Find Your Feminine Fire

Have you ever looked at your partner and thought: We're fine… but I don't feel in love the way I used to. In this episode of the Find Your Feminine Fire Podcast, Amanda Testa shares why so many loving, committed couples slowly drift apart, and what actually brings desire, closeness, and joy back online. This episode is for you if: You miss feeling butterflies, tingles, or desire You love your partner but feel bored, distant, or disconnected You've tried books, podcasts, or therapy — and still feel stuck You want a relationship that feels nourishing, alive, and fun again In this episode, Amanda explores: Why the real relationship problem isn't communication or sex — it's desire How couples drift apart without meaning to The "wait and see" trap that keeps intimacy temporary Why insight alone doesn't create lasting connection How nervous-system patterns silently drive conflict and shutdown The difference between rupture and repair (and why repair matters most) Why making connection fun is not optional — it's essential How to create a shared relationship vision for 2026 Simple reflection questions to help you grow, goal-set, and reconnect together Amanda also shares a powerful, practical ritual you can do at home to: Remember what you already love about each other Reignite warmth and appreciation Create momentum toward the relationship you actually want Ready for deeper support? Amanda is hosting a free Relationship Renewal Ritual — a guided, private, at-home experience to help you reconnect, reset patterns, and start 2026 feeling closer. January 29th | 6:00 PM MT Replay available 100% private & anonymous 👉 Save your spot: https://amandatesta.com/renew Because when your relationship feels good, everything feels easier. Resources & Links 🔥 Free Sensuality Activation: amandatesta.com/thegoods 💌 Relationship Renewal Ritual: amandatesta.com/renew

If you've ever felt like pleasure isn't accessible to you anymore—or maybe never truly was—this episode will change how you see everything. In this inspiring and unfiltered conversation, Amanda is joined by somatic wellness educator and retreat leader Pamela Madsen to explore the true power of erotic reawakening at every age. Pamela shares the realities of helping thousands of women reclaim desire and delight through her Back to the Body method, and what it really means to give yourself permission to receive. In this episode: Why erotic exploration is never too late—even in your 60s, 70s, or 80s What it looks like to rewire your body's pleasure patterns through immersive retreats The surprising hunger women carry after decades of tending to others How Pamela uses her own erotic energy as a source of creativity, clarity, and leadership 🎧 Listen now and reconnect with what turns you on—body, soul, and life.

What happens when you climb the ladder of success, check all the boxes, and still feel completely disconnected from yourself? In this raw and hilarious conversation, Amanda sits down with Erin Keating—creator of the Hotter Than Ever podcast—to talk midlife reinvention, sexual reclamation, and what it really takes to stop abandoning yourself. Erin shares her unfiltered story of awakening after a sexless marriage, a COVID hospitalization, a layoff, and turning 50—all of which cracked her open to a wildly new and more authentic life. In this episode: The moment Erin realized something had to change How one potent question changed everything What happens when women stop abandoning themselves and reclaim their voice How Erin reconnected to her pleasure after a decade of disconnection Why reclaiming your weirdness might be the most powerful move of midlife Listen now to hear how one woman went from overworked to unapologetically alive. 💖 Bring Your Desire back with my Sensual Self-Discovery Journal—a sacred space where you can embark on a journey of self-exploration, self-love, and embracing your sensuality. In this journal, we will delve deep into the beautiful tapestry of your desires, senses, and the unique expression of your sensual self. Get It HERE!

Could your pelvic floor be the hidden key to better sex, less pain, and more energy? In this empowering episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I'm joined by pelvic health expert and creator of the Cooch Ball, Jana Danielson, to explore how reconnecting with your pelvic bowl can help you reclaim your vitality, confidence, and turn-on. We talk about what's really going on with pelvic floor dysfunction—and how healing this part of your body impacts everything from digestion to emotional regulation to intimacy. You'll learn: Why "tight" isn't the same as "strong" when it comes to your core The role of fascia, breath, and the vagus nerve in healing your pelvic floor How the Cooch Ball works (and how to know if it's for you) Simple ways to reconnect to your body—and your power—daily Whether you're craving more sensation, working through perimenopause, or simply curious about your core, this conversation will give you hope and tools. 💖 Bring Your Desire back with my Sensuall Self-Discovery Journal—a sacred space where you can embark on a journey of self-exploration, self-love, and embracing your sensuality. In this journal, we will delve deep into the beautiful tapestry of your desires, senses, and the unique expression of your sensual self. Get It HERE!

