9.14 Being “Nice” Is Getting You Nowhere ft. Ankur Warikoo

About this episode

Tara chats with Ankur Warikoo about the challenges of being overly nice and the importance of setting boundaries.

Are you one of those who cancel plans because you’re tired, then spend the next two hours feeling guilty about it? Let’s talk. In the latest episode of Books & Beyond, Tara chats with Ankur Warikoo about his new book Winning People Without Losing Yourself, and what it actually looks like to keep everyone happy all the time. Ankur talks about spending years trying to be the person everyone liked, and why that never really works out the way you think it will. They get into boundaries (esp...

People in this episode

Host: Tara

Guest: Ankur Warikoo

Topics covered

• boundaries
• self-acceptance
• people-pleasing
• personal growth
• mental health

Keywords

• nice
• boundaries
• guilt
• people-pleasing
• personal development

Mentioned in this episode

Books & works: Winning People Without Losing Yourself

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