Noticing The Glitch, Not The Glimmer

About this episode

Hilary Saxton discusses the tendency to focus on negative aspects of life and offers strategies to shift towards a more positive mindset.

Ever catch yourself predicting the worst - no parks, no luck, no chance - and then proving yourself right? In this refreshingly candid solo episode, Hilary unpacks why so many of us default to spotting the  glitch instead of the glimmer - and how a tiny shift in focus can change what you notice, how you feel, and the life you build. Drawing on real-life stories (parking myths, mentoring-room “regrets,” young-Nana trampoline energy, and Toastmasters butterflies) plus bite-sized psychology, Hilary explains negativity bias, the 3-to-1 rule for emotional balance, and learned optimism. You’ll walk away with simple, repeatable practices to re-train your brain’s filter (RAS), flip setbacks into fuel, and start a positive-result spiral on purpose. In this episode you’ll learn: Why the brain overweights bad - and how to rebalance with the 3-to-1 rule. The “Accept or Change” life rule to stop simmering in resentment. How to reframe in real time (from “I have to” → “I get to”). A nightly “Three Glimmers” ritual to rewire your RAS for good. How to surround yourself with glimmer-spotters and visualise the…

People in this episode

Host: Hilary Saxton

Topics covered

• negativity bias
• emotional balance
• learned optimism
• personal development
• mindset shift

Keywords

• negativity bias
• 3-to-1 rule
• emotional balance
• retrain brain
• positive mindset
• glimmer spotting
• self improvement

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Toastmasters, 3 Wines In, hilarysaxton.com

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