Family Constellation Guy

If someone takes their own life in a family, it can have massive long term consquences within (and without) the family system. Teenage children may feel responsible, or fell divided loyalties, blame or shame. A constellation will uncover the hidden dynamics and demonstrate powerfully that the consequences only belong where they should be - not with a loving child sibling or partner, who may feel they "deserve" to carry that burden even though it is not theirs to carry. This episode my seem a bit harsh if this is close to home, but I urge you to persevere!!

All of us have old trauma stuck in our systems smewhere. The question is what can we do about it? and how can we find out what it is. Well ther brain has a fantastic set of tools to distance us from immediate trauma experience, and bury it. And the Family Constellation is a fantatsic set of tools to elicit that information and reference where in your family system that it belongs. As soon as you see where it belongs you no longer have access to the feeling of that trauma, only the knowledge that it exists!

The Rafe Nauen Academy is hosting another Family Constellation Therapy training on 7th/8th Febraury 2026 and this episode is all about whats new! If you expect to be a bit tired, because we are packing in quite a lot of information to help you get quickly to the nub of any issues your clients friends or family have. The training is accredited and certificated and I am assured that insurance companies are happy to add in the certificate to your current Public Liability insurance I offer stage payments if you need that and It will be a fun weekend too.

Sometimes we get told things in early life that stay with us for life. This episode is about some of the starting points for releasing those injuctions, and finding our freedom

I have written a little story based on true facts that gives an insight into the sort of journey hany of the participants ina Family Constellation workshop will go through. Clara (name changed) presented with an issue around repeating patterns in her journey through life. The constellation helped to unpick that thread!

This episode explores the subject of epigenetics in terms of its impact on the listener from all the ancestral load up to now!

When we go for psychotherapy we believe the expert in the room is the practitioner - after all they have spent years studying and practicing. The constellation model is different. The client has ALL the data for the journey to this moment - even the thousands of years before they were born. The job of the facilitator is to tease out the nuances and hidden dynamics so that they come into clear sight without any prejudice or judgement.

Following on from the Netflix series Another Self - a Turkish series about family drama with a constellation in each episode. Rafe Nauen has been running constellation workshops for over 20 years and this series exemplifies the modality. This episode explains what is going, a bit of the how, and a bit of the why!

In this episode, Rafe explores the often-asked question: What is a constellation, and why would someone choose to do one? Through personal insight and professional experience, Rafe unpacks the profound impact of inherited emotional patterns—those invisible threads passed down through generations that shape our lives in unexpected ways. From feelings of not being good enough to repeating relationship struggles, we often carry burdens that aren't truly ours. Family Constellations offer a respectful and revealing way to bring these hidden dynamics to light. Rafe explains how this process works, what participants can expect, and how unresolved ancestral experiences—like early deaths, miscarriages, or unspoken grief—can echo through our lives until they are acknowledged and integrated. Whether you're curious about systemic healing, or wondering how your past might be influencing your present, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening introduction to the transformative power of constellations.

Sometimes we grow up with big chunks of stuff missing, like being seen, or the feeling of love. What sometimes happens is that a symptom, or disease becomes the definition and empathy and sympathy from others appears as a poor relation to love. That can keep us ill - the term secondary gain means the added value to your feeling of life from being dis-eased or ill.

The parenting of children is a complex business and adopted children may have a number of actual parents - not DNA driven, but epigenetically driven. Thus children sometimes look more like their adoptive parents than their birth parents. Strange but true.

what can you gain from training in constellation work? and how is the advanced training different?

Many things have changed since I was born, and some we are in control of and like, and some we are not and don't! Many many neuro diverse people found out late in life that they were ND because up to then they had been masking. So what are the bits of being a human being as opposed to a human doing that have affected you, and what bits do you still need to hand back because they never really belonged to you!