Come Talk with Aimee: Bringing Sex Out of The Shadows

Did you know that different kinds of lube are designed for different sensitivities, toys, and sexual activities? Because yes, your lube actually matters more than you think.In this anniversary episode, I’m sharing an After Hours moment with previous podcast guest and founder of Lubify, Orla Maguire. We break down the differences between water-based, silicone, oil-based, and organic lubes, how to know which one works best for your needs, and why ingredients matter when it comes to intimate care. We also talk about:ingredients to look for and why lube should feel like skincare for your vulva and penissomatics and what it means to reconnect with your bodyself-pleasure, sensation, and embodied intimacysimple breathwork techniques for grounding and nervous system regulationwhy slowing down helps you experience more pleasure and connectionhow to become more aware of what your body actually wants and needsIf you have ever grabbed a random bottle of lube without thinking twice, this episode might completely change the way you think about pleasure products. Your body deserves care, attention, and products that actually support your pleasure instead of working against it.Connect with Orla Maguirehttps://ilubify.comhttps://www.instagram.com/lubifyhttps://www.tiktok.com/@ilubifyUse code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What exactly happens in an erotic bodywork retreat? In this solo episode, I take you behind the scenes of my experience attending a seven-day Back to the Body retreat in Sicily with Pamela Madsen. Ten days after interviewing Pamela on the podcast, I booked a flight to Italy and found myself immersed in somatic work, erotic touch, sisterhood, consent conversations, breathwork, body-based healing, and some of the most profound nervous system regulation I have ever experienced. I share what the retreat structure actually looked like, what surprised me the most, the emotional and physical shifts that came up during the experience, and why this work was about so much more than orgasms. I talk about:the importance of consent conversations before entering erotic spaceswhy safety changes your ability to access pleasure and embodimentsisterhood, connection, and the unexpected emotional impact of the retreatwhy erotic touch is not just about orgasms, but presence, safety, and healinghow to advocate for yourself and your boundaries in erotic spacesIf you have ever been curious about erotic bodywork, somatic sex education, or retreats like Back to the Body, this episode is an honest look at what these spaces can actually feel like from someone who experienced it firsthand. This conversation is not about shock value or fantasy. It is about embodiment, consent, safety, pleasure, and what becomes possible when you finally allow yourself to fully drop into your body.Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What if the reason your desire feels confusing, inconsistent, or even absent… is because it is not actually aligned with who you think you are?In this episode, I sit down with the OG in the sexual wellness space, somatic sex educator, and founder of Back to the Body Retreats, Pamela Madsen, for a bold and deeply eye-opening conversation about sexual identity and what it really means to live in alignment with your desire. We talk about the sexual authenticity model, the tension between who you believe you are, what you actually want, and how you show up in your relationships. Pamela shares her journey from being the “good girl” who had the perfect life on paper to confronting desire that did not fit her identity, and how that misalignment became the catalyst for everything that followed. We also get into why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies, how desire gets suppressed over time, and what it takes to reconnect with your pleasure in a real, embodied way.We talk about:why your desire can feel out of sync with your current lifebecoming erotically fluent and learning how to feel againwhy safety is required for women to access pleasurethe difference between performing sex and experiencing itreconnecting with your body through somatic awarenesswhy your pleasure is something you actively take ownership ofIf you have ever felt like your desire does not match the life you are living, or like you are playing a role instead of actually experiencing pleasure, this episode is your invitation to get honest about what you want and start aligning your life around it. Your desire is not random. It is information. And when you learn how to listen to it, everything begins to shift.Connect with Pamela Madsen http://www.backtothebody.orghttps://www.instagram.com/backtothebodyorg/https://www.facebook.com/BacktotheBody/https://www.instagram.com/thepamelamadsen/Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What if the most important shift in your life is not the big, dramatic moment but the decision to start choosing yourself?In this episode, I sit down with certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach Lauren Elise Rogers for a deeply honest, slightly unhinged in the best way, and incredibly validating conversation about the invisible season of becoming and what it really means to own your pleasure. We talk about what it looks like to slowly wake up inside a life that no longer fits, the conditioning that teaches women to abandon their desires, and the