Do As We Say, Not As They Did

Has a TV show ever completely changed how you think about relationships? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley (AKA Dr. NerdLove) are talking about Heated Rivalry, the breakout HBO series that's not only making waves with fans, but also with pro athletes who've found the courage to come out because of it. It's even encouraging men to actually talk to each other. They break down the show from every angle: masculinity, emotional vulnerability, queer identity, and body image. And they explore how it flips the script on who gets to have feelings, and what those feelings are allowed to look like, especially in the hyper-masculine world of pro-hockey. Highlights of the episode: Why we need queer stories that aren't rooted in trauma What the show gets right about the male gaze How male friendships are the key to addressing the male loneliness epidemic And what to watch next when you're left with a Heated Rivalry-shaped hole in your heart So lace up your skates, this episode might just change the way you think about masculinity, emotional connection, and what it really means to be vulnerable in your romantic and platonic relationships. Time Stamps 00:00 We're talking about Heated Rivalry 02:08 Plot breakdown and why it became a surprise hit 05:00 "It wasn't for me" vs "I'm obsessed" 07:00 Shane and Ilya vs Scott and Kip 08:00 Exploring the male gaze through emotional subtlety 16:00 Body image, diet culture, and the horror of never eating carbs 21:00 A quick overview of the Heated Rivalry book series 26:00 Pro hockey's reaction to Heated Rivalry 31:00 The beauty of a queer story not rooted in trauma 33:00 Coming out scenes and corrective emotional experiences 40:00 Queer identity and being told "it's allowed" 41:00 Emotional connection and masculinity 48:00 Push-pull relationships and fear of intimacy 58:00 Passion projects vs corporate media 01:07:00 Representation that impacts real people 01:09:00 Favorite moments and emotional highlights 01:15:00 Other media about "man feelings" and the male loneliness epidemic 01:17:00 Outro Stay Connected 📩 Business Inquiries: doaswesaypod@gmail.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doaswesaypod/ 💙 BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doaswesaypod.bsky.social 🐦 Twitter: https://x.com/DoAsWeSayPod 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/doaswesaypod ⏰ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@DoAsWeSayPod

Have you ever cared about the amount of someone's…ahem…ejaculation? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Harris O'Malley and Dr. Liz Powell talk about the men who really, really care about shooting ropes like Spider-Man. That's right. They're talking about nutmaxxers. Fueled by the fantasies of porn and a desire for self-optimization, these men might say their "enhanced performance" is for their partners, but Dr. Liz and Harris have their doubts. Highlights of the episode: Porn "money shots" aren't what you think Fast and Furious movies are a little like porn Having sex…with your balls?! 👀 If you're interested in staying blissfully unaware about the secret lives of nutmaxxers, turn away now, because things are about to get a little sticky. Time Stamps 0:00 – Intro bloopers & ADHD brains unite 2:00 – Why this podcast is pre-recorded 5:00 – Meet the Nutmaxxers: semen obsession & supplement culture 10:00 – Cum fetish vs. the unbearable cringe of this article 14:00 – Porn isn't real 20:00 – Male insecurity 26:00 – Fantasy vs. reality 34:00 – "I don't want a gallon on my face" 38:00 – Micropenises, oral skills, and redefining good sex 45:00 – Bad partners, poor communication, and load shame 52:00 – Actually useful advice 58:00 – Why men need to listen (and not just to each other) 1:06:00 – What's really sexy 1:12:00 – Final thoughts: Be a person, not a cum performance robot Stay Connected 📩 Business Inquiries: doaswesaypod@gmail.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doaswesaypod/ 💙 BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doaswesaypod.bsky.social 🐦 Twitter: https://x.com/DoAsWeSayPod 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/doaswesaypod ⏰ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@DoAsWeSayPod

You've had some dramatic break ups, but have you ever had a relationship that ended with an album full of bangers about dysfunction, heartbreak, and anger? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley break down Lily Allen's therapeutic divorce album, West End Girl. And I gotta tell ya, they're so here for seeing a powerful man actually get his just deserts. They go through each song and all the raw, messy, and painfully relatable emotions. In between Harris and Dr. Liz's in-depth chat about an open relationship that's nothing more than a smokescreen for selfishness, they go over: The power of the Nice Guy™ persona Why saying yes doesn't always mean consent The reason why rules for opening relationships usually bring more hurt Dr. Liz and Harris' favorite breakup bangers Press play, pour a drink, and get ready to scream at David Harbour (and all the men who always fail upwards). Time Stamps 00:00 Introduction 01:00 West End Girl: The call that changed everything 07:00 Ruminating: Saying yes when you mean no 12:00 Madeline: Broken agreements and love-light gaslighting 20:00 Sleepwalking: Emotional erasure 26:00 Relapse: Trying to be the "modern wife" 27:30 Nonmonogamummy: Insecurities, age, and emotional exposure 29:00 Dallas Major: "I hate it here" 31:00 Tennis: Emotional betrayal in the smallest things 33:00 Pussy Palace: The moment of discovery 36:00 Madeline (Revisited): Real consequences 38:00 4chan Stan: The greatest insult on the album 39:00 Beg for Me: Wanting to be desired 40:00 Let You Win: No longer carrying his shame 44:00 Fruityloop: It's not me, it's you 49:00 Album Reflections 55:00 Favorite Breakup Songs 1:03:00 Outro & Where to Find Us Stay Connected 📩 Business Inquiries: doaswesaypod@gmail.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doaswesaypod/ 💙 BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doaswesaypod.bsky.social 🐦 Twitter: https://x.com/DoAsWeSayPod 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/doaswesaypod ⏰ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@DoAsWeSayPod

Would you trade in your human partner for an AI chatbot? In this episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did, Dr. Liz Powell and Harris O'Malley discuss the hilarious highs and unnerving lows of human-AI relationships chronicled in Wired Magazine. As capital H AI-Haters, Harris and Dr. Liz talk about what it actually means when you romance a robot. Get ready for: Anime goth girlfriends (AI, of course) The merits of corporate-owned AI babies The ethics of dating when your partner can't say no If you want to laugh and cringe and wonder about the beauty of human-to-human connection, find a cozy spot, kick up your feet, and enjoy the first episode of Do As We Say, Not As They Did. Time Stamps 00:00 Introduction 01:30 Rusty podcast hosts, burnout, and why they're back 05:50 Today's Topic: Following 3 AI-human couples on a weekend getaway 10:40 Damien & Zia 18:40 Elena & Lucas 22:10 Roleplay mechanics 25:20 Eva & Erin 29:10 The "blue pill" moment 32:40 What happens when AI only tells you what you want to hear? 36:10 Please don't get an AI therapist 40:30 What happens when companies shut down 43:40 Strangers using Snapchat AI as "support" 46:00 Damien's breakdown 49:50 Games, fiction, and attachment 52:20 Risky couples game 53:30 Eerie "AI would love this" vibes 55:10 And that's a wrap 58:00 Where to find the hosts & final thoughts Stay Connected 📩 Business Inquiries: doaswesaypod@gmail.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/doaswesaypod/ 💙 BlueSky: https://bsky.app/profile/doaswesaypod.bsky.social 🐦 Twitter: https://x.com/DoAsWeSayPod 📘 Facebook: facebook.com/doaswesaypod ⏰ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@DoAsWeSayPod