Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth

Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but wondering why it is taking so long? If you have been praying, doing the work and still feel like healing is moving at a pace that makes no sense, this episode is for you. Healing from narcissistic abuse is not slow because something is wrong with you. It is slow because what was done to you ran deep. The abuse rewired the way you think, the way you trust, the way you see yourself...and that kind of damage takes real time to undo. In this episode, I get honest about the frustration of the wait and what God is actually doing underneath the surface while you are in it. I'm taking a closer look at Isaiah 40:31 and what the original Hebrew reveals about waiting on God — and it is nothing like what most of us were taught. I'm also talking about the exchange God makes with you in the waiting season and why the strength and peace that sometimes shows up in your hardest moments is not something you manufactured. If you are somewhere in the healing journey — whether you are just starting, hitting walls, or feeling like you are so close but not quite there, this episode will remind you that you are not behind, you are not doing it wrong and God has not forgotten you. And if you are ready to go even deeper, I would love for you to join me live at my free Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse workshop on Tuesday, May 26 : Save your seat for Restore Your Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse Workshop → www.growingthroughpains.com/workshop Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever set a boundary… and then immediately felt guilty for it? Do you find yourself apologizing after protecting your time, energy, or peace? Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you were the problem even when you know something wasn’t right? In this episode, I’m breaking down three specific guilt tactics narcissists use to make you question your boundaries and hand control back to them. This episode will help you recognize when guilt is being triggered on purpose so you can stop carrying what was never yours. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty every time you set a boundary? Like maybe you’re not being a “good Christian”… not loving enough… not forgiving enough? Do you second-guess yourself when you protect your peace or stop explaining yourself to a narcissist? In this episode, I’m sharing two Bible verses that give you permission to set boundaries so you can stop questioning yourself and start protecting what God told you to protect. If you’ve ever felt torn between your faith and your healing—especially after narcissistic abuse—this episode will shift how you see boundaries, obedience, and what God actually requires of you. Because you’re not being un-Christian… you may have just been taught wrong. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you rush to fix everyone’s bad moods? Do you feel responsible when someone gets upset, even when you did nothing wrong? Are you exhausted from managing other people’s emotions while your own get pushed to the side? In this episode, I’m starting a conversation about three boundaries every Christian woman needs when healing from narcissistic abuse. If you’ve been conditioned to believe someone else’s emotions are your responsibility, this episode will help you see why that pattern forms and why learning to step back is essential for your healing. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty every time you try to set a boundary? Do you find yourself managing other people’s emotions, thinking that’s what love requires? In this episode, I’m sharing the difference between what’s yours and what’s theirs in relationships so you can stop carrying other people’s emotions and set boundaries without guilt. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you feel guilty when you’re not always available? Do you worry that setting boundaries means being cold, selfish, or unloving? Are you exhausted from carrying everyone else’s emotions, problems, and expectations while your own healing gets pushed to the side? In this episode, I’m sharing what boundaries actually are and why they are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, so you can stop carrying what was never yours, reclaim your energy, and begin rebuilding your life on solid ground. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever prayed and felt like your words were just hitting the ceiling? Does God feel distant lately even though you’re still reading, praying, and trying? Do you secretly wonder if His silence means you did something wrong? After narcissistic abuse, spiritual disconnection can feel deeply personal. You may start wondering if God is disappointed in you, if you did something wrong or if His silence means He stepped back. In this episode, I share a vulnerable moment when I felt that exact way — angry, confused, and convinced God was choosing not to respond. I'm sharing 3 simple, healing tips that calm your body, quiet the internal noise, and make space to notice where God is already showing up. If you’ve been asking, “Why can’t I feel God anymore?” or “Has God gone silent on me?”, this episode will remind you that He is still close to the brokenhearted — even when you can’t sense Him. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you avoid making decisions because you’re afraid God hasn’t spoken clearly enough? Do you call it “waiting on God,” but feel stuck and unsure how to move forward? Do you worry that trusting your judgment means you’re not trusting God? In this episode, I’m sharing how God actually designed decision-making to work—and why faith doesn’t require fear, paralysis, or perfect certainty. We’ll look at biblical discernment, why abuse disrupts trust in your God-given faculties, and how to make God-led decisions with confidence instead of staying stuck. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you ever sense something but immediately question if you’re just making it up? Do you struggle to trust your inner knowing or spiritual discernment? Feel like you can’t tell the difference between God’s voice and your own thoughts? In this episode, I'm exploring why discernment feels so shaky after abuse and how God’s leading differs from manipulation. I'm also sharing three practical ways to strengthen discernment after narcissistic abuse to rebuild trust in the place where God often speaks — your inner knowing. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Have you ever known what the right thing to do was — but still felt afraid of how someone else would react? Do you find yourself shrinking, explaining, or hesitating even after learning about boundaries? Do you feel anxious when you think someone might be disappointed with you? In this episode, I’m unpacking why people-pleasing continues for women healing from covert narcissistic abuse. People-pleasing isn’t kindness, humility, or love — it’s fear-based self-protection that develops when safety and worth feel conditional. This episode explores how narcissistic abuse disconnects women from their voice, discernment, and identity, and why people-pleasing becomes automatic even after the relationship ends. Through a personal story and biblical truth, we shift the focus from behavior to identity in Christ — learning how living from identity, rather than for approval, restores clarity, peace, and emotional steadiness. This episode is about healing at the identity level, not trying harder to stop people-pleasing. Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you wonder if your past makes God keep His distance from you? Do you assume God avoids your story because it’s complicated? Have you been hiding parts of your life — even from God? In this episode, I'm looking at the story of the Woman at the Well in a way that feels real and relatable especially if you’ve been carrying shame after abuse. If you’ve ever felt like your past disqualifies you from hearing God, this episode will help you see why that’s not true — and what changes when shame stops filtering everything you hear. Related Episodes: Episode 13: Why You Still Can’t Hear God Clearly After Narcissistic Abuse (It’s Not Your Faith) Connect With Me💛 → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources→ Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email 📩 → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with a woman who needs this truth--you never know who’s quietly struggling Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts — it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you ever have days where your body just will not calm down? Your heart is racing for no reason, you feel jumpy, your thoughts won't slow down, and your whole body feels tense and anxious? In this episode, I’m walking you through a simple, five-minute nature-based reset designed to help calm your nervous system and signal safety to your body after narcissistic abuse. I talk about why your body can still feel unsafe long after the danger is gone, how God designed nature to help regulate your nervous system, and a gentle, practical reset you can do anywhere to help your mind come back to the present and your body begin to relax. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/ Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.

Do you look at where you are now and wonder if you'll ever feel joy, peace or have purpose again? Are you afraid that what happened to you has somehow disqualified you from the life you were meant to live? In this episode, I'm getting real about what the last six years have looked like since I got away from a covert narcissist. I'm talking about standing in the ruins-- the moments when I couldn't see past the pain. If you're in a place right now where hope feels impossible and you're not sure you have what it takes to rebuild, I want you to hear this. Because what I thought was the end turned out to be something completely different. Podcast → https://confidenceafternarcissisticabuse.podbean.com/ Connect → Narcissism Unmasked Community → Become An Insider → Book A Coaching Call Resources → Unshackled: Breaking Free From Unforgiveness Email → admin@growingthroughpains.com Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of women who are ready to heal from narcissistic abuse in the free Narcissism Unmasked Community Step 2: Share this episode with another woman who needs to hear this truth. Step 3: Leave a quick review on Apple Podcasts (or Podbean)— it helps other survivors find this podcast when they need it most.