Turning Trauma into Transformation: Renae Van Roekel’s Journey from Prison to Purpose

About this episode

Renae Van Roekel shares her transformative journey from childhood trauma and prison to helping others through healing and accountability.

Today, I sit down with Renae Van Roekel, founder of Connecting to Cope, to explore the journey from childhood trauma and people-pleasing to accountability, healing, and helping others. If you’ve ever felt stuck under shame, guilt, or perfectionism, you’re not alone. What You’ll Learn How early trauma and being told “you’re bad” became Renae’s internal narrative The cost of people-pleasing addiction, perfectionism, and hiding shameHer pivotal moment: why she chose to turn herself in...

People in this episode

Host: Shelby

Guest: Renae Van Roekel

Topics covered

• trauma
• healing
• accountability
• people-pleasing
• perfectionism
• personal growth

Keywords

• trauma
• healing
• people-pleasing
• perfectionism
• shame
• accountability
• personal growth

Mentioned in this episode

Organizations: Connecting to Cope

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