and CEO of Firm Tech, a sexual health technology company. He has published multiple peer-reviewed papers on erectile health, nocturnal erections, and sexual wellness wearables. His device has tracked over 220,000 erections on nearly 4,000 men — making it the largest erectile health database in the world. He lives in Montana, rides horses with questionable skill (by his own admission), and is genuinely one of a kind. Find Dr. Justin and the Firm Tech ring at myfirmtech.com or email him directly at elliott@myfirmtech.com. Exclusive Listener Discount — Firm Tech Disclosure: Beyond Monogamy is an affiliate partner of Firm Tech. If you purchase through our code, we earn a commission at no extra cost to you — and we only partner with products we actually believe in. Use code BEYOMONO at checkout for 15% off any Firm Tech order at myfirmtech.com. Find Everything Beyond Monogamy Every episode, video clip, guest bio, blog post, merch, events calendar, and our anonymous confessional (submit your secrets — no one will ever know it's you) all live at www.beyond-monogamy.com. We stream live every Thursday on FullSwapRadio.com at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central. Come hang out with us. If this episode hit different, do us a solid: subscribe, leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, and share this with someone who needs to hear it. It seriously helps more people find us, and more people finding us means more conversations exactly like this one.

About This Episode Y'all, this one is different. Adam and Pris sit down with the one and only Susan Bratton — intimacy expert to millions, bestselling author, founder of Personal Life Media, sexual biohacker, and Chief Advocacy Officer of ProDX Health. She's been in the lifestyle for over two decades, she's married to her husband Tim of 34 years, she has a boyfriend of five years, and she can tell you from personal experience exactly what expanded orgasm feels like. She's not talking about case studies. She's living it. This conversation goes deep — from how Susan went from a woman who avoided sex with her husband to becoming the person millions of people turn to for real, actionable, heart-connected intimacy advice. She drops her non-negotiable 90-day STI testing protocol, breaks down what "fluid bonded" and "screened in" actually mean, explains the science of extended orgasms, and makes a strong case for why your sex life should only get better with age. In This Episode How Susan went from sexually avoidant to becoming the world's go-to hot sex teacher Why she and Tim dropped the labels and started calling their relationship simply "open" The 90-day STI screening protocol that's been a non-negotiable in her poly life for 20 years What "fluid bonded" and "screened in" mean and why every lifestyle couple should have a protocol Expanded orgasm — the clitoral stroking practice that can extend your partner's climax into something wild Sexual biohacking: nitric oxide, hormone therapy, acoustic wave, red light, stem cells, and the concept of extending your "sex span" Veto power in poly — is it toxic or just solid relationship management? NRE (New Relationship Energy) and why your partner might be seeing red flags you're completely blind to Susan's new book "The Alchemy of Intimacy" and where to get her free resources Resources Susan Mentioned Free expanded orgasm resources: expandherorgasmtonight.com STI testing Susan recommends: prodxhealth.com Susan's new book: 10intimacy.com Susan Bratton's main site: susanbratton.com Find Everything Beyond Monogamy Episodes, blogs, events, merch, guest bios, and our anonymous confessional all live at www.beyond-monogamy.com. If this episode hit different, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you haven't left us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts yet — now is the time. It takes 30 seconds and it genuinely means the world to us.

Adam is coming in a little rough this week — fresh off a round of strep throat — but you know us, we don't miss a show. And this one? This one was worth every scratchy word. We're talking about something that gets thrown around a lot in the lifestyle: the idea that single men are a problem. That they're ruining it for everyone. That every couple should avoid them like a shady DM at 2 AM. But first, Adam has something to get off his chest. If you've ever reached out to a married man and spent the entire conversation raving about how gorgeous his wife is... we need to have a little talk. Because from where Adam's standing, that's not flattery — that's a one-way ticket to getting ignored by both of them. He breaks down why, and Pris has thoughts. Then we get into the real conversation: single guys in the lifestyle and where that negative reputation actually comes from. Adam and Pris get honest about the preconceived notions they walked into the lifestyle with, the real experiences that shaped them, and — maybe surprisingly — the realization that married men can actually cause more drama than single ones. In this episode we cover: Why messaging a married man to gush about his wife is not the move The negative stigma single men carry — and how it got built The early experiences that made Adam and Pris assume all single guys were shady Why Pris considers the word "bull" an instant red flag Real red flags and green flags when it comes to vetting a single guy Why married men in the lifestyle can be sneakier than single ones What it actually costs — financially and emotionally — to be a single man trying to get into clubs and events The double standard between how single men and single women are labeled What "you're the toy, not the star" really means — and why it's not an insult Thirsty behavior, constant validation-seeking, and why desperation is a repellent How walking away from situations you don't want actually attracts better ones The takeaway? It's never really been about single versus married. It's about respectful versus disrespectful. And if you're a single guy who leads with respect, patience, and consent — Adam is officially in your corner. Find everything Beyond Monogamy at www.beyond-monogamy.com — including episodes, blog posts, merch, our anonymous Confessional, and the events tab where you can find details on upcoming Beyond Monogamy events. Including the Texas Desires Hotel Takeover on April 11th — a few rooms still available, but day passes are gone! We also stream live every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com. Come hang with us live. Enjoying the show? Leave us a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify — it costs you nothing and it genuinely helps us grow. Like, subscribe, share, and tell a friend who needs to hear this one.

