Counselor Chat Podcast

Being the Last to Leave Didn’t Make Me Amazing: Boundaries I Wish I Set EarlierIn this episode of Counselor Chat, I’m continuing the series on things I wish I had done earlier in my school counseling career — and this one is all about boundaries.For a long time, I thought staying late, saying yes, and being endlessly available meant I was dedicated. But looking back, I can see that being the last car in the parking lot didn’t make me a better counselor. It just made me tired.In this episode, I’m sharing the boundaries I wish I had set earlier, including time boundaries, emotional boundaries, role boundaries, communication boundaries, and personal life boundaries. I also reflect on why school counselors often feel guilty setting limits — and why boundaries are actually what help us stay effective, compassionate, and sustainable in this work.In this episode, we talk about:Why overworking is not the same as being effectiveThe difference between being dependable and being endlessly availableWhy school counselors need role clarityHow guilt shows up when we start setting boundariesSimple scripts for saying no or pausing before saying yesWhy leaving on time does not mean you care lessHow boundaries protect your energy, family, and long-term careerTakeaway:You can care deeply about students and still have limits. Being a good counselor does not require burning yourself out.Reflection question:What would change if you believed you could be a good counselor without being endlessly available? Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook Group

Episode 150: Not Every Week Is a Highlight ReelNot every National School Counseling Week looks like a highlight reel, and that’s okay.In this reflective episode, I share a personal experience from my own school where carefully made plans for National School Counseling Week were replaced by grief, crisis response, and the need to simply be present for students and staff.This episode is for counselors who felt exhausted, unseen, or overwhelmed, and for anyone who needed permission to let something go.In this episode, I cover:Why National School Counseling Week can feel complicated and emotionalHow unexpected events can shift even the best-laid plansWhat it means to truly “do enough” as a school counselorWhy quiet work still matters, even when it isn’t celebratedA moment from the episode that I hope stays with you:“Sometimes doing what we can with what we have is the most realistic and compassionate choice.”If National School Counseling Week didn’t look the way you hoped, if you stayed quiet, or if you focused on crisis instead of celebration, I want you to know this: you didn’t fail. You’re human. And the work you do every day still makes a difference.Thank you for being here and for all you give to this profession.Mentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

In this episode of Counselor Chat, I celebrate the powerful connection between National School Counseling Week and World Read Aloud Day, and why stories play such a meaningful role in student success.I share how read-alouds create emotional safety, help students name their feelings, and open doors for conversations that might otherwise feel too hard to start. I also read an excerpt from my children’s book, Sammy’s Sad Day, and walked through simple, practical ways counselors can use storytelling as a Tier 1 support in classrooms, small groups, and beyond.This episode is a reminder that success isn’t just measured in data — it’s felt in connection.In This Episode, I Talk About:Why student success starts with emotional safety, not just academicsHow stories create shared emotional language for studentsWhy read-alouds work so well as low-pressure counseling toolsUsing books as Tier 1 support for whole-class and school-wide impactSimple reflection questions that build emotional literacyHow connection changes behavior and learning outcomes“You amplify student success when a student feels seen, a teacher uses language you modeled, and a child realizes they’re not alone.Links MentionedSammy's Sad DayPerks National School Counseling Week Free Month DealMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

January is often when attendance challenges start to feel impossible (for students and for counselors). In this episode, I break down why attendance dips during the winter months, how to reframe attendance as a support issue rather than a compliance issue, and what counselors can realistically do to help students re-engage with school.This episode focuses on compassion, collaboration, and practical strategies that honor what students are really experiencing.You’ll Learn:Common reasons attendance declines in January (illness, anxiety, routine changes, weather, and more)Why framing attendance as a symptom changes how students respondLanguage counselors can use to talk about attendance without blameLayered counseling supports for students with chronic absencesHow small wins (fewer tardies, staying longer, asking for help) matter more than perfect dataEngagement strategies that increase motivation and belongingQuote from the Episode“Students don’t avoid school because they don’t care. They avoid school because something feels really hard.”Resources Mentioned:Attendance Small GroupMiddle School Attendance Lesson (grades 6-7)Barriers To Attendance Lesson (grades K-1)Academic Success Attendance Lesson (grades 2-3)Barriers to Attendance (grades 4-5)Chronic Attendance Intervention Lesson (grade 8) Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership

January has a way of making counselors feel like they should start over with new systems, new routines, new everything. But what if that pressure is actually working against your effectiveness?In this episode of Counselor Chat, I'm offering a grounded reframe for the new year: you don’t need to become a brand-new counselor just because the calendar changed.Instead, this episode invites you to slow down, protect your energy, and focus on what already works.In this episode, you’ll hear:Why January pressure can lead to burnout instead of clarityA simple explanation of the law of diminishing returns in school counselingHow “doing more” can actually reduce your impactWhy small tweaks matter more than big overhaulsPractical ways to carry fall systems into the springThree gentle reflection prompts to guide your January planning“Sometimes less truly is more — especially when it comes to protecting your energy and sustaining your impact.”January Reflection Prompts:What is one counseling routine that felt manageable in the fall?What is one lesson, group, or system I don’t need to reinvent?What is one thing I can stop doing to protect my energy?This episode is a reminder that:You are not starting overYour relationships still matterYour systems didn’t disappearAnd sustainability is what carries you through March, April, and May✨ New year. Same counselor. Stronger boundaries. Smarter focus.Thanks for being here, counselor friend.You’re doing important work — even when it doesn’t feel loud or new.⭐ If this episode helped you, a quick review means more than you knowUntil next time — I hope you have a really great week.Links Mentioned in the Episode:Episode 83 Grab the Show Notes: Counselingessentials.org/podcastJoin Perks Counseling Club Membership and get the lessons, small group and individual counseling materials you need. Join now and get your first month free when you sign up for 3 months!Connect with Carol:TpT StoreCounseling Essentials WebsiteInstagramFacebookElementary School Counselor Exchange Facebook GroupCaught In The Middle School Counselors Facebook GroupHigh School Counselor Connection Facebook GroupMentioned in this episode:Perks Membership