moment you realise that your pleasure is not someone else’s responsibility, it is yours. Lauren shares her journey through a misaligned marriage, religious conditioning, and deep disconnection from her body, and how small, almost invisible choices helped her rebuild her sense of self, desire, and agency.We talk about:the invisible season and why nothing feels like it is happening when everything is shiftinghow purity culture and societal scripts disconnect you from your desireslosing yourself in roles and learning how to come back to who you aremoving out of the martyr mindset and into self-led desiregrief, loss, and rebuilding your life after everything falls apartlearning how to choose yourself without guiltwhy becoming “selfish” might actually be the most aligned thing you doIf you are in a season where things feel unclear, slow, or quietly uncomfortable, this episode is your reminder that becoming does not always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like choosing yourself in small ways, over and over again, and learning that your pleasure, your desires, and your life are yours to own. Connect with Lauren Elise Rogershttps://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/https://sexedforyou.com/connectUse code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What if the thing you were taught to fear most about your sex life is actually… not a big deal?In this episode, we are dismantling one of the most overblown, misunderstood, and unnecessarily stigmatized topics in sex: herpes. And no, your sex life is not over. Not even close.I’m sitting down with the iconic Tricia Wise, also known as Safe Slut, for a bold, funny, and refreshingly honest conversation about what it really means to navigate dating, sex, and identity after a herpes diagnosis. We talk about how she coined “Safe Slut” the same day she was diagnosed, how she turned that into a platform that educates and empowers thousands, and why herpes is way more common and way less dramatic than we have been led to believe. From disclosure and dating to sex work, stigma, and reclaiming the word “slut,” this conversation is equal parts liberating and real.We talk about:why STI stigma is usually worse than the realityhow to disclose to partners without turning it into a dramatic confessionwhy sexual health is a shared responsibility between you and your partner/sreclaiming the word “slut” and unlearning shame around sexualityhow misinformation around STIs has been shaped by culture, media, and fearwhy your sex life is not over, it might actually be leveling upIf you have ever felt shame around your body, your desires, or your sexual history, this episode is your reminder that you get to define your own narrative. Sex can still be hot, fun, and deeply connected, and honestly, maybe even better when you stop buying into the fear.Connect with Tricia: OnlyFans: https://onlyfans.com/safeslvtTwitter: https://twitter.com/safe_slutIG: https://www.instagram.com/safe.slut/?hl=enSubstack: https://safeslut.substack.com/Shop: https://www.safeslut.shop/Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/safeslutYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCk7lX24XQC8CckzeknAhQ9ATiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@safe.slut?_t=8UuUIhvr2be&_r=1Use code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Being a bad bitch isn't just about looking cute and doing self-care. It's about showing up for what you think is right, walking away from what's not working for you, and speaking the fuck out.In this episode, I sit down with comedian, actress, and Bad Bitch Brunch creator Brittany Brave to talk about what it really means to embody confidence in every area of your life, including the bedroom. Brittany shares how she took back Bad Bitch Brunch from a misogynistic business owner, why she's an advocate for intimate partner violence survivors, and what she'll teach her future daughter about sex, agency, and consent.This conversation gets real about domestic violence, sexual performance pressure, and betting on yourself as the foundation for everything.We talk aboutwhat being a bad bitch actually meansusing comedy as reclaiming power after domestic violenceBad Bitch Brunch and creating spaces for women and queer talentdropping the sexual performance anxiety and just enjoying yourselfwhy "I gave it up too soon" is patriarchal bullshitcommunication and consistency as the ultimate turn-onsraising daughters with body autonomy and sexual agencyteaching consent, not shameIf you've been performing instead of enjoying, people-pleasing instead of speaking out, or wondering what confidence actually looks like in practice, this episode will remind you that being a bad bitch starts with betting on yourself.Connect with Brittany BraveWebsite: https://www.brittanybrave.live/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brittanybraveTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@brittanybravecomedyYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoP2EnIzaiO5EC0UjyQQ7VAWatch Bad Bitch Brunch Live: https://linktr.ee/brittanybravecomedyUse code WELCOME for 10% off your first orderhttps://motherlode-market.com/Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What if understanding your cycle could make you better in bed, more confident in your body, and more connected to your pleasure?In this episode, I sit down with fertility awareness educator Kate Douglas to