Girls Can Tell Podcast

I’ve finally had it. This one’s a little different. Shirtless showdowns, pickleball pansies, Wimbledon-level tennis jags on a public court, scooter shits, absurdly loud cars, and industrial-strength playground blunts. Tune in for a completely reasonable and measured discussion. Obviously. If you’d rather see the video version, check it out here: https://youtu.be/U_4YlQPOqWg Or here: https://open.spotify.com/show/2DFGqBQLbCS6xvtSGBNGv1?si=A2hfflj2RJCcM3pYPp4Umw

She was smart, funny, attractive, and easy to talk to. Two days of genuine connection that felt like something real. And then she mentioned something which changes everything. This episode is about the information people strategically withhold in early dating, the specific details that would change everything for the other person if disclosed upfront. Some of it is serious. Some of it is ridiculous. All of it is real. Things that belong in your bio but somehow never make it there.

What would you do if a stranger on a dark empty street started telling you what you had for breakfast, your sister’s name, your favorite color, things they have no business knowing? That feeling is a version of something happening in dating right now. Someone already has a file on you before you’ve said a word. They’ve googled you, stalked your socials, or got the full briefing from a mutual friend. They know you, while you know nothing about them. This episode is about what that information gap actually does to connection, and why being known by a stranger is one of the strangest and most overlooked dynamics in modern dating.

Most people believe that jealousy indicates something is wrong with them, that secure, emotionally healthy individuals don’t experience it, and the goal is to move past it entirely. This episode argues the other side. Jealousy isn’t some character flaw, and dismissing it because someone convinced you that the feeling itself was the problem might be the most costly mistake you make in a relationship. This episode explains the two kinds of jealousy, and one of them is telling you something you should probably listen to. I call bullshit on people in open relationships, and discuss what it means when jealousy happens at inappropriate times, and how it can ruin your chances of dating. If you’re one of the 8.3 billion people on the planet who’ve ever been jealous, this one’s for your listening pleasure. Website: girlscantellpodcast.com Leave a voicemail, listen to all the episodes, and see all the videos

In this episode, I share the conversation that almost never happened: a rematch with a clear political filter that put me in the ‘no’ category. She pushed past it anyway, and what unfolded forced me to confront my own label-based shortcuts, like the flight attendant rule and almost swiping left on someone 20 miles away in Chicago’s brutal traffic. We explore the difference between healthy behavior filters and dangerous assumptions, the invisible cost of missed connections, and how to ask better questions before we decide who someone is.

You’re still on the apps. Still swiping and responding. But something shifted and you know it. The curiosity and patience is gone. You’re dismissing people in thirty seconds over things that don’t mean anything, and calling it standards. It’s burnout. And the problem with staying on the apps when you’re already this depleted is that something good could show up right now and you probably wouldn’t recognize it.