It was Priscilla's 48th birthday weekend, and this woman did NOT come to play… well, actually, she absolutely came to play. And kiss strangers. And organize an impromptu gang bang over sushi. You know, normal birthday stuff. In this episode, Adam and Pris give you the full, unfiltered recap of what went down over one wild weekend in San Antonio — from cozy pizza nights at Via 313 to morning coffee at Arthur's in King William, birthday brunch at Alamo Biscuit Company, and a night at Club Eden that nobody who was there is going to forget anytime soon. Here's a taste of what you're getting into: Friends flew in from Florida, Arizona, Houston, Dallas, and Corpus — and every single one of them said Club Eden was the best swinger club they'd ever been to. Pris casually announced at the sushi dinner table that she wanted a gang bang for her birthday. Like a normal person. Adam confesses his social anxiety was absolutely roaring the whole drive down — and how it took a full hour to shake it off once they got to the club. The legendary loot bags Pris handcrafted with lube, condoms, Tums, Advil, Wisps, mini makeup blenders, and custom Cricut labels reading "Slut Stuff" and "Hot Girl Glam Bag." Custom Mylar balloons printed with the Beyond Monogamy logo. Because of course. 200 jello shots, multiple flavors, courtesy of their friends David and Mary. You read that right. Two. Hundred. Their friend Ray showed up with a wand and proceeded to make Pris squirt in front of a crowd within minutes. Pris requested her birthday wish out loud and got it. Full details inside. Adam got slapped in the face mid-session by a friend who's heard the "don't touch without permission" episode one too many times. The birthday lap dance situation — including Adam admitting he is not great at it. Door Dash Whataburger at 2am. A Whataburger Junior with bacon and cheese. Pris was half asleep when she ordered it and knocked out before her milkshake was even gone. This one is warm, funny, sexy, and a little chaotic in the best way possible. If you've ever wondered what it looks like when a lifestyle couple throws a birthday party that doubles as a swinger event — this is it. Full transparency, zero filters, and a whole lot of love for the people who showed up. Mentioned in this episode: Via 313 Pizza (Austin area) Alamo Biscuit Company — San Antonio Arthur's Coffee — King William District, San Antonio Club Eden — San Antonio Spunk Lube (episode sponsor) Forbidden Fruit — Austin (episode sponsor) Fiesta San Antonio & Tejano Fanfare South by Southwest (also happening that weekend in Austin) Coming up on Beyond Monogamy: Swingers 101 Workshop — March 29th, 6–8pm at Forbidden Fruit in Austin. Visit forbiddenfruit.com/workshops for tickets. Texas Desires Hotel Takeover — Weekend of April 11th. Only a few rooms left! Check the Events tab at www.beyond-monogamy.com. For all episodes, video clips, guest bios, blogs, the events tab, merch, and the 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional, visit www.beyond-monogamy.com. If you loved this episode, please like, subscribe, share, and leave us a review on Spotify or Apple Podcasts — it means the world to us and helps more people find the show. We'll see you next week. 🎂

What does ethical non-monogamy actually look like in real life? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we sit down with Dominique from the viral TikTok account Life With Dominique and her long-distance girlfriend Leah to talk about their real-life experience navigating polyamory, marriage, motherhood, and public life. Dominique is married to her husband, Leah is married to hers, and together they've built a relationship dynamic that challenges traditional ideas of love, commitment, and partnership. But as you'll hear in this conversation, ethical non-monogamy isn't just about freedom and attraction — it's about communication, logistics, vulnerability, and sometimes navigating jealousy in ways most people never think about. We talk about everything from coming out to partners, to balancing multiple relationships, to the surprising ways non-monogamy can strengthen marriages rather than destroy them. If you've ever wondered how poly relationships actually work behind the scenes, this episode pulls back the curtain. In this episode we discuss: How Dominique came out to her husband about her attraction to women How polyamory evolved naturally within her marriage What it's really like dating a long-distance partner while married The logistics of balancing family, marriage, and another relationship How jealousy shows up in non-monogamous relationships The reality of sharing non-monogamy publicly on social media Why communication is the most important skill in ethical non-monogamy How strong women and honest conversations create stronger relationships This conversation is honest, funny, thoughtful, and sometimes surprisingly emotional. As always on Beyond Monogamy, we're not here to tell you how relationships should look — we're here to show how people are making them work in the real world. Connect with Dominique You can find Dominique and follow her journey through non-monogamy on social media. All of her links are available on our guest bio page at: https://www.beyond-monogamy.com More From Beyond Monogamy Visit our website for: Full podcast episodes Video clips Blogs Merchandise Our 100% anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional 👉 https://www.beyond-monogamy.com Upcoming Events March 22 – SDC Webinar Red Flags & Green Flags in the Lifestyle 4:00 PM Central March 29 – Swingers 101 Workshop Forbidden Fruit – 6:00 PM to 8:00 PM Sign up at: https://www.forbiddenfruit.com/workshops April 11 Weekend Texas Desires Hotel Takeover – San Antonio Live show and meet-ups all weekend You can also catch Beyond Monogamy every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central on FullSwapRadio.com. If you enjoy the show, please follow, share, and leave a review wherever you listen to podcasts. It helps us grow and keep bringing these conversations to you.