explore how tracking your cycle isn't just about baby-making or avoiding pregnancy, it's about understanding when you're at your most creative, confident, and yes, turned on. Kate breaks down how hormones affect everything from your libido to your skin to who you want to have sex with, and why knowing where you are in your cycle can transform your intimate life.This conversation goes beyond basic biology into why cervical fluid is nature's lube and how becoming cycle literate can help you communicate what you need in and out of the bedroom.We talk abouthow your hormones affect libido, who you're attracted to, and when you're most turned onwhy cervical fluid is nature's lube and what it tells you about your bodythe two biomarkers you need to track: cervical fluid and basal body temperatureovulation as creative and sexual energy, not just a fertility eventhow cervical fluid is literally a sperm snack (you'll never forget this)myth busting: day 14 ovulation, feeling ovulation, and textbook cycleswhy hormones don't make you unstable (they make you dynamic and cyclical)If you've ever wondered why your sex drive changes throughout the month, felt disconnected from your body, or want to understand what your hormones are doing to your libido and confidence, this episode is your invitation to start listening to what your body is telling you.Connect with Kate Douglas: Website: https://helloearthbody.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/helloearthbodyPodcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6aga7AGBMwRfJA4g3dmjZ0?si=2ba47da338cf4327Download your FREE Pleasure Power Workbook: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.com/pleasurepowerguideElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 to get 25% https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Pussy worship isn't just about technique. It's about enthusiasm, devotion, and creating a space where pleasure is mutual and unapologetic.In this episode, I sit down with psychologist, sexologist, and host of In Bed with Alexa, Alexa Andre. She talks about what real pussy worship looks like, why enthusiasm beats technique every time, how to identify true eaters versus people just going through the motions, and what it takes to receive pleasure without guilt or performance anxiety.This conversation is a permission slip to want more, ask for more, and settle for nothing less than worship.We talk about​identifying red flags versus green flags in sexual partners​how to receive pleasure without getting in your head​the play lab concept for exploring techniques and preferences together​reassurance, communication, and creating safe spaces for pleasure​integrating toys into pussy worship​why "are you satisfied?" is the most important question after sex​raising your standards and refusing to settle for mediocre sexIf you've been settling for obligation when you deserve devotion, or if you've been wondering whether real pussy worship even exists, this episode will change how you think about pleasure, reciprocity, and what you deserve in the bedroom.Connect with AlexaWebsite: https://sexwithalexa.co/Patreon: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithalexa/Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/za/podcast/in-bed-with-alexa-have-better-sex/id1721576655Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE20 at checkout: https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

What does it actually mean to step into your pleasure power?In this quickie episode, I'm getting personal and sharing my own journey from purity culture to tapping into my pleasure power. I’m pulling back the curtain on how I reclaimed my pleasure and share about how I went from thinking "sex isn't fun" to discovering what my body is truly capable of. This is the story of how I went from having painful, controlled sex in my marriage to fully owning my erotic self. It's about the 3 P's that changed everything for me: Permission, Presence, and Play.We talk aboutgrowing up in purity culture and the mixed messages I received about sexmy marriage, mismatched desire, and painful sex that I thought was "normal"the conversation with a friend that gave me permission to want pleasuremy first vibrator and the moment everything changedwhy masturbation isn't just for single peopletools for exploring your erotic self, including erotica, ethical porn, and toysstepping into kink and exploring my edgesIf you've ever felt disconnected from your pleasure or been told that sex is supposed to hurt, this episode is your permission slip to want more.Join The Galentines Giveaway! https://www.instagram.com/p/DUO-b_5FvHB/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=MzRlODBiNWFlZA==Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE25 at checkout: https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

