Why the Word Boundaries Is Making It Harder to Actually Have Them

Why the Word Boundaries Is Making It Harder to Actually Have Them

From Combative Calm by Sarai Speer

April 6, 2026 · 12 min

About this episode

Sarai Speer discusses how the concept of boundaries can be redefined through the idea of a capacity line, sharing personal experiences and offering practical advice.

Why the Word Boundaries Is Making It Harder to Actually Have Them The word boundaries is so loaded that just hearing it makes most women either shut down or feel guilty before they have even done anything. So Sarai threw it out and replaced it with something that actually makes sense in your body. This episode is about your capacity line. What it is, where it lives, why it is nothing like the cold rigid wall you picture when someone tells you to set a boundary, and why the reframe changes everything about how you actually hold one. Sarai also gets personal about her own version of this. The forty-foot razor wire tower kept everyone out and left her completely alone, and she was actually searching for what she was actually searching for underneath all of it. You will walk away with a completely different relationship to this whole concept, and one thing you can start doing today, even if you are nowhere near ready for the hard conversations yet. Capacity Club doors close April 15th. First live call April 15th. https://saraispeer.com/capacity-club

People in this episode

Host: Sarai Speer

Topics covered

  • boundaries
  • capacity line
  • self-improvement
  • mental health
  • personal growth

Keywords

  • boundaries
  • capacity line
  • self-care
  • mental health
  • personal growth
  • women's issues
  • communication

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