Deep Listening Skills with Tessa and Julia

About this episode

Tessa and Julia discuss deep listening skills and practices to enhance group sharing and connection.

In this episode, Tessa and Julia: - gave two examples of settling practices to prepare the ground for listening - discussed the importance of caring for people's nervous systems as part of a circle - showed how your vulnerability may make it safer for others to share - shared guidelines that are essential for creating the container for deep listening - explored how pacing the sharing is important, including having time for people to listen to their thoughts before sharing aloud - how using a talking object can slow down turn taking - the role of the disrupter to listen to discomfort / undercurrents in the circle - a listening circle provides a different space that coaching or counselling - there can be value in not reflecting back or asking further questions - use of pairs and triads in the group setting to support deep listening skills - shared the possibility of people talking side-by-side rather than face-to-face to support listening -

People in this episode

Hosts: Tessa Venuti Sanderson, Julia Davis

Topics covered

• deep listening
• vulnerability
• nervous systems
• circle practices
• group dynamics

Keywords

• listening skills
• settling practices
• vulnerability
• talking object
• listening circle

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