I'm beyond thrilled to welcome back to the pod, the brilliant Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of the groundbreaking books "Come As You Are" and her newest release "Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections." In this intimate and enlightening episode, Emily breaks down what it really takes to maintain a vibrant sexual connection in long-term relationships – and it might not be what you think! We dive deep into: • The 7 emotional "rooms" that influence our sexual experiences • Why pleasure matters more than desire • How to navigate body changes and transitions while maintaining intimacy • The surprising truth about what makes sex "magnificent" (hint: it's not what most people assume!) Emily also shares her own experiences, including how writing her books impacted her personal relationships and what she learned about rekindling intimate connections during challenging times. Her practical wisdom about navigating perimenopause, body image, and relationship transitions is both validating and empowering. For anyone struggling to find their way to pleasure in these challenging times (and let's be honest - when isn't it "these times"?), this episode offers hope, practical tools, and permission to prioritize pleasure as essential nourishment for our relationships and wellbeing. Whether you're in a long-term partnership or simply want to better understand your own sexual wellbeing, this conversation offers invaluable insights about creating lasting intimate connections that can weather life's many changes. Ready to transform your intimate life? Listen to the full episode above, and don't forget to check out Emily's new book "Come Together" for even more wisdom about creating the sexual connection you desire. Links Mentioned: Find more from Dr. Emily Nagoski at EmilyNagoski.com and sign up for her newsletter! Books: Come As You Are, Burnout, and Come Together 💖 Bring Your Desire back with my Sensuall Self-Discovery Journal—a sacred space where you can embark on a journey of self-exploration, self-love, and embracing your sensuality. In this journal, we will delve deep into the beautiful tapestry of your desires, senses, and the unique expression of your sensual self. Get It HERE!

Ever find yourself in a cycle of nitpicking and low-grade arguments with your partner? You're not alone. In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, Amanda Testa shares why couples fall into the bickering trap—and how to break free. With real-life stories, expert insights, and somatic wisdom, you'll learn: ✨ The nervous system's role in repetitive arguments ✨ How to interrupt the "fight loop" with one powerful tool ✨ Ways to reframe conflict into connection ✨ A script for approaching hard conversations with love ✨ How to rebuild emotional safety and intimacy—step by step 🎧 Listen now and learn how to shift from irritation to intimacy. Send Amanda a direct message on Instagram (@abtesta) with the word Bicker for a free resource of common phrases you can use to help stop the bickering. 💖Bring Your Desire back with my Sensual Self-Discovery Journal—a sacred space where you can embark on a journey of self-exploration, self-love, and embracing your sensuality. In this journal, we will delve deep into the beautiful tapestry of your desires, senses, and the unique expression of your sensual self. Get It HERE!

What if there's nothing wrong with loving how you look—and everything wrong with a culture that shames you for it? In this fiery and empowering episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I sit down with feminist author, speaker, and expert witness Leora Tanenbaum to unpack the truth behind slut shaming, sexual self-expression, and how we can raise the next generation with more freedom and less fear. Leora's new book, Sexy Selfie Nation, is a bold call to stop blaming women and girls for the culture that sexualizes and punishes them. It's time to stand up for autonomy, joy, and unapologetic expression. ✨ What nonconsensual sexualization is—and how it affects girls and women ✨ How slut shaming has evolved (and gotten worse) in the digital age ✨ Why it's misguided to blame girls for their selfies or outfits ✨ How to talk to your kids about bodily autonomy without shame ✨ The joy, power, and politics of self-expression online 🎧 Listen now and explore what it means to truly own your image—and your voice. Hosted by Amanda Testa, sex, love, and relationship coach for women ready to reclaim their feminine fire. Learn more about Leora and her new book at leoratanenbaum.com 💖 Want personalized, confidential 1-1 support? Book a private coaching session → www.amandatesta.com/apply

What if betrayal didn't have to be the end of your relationship? In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I sit down with therapist and bestselling author Dr. Monique Thompson to talk about what it really takes to rebuild emotional safety and connection after trust has been broken. Whether you're recovering from infidelity, navigating emotional betrayal, or just feeling distant in your relationship, Dr. Monique's insights are incredibly powerful. With over two decades of experience walking couples through the fire and into deeper love, she shares the truth about what healing requires—and what makes it possible. ✨ What authentic consent really looks like (and why it's often missing) ✨ How to tell the difference between trauma and betrayal ✨ The key mindset shift that makes healing possible ✨ Why "bad sex" might be the bridge back to connection ✨ What to do if your partner doesn't want to work on the relationship Dr. Monique shares wisdom, compassion, and real talk on what healing can look like—without sugarcoating the process. This one is so powerful. Learn more about Dr. Monique Thompson and her work at doctormoniquethompson.com Listen now and learn what it takes to rebuild. 💖 Want personalized, confidential 1-1 support? Book a private coaching session → www.amandatesta.com/apply