If you have ever been curious about play parties but also slightly terrified, confused, or convinced it is just one big chaotic orgy, this episode is for you. Consider this your permission slip to get informed before you go out to play. In this episode, I sit down with Le Organizer, a longtime play party host and event producer, for a no-BS conversation about what actually happens at play parties and how to navigate them safely. We break down the biggest misconceptions, why most play parties are far more social than sexual, and how consent, communication, and aftercare are taken seriously in well-run spaces.We talk aboutVetting events and reading descriptions like your safety depends on itNavigating scenes and knowing when to watch and when to join Saying no without guilt, using consent advocates, and why you never owe anyone play just because you showed upSwinger culture versus play partiesWhy education and community matter more than ever in sex-positive spacesListen in for an honest and informative conversation that demystifies play parties and puts consent, safety, and pleasure back where they belong. Whether you are just curious or thinking about buying your first ticket, this episode will help you walk in informed, confident, and grounded.Connect with Le Organizer Instagram: http://instagram.com/le_organizerElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE20 at checkout: https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Physician assistant, intimacy educator, and podcast host Jordan D’Nelle joins me on the show for a bold, honest, no-sugarcoating conversation about casual sex, casual relationships, and how to actually enjoy them without losing yourself. From defining what casual really means to calling out the double standards women still face, we get into the real mechanics of having sex for pleasure without shame, confusion, or emotional burnout. We talk about why intention matters, how assumptions wreck the dynamic, and why self-respect is the sexiest boundary you can have.We talk about:How to define casual sex in a way that centres women’s pleasure, agency, and desireKnowing your intentions before you get naked and why it changes everythingSetting boundaries around overnights, cuddling, kissing, communication, and aftercareKnowing the red flags, green flags, and why chemistry makes us ignore what we should notKeeping yourself safe from STI’s How to stop chasing approval and start choosing yourselfListen in for a real, unfiltered conversation that gives you permission to enjoy casual sex with confidence, self-respect, and zero shame.Connect with Jordan D’NelleInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jordandnelle/Jordan’s Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/thevvvpodcast/Elevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE20 at checkout: https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Become a FirstComer on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/14753586/joinStay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

Why are so many men not getting laid, and why does sex feel so out of reach for so many men? In this episode, I sit with former Google engineer and creator Robyn Silber for a direct, honest conversation about unbed men, incels, the manosphere, and what is actually blocking connection for men today. We unpack why this is not just a dating or sex problem, but a deeper issue rooted in loneliness, emotional disconnection, and missing relational skills.We talk about: why being unbed is not the same as being an incel, and why that distinction matters how shame, social skill gaps, and emotional shutdown make sex feel inaccessible why many men chase sex when what they are really craving is connection how neurodivergence and the absence of male friendship intensify isolation where the manosphere reflects real pain, and where it pushes men further from intimacyListen in for a direct, to-the-point conversation about why sex feels so out of reach for many men, and what actually helps build connection, confidence, and intimacy.Connect with Robyn Silber Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deprogramm.rTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@deprogramm.rElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE20 at checkout: https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee

There is no shame in craving deeper pleasure, and there is no shame in wanting sex that feels more intentional and responsive to your body.In this episode, I sit with Pleasure Dom, Sir Marvelous for a conversation on what truly creates mind-blowing pleasure. We explore the foundations of real pleasure through patience, anticipation, presence, and the psychology of arousal. Sir Marvelous breaks down edging, sensual dominance, temperature play, rope, fire, and the illusion of danger, along with why vibrators, clitoral stimulation, and thoughtful touch should be standard in every bedroom. We also talk about consent, negotiation, emotional safety, and how those pieces make it possible to relax, let go, and experience pleasure more deeply than ever.If you are curious about kink, ready to expand your pleasure, or wanting sex that feels richer and more connected, this episode offers practical tools you can take straight into your own intimacy. Listen in! Connect with Sir MarvelousWebsite: www.SirMarvelous.comReviews: https://www.sirmarvelous.com/reviewsEbooks: https://www.sirmarvelous.com/shop-with-sir/ebooksInstagram: www.instagram.com/sirmarvelouskinksLoyalFans: https://www.loyalfans.com/sirmarvelouskinksElevate Your Intimacy with Lubify Lux lube. Use code AIMEE20 at checkout: https://ilubify.com/?srsltid=AfmBOorPNdYi9J1NN0TWDq4iO8PYcwNxzwi5nmACAU2aseFBxVms8RO6 Stay Connected with Come Talk with Aimee:Website: https://www.cometalkwithaimee.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/cometalkwithaimeeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@cometalkwithaimeeYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@cometalkwithaimee