Bonding

Happy New Year, kinksters! I’m back with another episode of Bonding and this one is a JUICY one! 💦 I’ve recently been reflecting on the work that I do, both as a Humanistic Integrative Therapist and Kink Coach and Educator, and feeling fascinated and privileged at witnessing the amazing transformations that happen when people can embrace their kinky selves. Something I have witnessed when working with these Kink focused clients, is how the topic of sex, kink and pleasure, quickly open up this...

Blood Lust Confessions - Halloween Cocktails & Kink! 🎙️ Join us for a deliciously tantalizing episode as I dive into the wildest confessions from Blood Lust, our latest Halloween cocktail and kink event! This episode, we’re sharing some of the community’s most daring and dirty secrets, straight from the confession box. Get ready for juicy tales of messy play, bold exhibitionism, and fabulous fantasies that reveal just how uninhibited—and creative—our attendees can be. From naughty experie...

Spooky season has begun and I'm back in your earbuds with another episode of Bonding. This week I talk to you about etiquette - the do's and don'ts when you're chatting up potential kinky partners. I discuss how to initiate conversations with like-minded kinksters and the process that can help create authentic connections with awareness. I touch on leading from a place of safety, trust and respect. Tune in to hear me talk about the importance of first impressions online and how just because y...

Just with any dating process, determining whether someone is right for you, or has the potential to develop something with you takes time and awareness. Within the world of kink, vetting is a very common part of dating and socialising. With vetting, we are checking out a person's vibe and whether we like them. It is a process of obtaining information about someone you wish to get to know on a sexual or romantic level. But remember, this isn’t about finding a good dom or a good sub. Ins...

Do you identify as a BRAT? Do you love to test your Dom and take control? Or do you wish you could surrender more? In this episode I break down the difference between bratting and ‘topping from the bottom’ as well as giving all submissives some top tips on the ways to ask your Dom for what you want without it taking away from your submissive experience. I break down some of the behaviours that you might notice when topping from the bottom, ask you some important questions to get ...

In this episode, Carlos and I are back on the couch answering your kinky questions again. We talk about all things communication, playfulness, sex parties and libido. Want to learn more about these topics? Head to subinthecity.com to find online workshops and details about in-person events for you to expand your curiosity and get top tips from leading professionals in the field of BDSM. Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!

BDSM – an acronym that can sound incredibly intimidating. In this quick and dirty episode, I talk about the barriers to entry that come with the term BDSM, define what kink actually is, and explore what it truly means to explore the BDSM lifestyle. Let’s challenge what we’ve been taught about sex and start to uncover our true desires, bringing those shadows into the light! Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!

In this episode, I am joined by my Dom/fiance as we answer some of your questions about our D/s dynamic and kink in general. We go into topics such as navigating your kinkiness in dating, long-distance must-dos, coming out about your kinks, working with your cycle in D/s, communication and so much more. We really enjoyed answering these questions and there will definitely be a part 2! Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!

What TF is Conscious Kink? This term “conscious” has become a bit of a buzzword in the spiritual and sexual wellness spaces, but it’s not as intimidating as it sounds! In this episode, I debunk the idea that Kink can’t be conscious, and explain how more likely than not, you’re already practising conscious kink! Join me for an evening of Conscious Kink in London on Thursday 29th June. Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!

How do you keep things fresh when you’re in a long-distance D/s dynamic? BDSM requires commitment and consistency which means LD dynamics can be difficult to navigate at first. Whether you’re fully LD or you need some tips for when you’re apart from your partner, check out this episode on how to keep the kink alive when you’re not together physically. Check out my sexy summer event: Cocktails & Kink - Earlybird tickets on sale now! Support the show Join my brand-new members community! ...

Do monogamy and kink really go together? Isn’t playing with others an inevitable part of BDSM? What about kink parties? I get a lot of questions about feeling apart of the kink community when you are in a monogamous D/s dynamic or simply want to explore kink with one person only. In this episode, I debunk some of the common misconceptions and, give you a first look at a new Sub in the City offering! Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my mailing list!

How do we fit our kinky lifestyles around our vanilla responsibilities and commitments? The concept of the 24/7 Dominant/submissive dynamic sounds super decadent and inspiring, but also unattainable and unsustainable for many of us with other priorities and responsibilities. In this episode, I talk about what a healthy kink dynamic looks like, and why 24/7 lifestyles are not just defined by how much “play” is in your day. Support the show Join my brand-new members community! Sign up to my m...