Ep #213 Signal, Not Defiance

About this episode

This episode reframes children's off-track behavior as signals from a dysregulated nervous system rather than defiance or disrespect.

When kids go “off track,” it’s easy to see the behavior as disrespect, defiance, or a problem that needs fixing. In this episode, I reframe behavior as information, a signal from a dysregulated nervous system, not a character flaw. You’ll learn: What off-track behavior is actually telling youWhy punishment and rewards rarely create lasting changeHow to stay calm, connected, and in the lead when things go sidewaysA simple recovery approach that protects the relationship and restores boundari...

People in this episode

Host: Andee Martineau

Topics covered

• behavior
• parenting
• nervous system
• calmness
• connection
• boundaries

Keywords

• off-track behavior
• punishment
• rewards
• calm parenting
• relationship
• boundaries
• dysregulated nervous system

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