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by all the advice about what you "should" be doing to keep your relationship hot and healthy as you age, you're not alone. In this fiery and refreshingly real episode, Amanda Testa shares why you actually can "half-ass" your way into better intimacy—and why tiny, consistent shifts often create far more connection than trying to Type-A your way into a perfect sex life. Amanda dives into the unrealistic pressures midlife women face (hello, anti-aging ads everywhere!), why perfectionism is the death of turn-on, and how to start rebuilding emotional and erotic connection even when resentment, busyness, and awkwardness have taken over. Because when love is still there? You don't need to blow up your relationship. You just need a new approach—one that's imperfect, real, and doable right now. Tune in to this episode, and you'll discover: Why you can't "Type A" your way to better sex (and what actually works instead) How to make micro-shifts that heal resentment and reignite intimacy A simple mindset shift that instantly improves the emotional atmosphere in your relationship How to use easy non cheesy connection rituals to bring warmth, playfulness, and touch back into your daily life Why giving yourself permission for awkward, messy, imperfect sex can be the gateway to true reconnection The power of celebrating small wins instead of fixating on what's missing If you're ready to: Feel closer to your partner again (without needing a 10-day retreat to Italy) Rekindle your sexual confidence (even if it's been a while) And finally feel like you're BOTH feet in (instead of one foot out emotionally)... Then this episode is the reminder you've been waiting for. You don't have to be perfect to create magic. You just have to be willing. Ready to feel alive, connected, and deeply turned on again? Let's explore what's possible together. Book your complimentary call here.

In this week's pod we are diving into a topic that so many of my listeners are navigating right now—what happens to your relationship after the kids leave the house? If you've been feeling like your partner is more like a roommate than a lover lately… if there's emotional distance, low desire, or just a lack of spark… This episode is your invitation to shift from empty nest mode into a full-blown LOVE-FEST. 🔥 I'll be walking you through the 3 powerful phases of reconnection in midlife: Emotional, Energetic, and Erotic. These are the layers that bring your relationship back to life—not through pressure or performance—but through presence, curiosity, and sacred intimacy. ❤️ Who This Episode Is For: The woman who feels lonely in her marriage but doesn't want to leave The couple who is "fine" but longs for more Anyone in the empty nest or midlife transition seeking reconnection, not reinvention Those who've forgotten how to play, flirt, or feel alive in partnership Enjoy. 💖 Want personalized, confidential 1-1 support? Book a private coaching session → www.amandatesta.com/apply

Do you ever feel like you have it all together—until life throws a curveball and suddenly, an unexpected part of you takes over? Maybe it's the part that gets overwhelmed, lashes out, or shrinks down. What if instead of fighting these parts of yourself, you could work with them, integrate them, and reclaim your full power? In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Brittany Hopkins Switlick, a seasoned yoga teacher, author, and personal development coach, to talk about her journey of self-reclamation, embodiment, and the transformative power of parts work. Brittany's new book, Dancing With Our Selves, is a roadmap to self-awareness and intentional living, blending yoga, mindfulness, and more to help you navigate your inner world with more ease and self-compassion. We dive into: ✨Why so many women feel disconnected from their bodies and desires—and how to shift back into alignment ✨The surprising way naming your inner parts (hello, Brandi) can transform your relationships and self-trust ✨How yoga and meditation can help you break free from old patterns and show up fully in your life ✨The role of self-compassion in healing and growth—and how to stop abandoning yourself ✨A simple yet powerful practice to shift from reaction to empowerment in any moment Listen now and learn how to dance with all parts of yourself—so you can reclaim your fire, your freedom, and your fullest self. Follow Brittany: @brittany.hopkins.switlick Get Your Free Sensuality Activation HERE! 👉 Love this episode? Leave a review & share it with a friend who needs to hear this!

Do you struggle to talk to your partner about sex without feeling awkward or afraid of rejection? You're not alone. Even the most confident, high-achieving women can freeze up when it comes to expressing their desires. In this episode of Find Your Feminine Fire, I'm sharing practical tools and word-for-word scripts to help you navigate these conversations with confidence, clarity, and ease—without making your partner defensive or shutting down. You'll discover: 🔥 How to bring up intimacy in a way that feels natural and inviting 🔥 Why nervous system regulation is key to sexual communication 🔥 The biggest mistakes we make when discussing sex—and how to avoid them 🔥 Playful, low-pressure ways to make intimacy talks fun and ongoing Your pleasure matters, and open communication is the key to deeper connection. Tune in and start transforming your relationship today! 💖 Want personalized, confidential 1-1 support? Book a private coaching session → www.amandatesta.com/apply

Are you a high-achieving woman who feels like you're hustling hard but still feeling drained? Maybe you're crushing it in corporate, running your own business, or juggling life as a busy mom - but something still feels off? Today's episode is going to completely transform how you think about success, love, and making decisions. I'm sitting down with the incredible Allie Kuhland, a certified life coach and Human Design expert who went from burning out in tech to tripling her income while actually feeling better. (And yes, she did this while conquering 100-mile races and summiting some of the world's highest peaks!) We're diving deep into: • Why your decision-making style might be sabotaging your success • How to stop keeping score in your relationship and deepen intimacy • How your sacral center holds the key to unlocking pleasure • Why your partner's Human Design could be the secret to better communication • How to create wealth and success without burning out Plus, Allie shares vulnerable stories about how understanding her husband's Human Design transformed their marriage and parenting. If you're ready to stop forcing yourself to fit into someone else's blueprint and start living in alignment with your unique design, this episode is for you. Sign up here: to receive your complimentary Sensual Self Discovery Kit Journal, Self Love Meditation, and Activation Practice