Is There an Age Limit in the Swinger Lifestyle? One of the most common questions people quietly ask about ethical non-monogamy and swinging is this: Am I too old for the lifestyle? Or on the flip side… is there such a thing as being too young? In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into one of the most misunderstood topics in the swinging world — age in the lifestyle. The question actually came from a friend of ours who recently went through a divorce and started thinking about exploring the lifestyle… but had a major insecurity: "What if I'm too old for this?" So today we break it all down. We talk about the myths people believe, the reality of what lifestyle communities actually look like, and why age matters far less than confidence, personality, and effort. Because if you've ever stepped inside a lifestyle club, you already know something that outsiders don't… This is NOT a 20-year-old's game. Many of the happiest, most confident, and most sexually adventurous people in the lifestyle are in their 30s, 40s, 50s, and even 60s. Why? Because life experience, emotional intelligence, financial freedom, and confidence all play a massive role in making ethical non-monogamy work. In This Episode We Discuss: Are you too old to start exploring swinging? What the real age demographics of the lifestyle look like The biggest age insecurities people have before attending their first lifestyle event Why confidence and personality matter more than age The difference between lifestyle reality vs. porn and social media expectations Why the prime lifestyle years might actually be your 40s How older swingers often have the best experiences The role emotional maturity plays in open relationships Whether there is ever an age where people "age out" of swinging The truth about younger couples entering the lifestyle The Reality of the Lifestyle Community One of the biggest misconceptions about swinging is that everyone is young, perfect, and looks like an OnlyFans creator. The truth? The lifestyle community is made up of real people. Different body types. Different ages. Different backgrounds. What really matters is communication, chemistry, confidence, and respect. And once you understand that, the whole experience becomes much less intimidating. Thinking About Entering the Lifestyle? If you've ever wondered whether you're too old to explore ethical non-monogamy… this episode might completely change the way you think about it. Because the truth is simple: There is a lid for every pot in the lifestyle. You just have to be confident enough to show up. Connect With Us Visit our website: www.beyond-monogamy.com You can also submit your story, question, or confession through our 100% anonymous confessional. No names. No emails. Just your story. We may even discuss it on a future episode. Upcoming Events March 14 Pris's Birthday Bash at Club Eden — San Antonio March 29 Swingers 101 Workshop with Adam & Pris Forbidden Fruit – Austin, Texas April 11 Weekend Texas Desires Hotel Takeover – San Antonio More details available on the Events tab at our website. If you enjoy the show, please follow, subscribe, and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your support helps more people discover honest conversations about ethical non-monogamy.

This week on Beyond Monogamy, we're diving into two powerful throwback QUICKIE episodes that still hit just as hard today. First up: How do you even bring up swinging or ethical non-monogamy with your partner? That first conversation can either build connection or completely derail a relationship. We break down what worked for us, what didn't, and how to approach the topic of open relationships, swinging, or lifestyle exploration without triggering insecurity, defensiveness, or emotional chaos. We cover: Why timing matters when bringing up non-monogamy How to use a "preamble" instead of dropping a bomb Why alcohol and emotional fights are NOT the place The importance of reassurance and boundaries How to prepare yourself for a no Why consent between partners matters just as much as consent with others Then we pivot into raw listener confessions about rejection in the lifestyle, BDSM exploration, fear of vulnerability, and mixing vanilla life with lifestyle life. We talk about: Why rejection in the lifestyle hits differently How to say no without ghosting When overreactions become red flags The difference between people who want lifestyle-only connections vs real friendships Why you don't owe anyone play at parties or takeovers This episode is about honesty, communication, boundaries, and learning that ethical non-monogamy isn't just about sex — it's about emotional maturity and connection. If you're new to swinging, curious about open relationships, or navigating fear of rejection, this one is packed with practical insight and real talk. Leave us a review, share this with your partner, and keep those conversations going. Find everything at www.beyond-monogamy.com

What happens when modern dating culture, social media, jealousy, and ethical non-monogamy collide under one roof? In this deeply personal episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we unpack a real-life situation that sparked a powerful conversation about cheating, secrecy, emotional maturity, and the difference between ethical openness and dishonest behavior. Our kids know we are ethically non-monogamous. They understand open relationships. But this week proved something important: Understanding non-monogamy does NOT equal understanding ethics. In This Episode We Cover: The difference between cheating and ethical non-monogamy Why secrecy — not structure — destroys relationships Social media, dopamine culture, and micro-cheating Jealousy vs insecurity (and why jealousy isn't the villain) Emotional maturity in younger generations How we handled cheating early in our own lifestyle journey Parenting while being openly non-monogamous Why honesty matters more than monogamy or openness We share one of our own early lifestyle mistakes — including the relief that comes when secrets finally come to light — and how we built stronger communication from it. This episode isn't about teaching kids to be non-monogamous. It's about teaching honesty, accountability, and emotional intelligence before people start hurting each other. Whether you're monogamous, swinging, poly, open, or just curious, this episode will challenge you to ask yourself: Are you being honest in your relationship — or just hoping you don't get caught? Upcoming Beyond Monogamy Events March 14th – Club Eden San Antonio (Pris's Birthday Bash) 9:00 PM | Membership Required Details: www.beyond-monogamy.com March 29th – Swinging 101 Workshop Forbidden Fruit – Austin, TX 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM Central Follow the show on Spotify and leave a review — it helps more people find real conversations like this. Visit us at: www.beyond-monogamy.com Streaming weekly on FullSwapRadio.com (Thursdays at 2 PM & 7 PM CST)

Most people think swinging is all vibes, chemistry, and "we'll figure it out when we get there." In this episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we explain why that mindset is exactly why so many couples struggle early on. We're recording live on location at Forbidden Fruit, one of the most respected adult education spaces in Texas, and sitting down with Jonny — the man behind some of the most popular lifestyle workshops in the community. From Fellatio 101 and BDSM 101 to rope classes, consent conversations, and real-world safety education, Jonny breaks down why learning first leads to better confidence, better communication, and better experiences — both in and out of the bedroom. This episode is funny, honest, slightly unhinged in the best way, and packed with real stories from years of teaching adults how to be better lovers, better partners, and better humans. What We Cover in This Episode: Why education matters more than people realize in swinging and ENM What actually happens inside Forbidden Fruit workshops Why "winging it" leads to awkward moments and bad experiences Consent, communication, and legal realities people never talk about Why confidence comes from learning — not pretending you already know Our upcoming Swingers 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit We also talk about why safe spaces matter, how workshops are designed to be inclusive and judgment-free, and why beginners are often shocked by how welcoming and educational the experience actually is. Upcoming Workshop: Swingers 101 with Adam & Pris 📅 March 29 📍 Forbidden Fruit – Austin, TX 🕕 6:00 PM – 8:00 PM This workshop is perfect for curious beginners, newer swingers, and couples who want real answers without pressure or awkward sales pitches. Connect With Us: 🌐 Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com 📻 FullSwapRadio: Thursdays at 2 PM & 7 PM CST 🗓️ Events, Blog, Confessionals, Merch & More on our website If you love the show, please like, subscribe, share, and leave a review. It helps us reach more people and keep bringing you honest conversations like this one.

Some swinger rules sound great… until you actually have to live with them. In this Wednesday Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we dive headfirst into the most common unfair rules in swinging and ethical non-monogamy — the ones couples swear will "protect the relationship" but often do the exact opposite. From "no feelings allowed" to approval rules, same-room-only forever, no single guys, and the classic double standards where one partner can do things the other can't, we break down why these rules exist, where they come from, and how they quietly create resentment, insecurity, and emotional landmines. Adam and Pris get real about their own past rules — including ones they now openly admit were unfair — and talk honestly about fear, jealousy, trust, growth, and why rules without reflection can set couples up for failure. This episode isn't about judging anyone's boundaries. It's about asking the uncomfortable but necessary question: Is this rule actually protecting us… or just avoiding a deeper conversation? You'll hear candid discussions about: Why "no feelings" is one of the most unrealistic rules in ENM The difference between inclusion and ownership Why approval rules feel respectful but can quietly limit autonomy How one-sided rules create imbalance and resentment Why avoiding post-play conversations makes things worse, not better How growth in the lifestyle often means outgrowing old rules If you've ever said, "This rule made sense at first… but now something feels off," this episode is for you. Want to share your experience anonymously? Submit a Beyond Monogamy Confessional at www.beyond-monogamy.com. It's 100% anonymous. You can also find all episodes, blogs, guest bios, merch, and resources on our website — built for the community, by the community. Beyond Monogamy streams on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.